Yea try studying up on the female body. Generally it takes quite a while to be able to want and really enjoy sex again. I mean she pushed a 7 to 8 pound human out of her vagina. More often than not she would be desensitized and her hormones are probably out of whack as well. How long ago was it that she had the child?

Well one of our resident md's should be here shortly but for now I would have to guess its all the stress and such from the nurturing and such.

> Is there anything out there a girl can take to help her get horny......my girlfriend and i use to have sex two to three times a day then she had a baby and now she's never horny....its been over a year......i thought she'd get over it after acouple months but she hasnt

As Ducy stated, pregnancy changes a woman's chemistry quite a bit and it can and often does take a year or more before things return to their former state.

> she says she still loves sex once we get started but its hard for her to get horny......

Good for her. Good for you.

You can romance her. Learn about this extremely important aspect of love making. It isn't all about a woman having her man "jump her bones". Whereas a man can be up and "running" in a matter of minutes a woman loves and needs romance in order to start and rev up her engine.

One place to begin is to put the seed in her mind in the morning or the day before. Tease her with ideas of what may follow when you return from work.

Another thing you can do is to telephone her and chat very very briefly. The point of the call is to tell her how very much you love her, how beautiful she is, and what you expect to do with her later. No more.

In addition to the hormone imbalance is the extra burden an infant places on her energy and work load. Are you helping? If you are living together this mean in addition to caring for the child, helping out around the house, doing dishes, cleaning, washing clothes, etc., et cetera, etc.

Plan to give the infant to the care of a family member for the evening so the two of you can be alone. Take care of this for her. If it is impossible, then time your love making for shortly after the baby goes to bed. Draw a warm bath and plan a good soak for the two of you to chat and relax. Once done, shower and lead her off to the bedroom. This is best accomplished if you have a bathtub; if not, a shower will do.

Make romance and cuddling your priority--not sex. Let this happen if it does as a natural progression to having a good and long make out session first and foremost. Please read the articles listed in the Index that deal with kissing, and making out, and, making love. There are several that cover different aspects of it. I understand how she may not be ready to initiate, yet you have stated she enjoys making love once the proceedings are under way. Well, one way to whet her appetite is to do these things.