Ive never done nehting more than give my guy a handjob. But that is only because im not ready to do nething else because it will be my first time. and well, im nervous haha. You all say, communication is important. and I am comfortable with him, but i feel embarressed and scared to ask him what he likes. :o or if im doing a good job. When i do give him a handjob i think he likes it cuz he has said if it feels good, and he moves his pelvis. like his lower body moves with what im doing kind of. and his face expressions seem to say hes liken it... haha and i read somewhere that it means he likes it. But i guess i need to know that guys... when you were first starting to get handjobs or nething else, when a girl asked you how u liked it, or, if wat she was doing felt good. did that weird you out, or did it embarress you at all? like were u not comfortable with it. and when i am givin him a HJ how can u hurt him? cuz i dont want to. and im always afraid im going to haha. thanks, its much appreciated!:) peace~
Tue, 01/24/2006 - 04:58
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Talking to him about what he likes
I think you are completely fine with asking, I would actually find it arousing (helps with the intimacy and communication). Back me up on this one guys, but I am pretty sure you can get away with saying anything as long as its in a sexy voice :D
As for hurting him, as long as you dont squeeze too hard any kind of contact down there feels good!
Well gratefullydreaded,
First of all, if you study the section on this site in Pleasing Him - Hand Jobs, you will definately know what to do and he will most definately love it. Men are rather simple creatures and pleasing them does not take a rocket scientist to figure out.
I think the real thing issue here is that you might have an attraction to dirty talking during the deed, and that is why you feel so ashamed about it. By him telling you how he likes it will obviously do more for your arousal than for his pleasure. Luckely there is nothing wrong with that and you should just go ahead and ask him. Remember, he is in more of a situation than you are and he will most definately respond to you like you would want him to.
Lastly, just remember, men can become very soft and co-operative when they are sexually pleased, so you do have the upper hand.