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should teenagers have sex?

If they choose to!!!!!! It is the individuals decision, but at a reasonable age where they are totally aware of their feelings and consequences. I lost my virginity at 12 years old then I did not have sex again until I was 15. I was more aware of my feelings at this age and enjoyed sex with my long term partner. I was mature at this age and think many teenagers are these days.

yeah

i am and i think we should as long as we no what were doing.

yes the faster the beter

as long as some sort of birth control is used, if a teen under the age of 16 gets pregnant then i think an abortion should be manditory...

usin this as an example, an 11y/o gal in scotland became pregnant, she should never have been allowed to give birth as she would be un able to support a child.

little_me
I am not opposed to abortion, but MANDATORY??? I can't imagine forcing anyone IN EITHER DIRECTION on that issue. Recomended, perhaps. But never forced. There are many able and willing potential parents on waiting lists to adopt healthy infants. Abortion should be a choice!

In reply to actual topic: Sex is a personal decision, with many unique factors involved that an outsider can hardly comprehend without hours of soul sharing. Whether teens 'should' or 'should not' have sex is just as complex and individual as most personal decisions. In other words, it's different for everyone! Different teens have different levels of maturity, different reasons for what they are doing or not doing, etc, and all of those have to be respected. I do think that sex is a sacred, loving act, and a decision that should not be made lightly or in uncertainty, but that is true for adults as well.

[QUOTE=hyper2;156123]should teenagers have sex?[/QUOTE]

The more salient question would be, "Why should they not have sex?"

[QUOTE=Caitlain;156859]The more salient question would be, "Why should they not have sex?"[/QUOTE]

Some are very immature...

[QUOTE=Narhethi;157242]Some are very immature...[/QUOTE]

So what? Many "adults" are immature as well.

Let's assume, for the sake of this discussion, we're talking about those who are "mature." K? :rolleyes:

i say if they are responsible then its fine

In other words what i said :)

Noone should have sex until they are able to handle and be responsible with consequences of doing it.

i am 16 and have been active for a lil while, i know roughly what i am doing, and i am always very careful. So far my partners have also been very responsable. Even my current boyfriend who is slightly younger than I, who has brought up the subject, made it clear that nothing can happen between us unless we are very careful. Being a teen i can say, maybe it is a good thing, maybe it isnt, if our first sexual experience as a teenager is bad, then it does mess you up for a long time...but if not then it is something amazing...same as it is for an adult i guess...as some have already said, it depends on the person i think..IN MY OPINION i see nothing wrong with teens having sex, as long as they do accept any possible consequences.

it depends on the teen in question

[QUOTE=Paraclaisian;156823]little_me
I am not opposed to abortion, but MANDATORY??? I can't imagine forcing anyone IN EITHER DIRECTION on that issue. Recomended, perhaps. But never forced. There are many able and willing potential parents on waiting lists to adopt healthy infants. Abortion should be a choice!

In reply to actual topic: Sex is a personal decision, with many unique factors involved that an outsider can hardly comprehend without hours of soul sharing. Whether teens 'should' or 'should not' have sex is just as complex and individual as most personal decisions. In other words, it's different for everyone! Different teens have different levels of maturity, different reasons for what they are doing or not doing, etc, and all of those have to be respected. I do think that sex is a sacred, loving act, and a decision that should not be made lightly or in uncertainty, but that is true for adults as well.[/QUOTE]

very well said. teens all have different levels of maturity, and even the most mature teenager in the world gets horny sometimes. for such an important decision, it can usually wait until you're 18. if the relationship doesn't last that long, then YA SHOULDN'T BE HAVIN SEX WITH HIM!

Teens should be allowed to have sex. This is not to say that they are going to regret it later. I am 22 now and I started experimenting when I was 13. I regret just about everything I did.

umm this isnt about this but ..when i finger myself i like start to pee? is it normal ?:S

normal?

umm this isnt about this but ..when i finger myself i like start to pee? is it normal ?:confused:

i think 15-16 is appropriate anything less is wrong,
your techinically still a child, and you havent fully undergone your puberty and hormones..

it just seems like they think there are all grown up yet they're far from it

to start with this should be in a new thread if you could be squirting or if you mean you feel like you are going to pee then it is a false signal look at the stiky at the top of the new to sex section by Dancingdoc2

well, i think we shuld do w.e we want, because if we make a mistake, we have to pay the consequnces.

plus, im a teenager and im gonna have sex, i feel im ready for it, and i think what i do and if i have sex is noone else's buissness.

Some have more maturity than adults, the age of consent is generally implied by adults having sex with children, if it is with 2 ppl of the same or similar ages, like only a year between tops, it isnt used by the law.

should teens have sex? no, because they don't have the ability to financially support a child, and according to many studies, many often shirk their birth control methods due to bad education.

can you stop teen from having sex? no, that's stupid, teach them about birth control.

They should only have sex when they are ready for it emotionally, and certainly not if they are below the age of consent.

In the US, NYS, the age of consent is 18. If an underage girl is caught w/a guy it's statutory rape, her parents (or police) press charges, and he is registered for life as a (low level) sex offender. Beyond the STD, pregnancy, and emotional issues; the law takes a firm stand and creates a new set of issues. Does it in fact happen? YES it does!

hahahah i would LOVE to see someone trying to stop teens having sex! it's impossible!

[QUOTE=osundayo;163609]well, i think we shuld do w.e we want, because if we make a mistake, we have to pay the consequnces.

plus, im a teenager and im gonna have sex, i feel im ready for it, and i think what i do and if i have sex is noone else's buissness.[/QUOTE]

and just how would you pay ? I am sure your parents will also be greatly inconvenienced.

teens having sex will always go on so it would be a good idea to start educating them not the bush way though

[QUOTE=sexybigothchick;163587]should teens have sex? no, because they don't have the ability to financially support a child, and according to many studies, many often shirk their birth control methods due to bad education.

can you stop teen from having sex? no, that's stupid, teach them about birth control.[/QUOTE]

sex=/=procreation

i think that if they want to and they know what they are doing and have protection...then ithink it is alright

i think you should only have sex if you are really sure that you want and that you'r ready to have sex.

if they are physically and emotionally ready, why not? there can be teens that are ready at 15 and adults who still aren't ready at 25. it just depends on maturity levels and when they feel ready.
it wouldnt be right to be with the right person as a teenager, both feel completely ready and not be able to have sex. if we go as far as banning teens to have sex, why not ban relationships all together?
or ban all contact with the opposite sex.
no, scratch that, all contact with the same sex also in some cases! haha

[quote=sburcs;175639]if they are physically and emotionally ready, why not? there can be teens that are ready at 15 and adults who still aren't ready at 25. it just depends on maturity levels and when they feel ready.
it wouldnt be right to be with the right person as a teenager, both feel completely ready and not be able to have sex. if we go as far as banning teens to have sex, why not ban relationships all together?
or ban all contact with the opposite sex.
no, scratch that, all contact with the same sex also in some cases! haha[/quote]

When an individual is capable of dealing (emotionally and financially) with their decisions and consequences, it's a different picture. Given the lack of sexual knowledge, STD prevention, and pregnancy risks/prevention; I am seeing less reasons that sex should occur in children. When you can vote and when you can drive, perhaps it shows nearing adulthood. When someone is able and capable to drop out of school and assume a full time job and raise a child, then they understand the risks associated with their actions. And yes, a 15 year old is a young adult but they are still a child. In fact a 15 year old cannot consent to sex--they are incapable.

As I said before, the "do as I wish attitude" demonstrates immaturity and a lack of understanding. This is the very reason adults make the laws. If understanding one's actions was demonstrated then public/societal perception would change. Here in the US, they had to change the drinking age since lack of good judgement was not being demonstrated. This means each time when society shows poor judgement, the rules & laws get tighter.

As far as banning other interactions--one can be held accountable for the damage they do--holding hands. It's hard to force a 15 year old to drop out of 9th-10th grade and start working full-time in the grocery store to pay the court mandated child support. Laws govern child labor; it's called this for a reason.

One point, some of the recent views on this site regarding this topic has swung me from thinking it is okay, to seeing the true lack of capacity.

lets face it the majority of teens are not ready and that is that in fact I think it gets worse as we go on. I think the maturity for being a responsible person and capable of sex in a responsible way is not just about sex but the person as a whole, how many teens do work say in their holidays how many live their lives in general responsibly in all senses I don't see that many, life is made ever more easier. for example at young age my father taught me to help around the house washing up after dinner mainly, it was agreed that if I helped around the house I would get my pocket money, however even though a child I was just slightly smart and thought well there are no specific rules so if I just help now and then rather than all the time I will still get my pocket money, no sir seeing this attitude my dad said ok that be the case I will give you your pocket money in proportion to the amount of help you give me in the house, result ? I worked harder and knew deep down that this was the right way to go about it. How many children today get taught to be responsible for themselves as a general rule in life, no most children nowadays get pampered and fed toys and never given any trouble for helping around the house or doing their best at school with the understanding that a good education is neccesary to get a good job, so sex becomes the ultimate game, just another pass time like all the other toys thinking there will always be mummy and daddy there to put it all right later, I'm afraid it don't work like that, at 15 i could distinguish the different feelings I had, I knew any feeling was no love just lust and decided that was not enough to entertain serious thoughs on having sex. Now that I am older I am happy to be responsible and make guided descisions in choosing a partner, not just the girl in school with the biggest tits

im 15 never had sex but lets put it this way, if i get the chance and i want to, i am going to hop on it

should teens have sex..........yes its all about attraction

"If an underage girl is caught w/a guy it's statutory rape, her parents (or police) press charges, and he is registered for life as a (low level) sex offender."

So what happens if an underage guy is caught with a girl?

Regarding the topic, I'm not sure. I guess being 19 still technically makes me a teenager, so I'd say yes, teens should have sex if they feel ready. But I also remember that I thought this when I was 14 and don't feel I was any less mature about it then. It does differ from person to person though, as I know some twenty-somethings that would be much less capable of dealing with the consequences of sex than some of my younger friends. Age does not necessarily equate with wisdom and maturity, but that is not to say that all teenagers are mature and sensible!

Anna: Under age w/ other under age persons is "overlooked" and not the same as when a person reaches the age of majority (18). Then the statutory rape, lewd behavior, endangering the welfare of a minor comes into play.

And Young:

I have no real issue w/teens having sex with other teens but many fail to have a clear understanding of proper birth control, chances of pregnancy, and to act rationally when faced with a serious situation such as pregnancy or STD's. I swear if one more person questions "Am I pregnant" I am going to scream. Not because I mind answering and clarifying issues or dispelling myths but many lack the concept behind how children are conceived or what behaviors they are engaging in thinking they are defying the risk.

When one can demonstrate adequate knowledge of how to protect themselves and their partner, fine have at it & go to town. But random acts out of passion or b/c it is "fun" kills me! Additionally, having sex has to be something you are emotionally ready for since our bodies & hormones are ready much before we are mentally ready. Too many act on impulse rather then logic.

How is a teen (or many of older ages) prepared to deal with an accidental pregnancy? Have the child and raise it or place it up for adoption? Or terminate the pregnancy? Lack of knowledge does negate one's responsibility. Too often I have done emergency child births with the words being muttered "I did not know I was pregnant" when in fact they were not ready to accept and take ownership of the fact they knew they were pregnant but chose to ignore it.

[QUOTE=sera300;176976]Anna: Under age w/ other under age persons is "overlooked" and not the same as when a person reaches the age of majority (18). Then the statutory rape, lewd behavior, endangering the welfare of a minor comes into play.

And Young:

I have no real issue w/teens having sex with other teens but many fail to have a clear understanding of proper birth control, chances of pregnancy, and to act rationally when faced with a serious situation such as pregnancy or STD's. I swear if one more person questions "Am I pregnant" I am going to scream. Not because I mind answering and clarifying issues or dispelling myths but many lack the concept behind how children are conceived or what behaviors they are engaging in thinking they are defying the risk.

When one can demonstrate adequate knowledge of how to protect themselves and their partner, fine have at it & go to town. But random acts out of passion or b/c it is "fun" kills me! Additionally, having sex has to be something you are emotionally ready for since our bodies & hormones are ready much before we are mentally ready. Too many act on impulse rather then logic.

How is a teen (or many of older ages) prepared to deal with an accidental pregnancy? Have the child and raise it or place it up for adoption? Or terminate the pregnancy? Lack of knowledge does negate one's responsibility. Too often I have done emergency child births with the words being muttered "I did not know I was pregnant" when in fact they were not ready to accept and take ownership of the fact they knew they were pregnant but chose to ignore it.[/QUOTE]

very well said we only have to look at the many "am I pregnant" posts often made in the wrong place (very immature) to start to realize just how responsable teens are, I still haven't forgotten the stiky in which a girls asks how many holes she has........