Hey, I was wondering everyone's opinion about sex in highschool. I feel sex is ok if the two people truely love each other but I also keep hearing such things that sex is bad unless you are older or married. So feel free to post your views.
Mon, 09/17/2007 - 00:53
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Is Teenage Sex Bad???
If both people involved are educated about proper birth control, about risks, and ready to assume responsible interactions...I have no issue with it. Date many, have fun while you can, and be safe.
sex is physical as much as emotional. it is ok if you are truely ready to be with that person. they are going to be your "first" for the rest of your life. you have deal with the fact that you slept with them. do it only if you are not going to regret it. make it about love, not just a way to orgasm.
Sex is good...its healthy....and its a hell of a lot of fun if your comfortable with the person...hotfire has it right...you have to deal with the person being your first forever.
I believe your first should be out of love....the rest should be with whoever you want...as long as your safe and smart (no unprotected unless LTR or fwb and you know they're clean)
At ANY age: sex is good; sex with affection is Great!; sex with love = AWESOME! No you do not have to be "in love" to wild awesome sex but you do have to give a damn about your partner.
Only incompetent and irresponsible sex is bad.
Just to take what Ducy mentioned one step further is this:
> (no unprotected unless LTR or fwb and you know they're clean)
No unprotected sex unless both of you are prepared to be a parent and can raise and support this new life; and, have the course of your lives changed forever. The alternative, of course, is adoption.
I'm afraid I may become somewhat unpopular, but...I don't believe that sex is always good, or healthy. I 'misused' sex when I was at school and it had quite significant negative psychological affects. Now I'm a teacher I see the same thing happening to several of my students.
If you love someone and feel comfortable and emotionally and physically ready for it, sex is likely to be a positive experience. If you have ANY doubts, save it for later!
You 'mis-used' sex?
As a weapon to hurt another's feelings? As a tool of manipulation?
Then SHAME ON YOU!
But that doesn't mean sex is bad - just that YOU were.
this has already been lengthly discussed before and the conclusions were firstly it dep[ends on the persons in question and to be perfectly logical unless the pair are capable of raising a child (no they're not are they) it's not a good idea but of course there are exceptions so basically it at the persons discresions its not a thing you can make rules over
It's not age, it's how MATURE you are. Some are mature enough and can understand consequencies and be respnsible at the age of 15, others are immature at the age of 25.
Yes, EEK, I do feel a lot of shame. That is no one the significant negative psychological affects I mentioned above, although a lot of the 'misuse' of sex I mentioned was ultimately more hurtful to myself than to other people. I was around 16 at the time.
Sex as a physical act is probably fairly neutral (or perhaps good). But sex is not just a physical act. In my experience a lot of (young) people don't realise that and end up having very negative experiences. Sex can become a shameful, painful act. They can judge themselves very harshly and be judged by others. Threads in this forum prove that while sex may be 'good', emotions can result in it becoming a real source of confusion, disappointment, shame, regret, judgement...
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;193618]Just to take what Ducy mentioned one step further is this:
> (no unprotected unless LTR or fwb and you know they're clean)
No unprotected sex unless both of you are prepared to be a parent and can raise and support this new life; and, have the course of your lives changed forever. The alternative, of course, is adoption.[/QUOTE]
Right doc...wasnt thinking about going into too much detail for whatever reason i thought people would know i meant people would be using BC, I mean thats the only way i think of unprotected sex (outside of marriage of course)
Yes, pixie, the inability to separate the physical act with emotional involvement can and does cause difficulties. The main issue is we teach "you have to truly love" in order to enjoy sex. Now if we just told people the truth...perhaps things would improve.
my opinion is that if they are both ready to have sex than it dont matter how old they are. obvi by that i dont mean a 40yo and a 13yo but if they are of similar ages and ready than i feel they should be allowed to have sex.
the whole 'be in love to have sex' thing is in my opinion over-rated. granted there is an emotional attatchment that can enhance the pleasure but its pretty good w.out it lol. anyways ctch ya all l8rs