my girlfriend is coming down to visit sometime in the next few weeks (or at least it's in the books as a possibility), and i'd like to stay in the same room as her here at home while she's here. the thing is, my parents really don't find that acceptable, or at least have in the past when she's been over. keeping in mind that my girlfriend and i are both about to be sophomores in college, what can i tell my mom to convince her to let us stay in the same room (a room with only one bed). should i just let her know that i stayed in my girlfriend's room when i visited her? or should i break it to her that her oldest son is no longer a pure hearted virgin? or any other ideas? and also when and how should i go about breaking it to them that i'm sexually active with my girlfriend?
I know that it might seem odd that i'd ask this as a sophomore in college...it would generally already be assumed that a year long relationship at my age will involve sex. but i don't think she knows or at least believes yet that her little baby has "grown up"
It's worth asking - but dont get down if they disagree with you. It's their house, they say what they want and dont want in there.
I'm with demonbuttercup. we'd lived together for ages & i was even living with my man & his parents for a while too. But the rules were - separate bedrooms!
It's a full respect thing. The last thing they want to know is that their child is having sex in another room - i know just thinking about it in reverse grosses me out!!! Imagine how they feel.
Keep it the way they like it. There's always wee hours of the morning or very late at night where you can do the little sneak out/sneak in procedures - just dont get caught and be wary of your parents sleeping habits!
Makes sex a bit more exciting, too, if you ask me
my experience with that a few years ago is that yes it will be weird, but if u really dont see the person often, think of it as being worth it.
but for me it basically came down to listen im old enough to work and take care of myself, despite living in ur home, please let me see this person bla bla...
really was ackward tho!.... but if u really think u want to be with this person, not just physicall, may be worth the trouble...
the thing is i haven't actually asked if i could stay in the same room yet. the last couple of times i haven't bothered asking, because i've felt they'd start asking questions. and i didn't really want to answer those possible questions. now i could kinda care less. and about being in separate beds, i'm in my own bed every night. on the rare occasions over the summer when i do get to see my girlfriend i really don't want to spend those nights alone as well.
just go along w/ your parents.
i recently went to visit my parents in another state and my b/f came along for the first time.
my b/f and i have lived together for 3 years, but when at my mom's house... we stayed in separate rooms.
just out of respect for her and her wishes.
it wasn't that big of a deal. i kind of enjoyed having a bed to myself for a change..lol.
I would agree with what buttercup has to say. It is your parents place is it not? They do make the rules and unless you are paying them rent, then you really have no right to say what is going to happen in their house . I would just honestly suck it up and go with their wishes. They may not know much about her and are just throwing out rules..Once they meet her, things might change. You never know what is going to happen.