Here is a question that you must know the answer to: Does she masturbate and can she acheive orgasms as a result? The question is critical because she must be able to experience climaxes on her own before ever expecting to with someone elses hand. Each one of us must (learn to) "connect the dots" or actually the pathways between all of the sensual nerve endings in the genitals and elswhere with the pleasure center of the brain via the autononomic nervous system. Boys do this innately right out of puberty while many girls often either do not or do so much later in life. Therefore, if she has yet to make this transition from being preorgasmic to orgasmic then she must learn. That's the long and the sort of it.

If she has made the transmutation and can regularly and consistently experience orgasms at her own hand, then she should be ready, willing, and able, to have them when someone else performs the stimulation. Now, having said this, it is important to understand that most sexual positions do not readily contribute to a woman's being able to orgasm. The reason is that there is little or none of the ongoing constant friction required; therefore, what most guys do is to reach around and finger her while stroking and thrusting. You can also help her achieve an orgasm before intercourse and/or after if it is her desire. Please keep in mind that each of us is responsible for our own orgasms, we do not give them away. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve hers/his.

In order to best accomplish this, I recommend that each of you demonstrate how you masturbate so that each of you can observe the mechanics involved. Secondly, take each other's hand in yours and guide it several times until you both learn to mimic the movements, rhythms, and pressures that each of you has come to rely upon to build a climax and then trigger the orgasm.

We all know the basic mechanics of stroking a penis and fingering a clitoris; howver, over time, each of us further develops a "fine art" to this that is unique and specific to each person. It is this fine art that must be taught to each other. Why? Because if we are off the mark even a little, either the orgasm will be less than desired, or, simply not happen at all.

> she says she can only feel it in short burst but never actually climaxes so...

It is unclear to me what you mean by this. One thing that might possibly be going on that is quite common is that the clitoris becomes over sensitized and cannot be touched after a period of direct stimulation. If and when this happens, the solution is to 1) cover it with the inner labia and stimulate it indirectly through them, or 2) switch to fingering the shaft of the clitoris and/or the adjacent areas like the large and small lips, vaginal opening (outside) and environs.

Got questions? Feel free to ask. I hope this is of help.

Once again, 25% of all women never experience orgasm. 50% do not reach orgasm through penile thrusting. Only 24% of us regularly achieve orgasm through what would be called "normal sex."

Of the first 25% who never achieve orgasm, some choose to do something about it and some just lean back and assume it is out of their reach. Doc is quite correct that masturbation is where it begins. Should your g/f choose to work on it, good for her. If not, there is nothing you can do to make it happen.

she wont let u preform oral on her maybe she is scared her scent or taste will put u off. try talking too her about it and how u want to taste her and how it does it for u and how she will love it. if she is nervous about the smell take a bath/shower together and wash the other there is also the mint trick put a mint on your tounge while going down on her
it gives a tingly sensation