Ok so here's the issue: Im in a new relationship and he tells me that he really enjoys hearing dirty talk in the bedroom. Problem is I've never done this before. Now here I am, someone who for the most part is pretty open to try new things, but for the life of me i feel like the biggest dumbass in the world when i actually try it. Does anyone have any ideas how i can get over this? any interesting stories on how you started? god, any help at all??
thanx!!
Go rent a porno movie...learn the language...just skip all the screaming.
You start small and work your way up untill you feel good enough going crazy.
At first, you whisper in his ear stuff like: "I like that, baby" or "That's so good" or, very simply, just say "Uh", "Yes", "Oh, God" ect.
When you're confortable doing this, try saying it not in a low voice in his ear, but a little louder to his face while looking him in the eyes.
Slowly, you will get used to the idea. Then you can begin saying other things like: "You feel so big" or "That so nice".
It's a process - I know because I went through it. But if you just take it step by step, you'll learn to voice your feelings and one day you'll find yourself addicted.
A friend of mine started out by standing in front of the mirror and saying these things. She laughed SO much at first, but got over it.
"Then you can begin saying other things like: "You feel so big" or "That so nice"."
Funny, my girlfriend is latina.. she started saying that basically first... and supposedly I was her first guy... I guess some are less shy about that as fast... idk.
[QUOTE=Kbests2003;177597]"Then you can begin saying other things like: "You feel so big" or "That so nice"."
Funny, my girlfriend is latina.. she started saying that basically first... and supposedly I was her first guy... I guess some are less shy about that as fast... idk.[/QUOTE]
To some it comes more naturally than others. :cool:
I'm not that great at talking dirty either, the funny thing is I love when I guy does it to me. But I've gotten more comfortable with, I just started small like him asking yes or no questions, "Does that feel good", "Do you want me to stop"...etc. Then I moved on to telling him what I wanted him to do and how it felt. Once your in the mood it gets a whole lot easier!
i'm not great at talking dirty either. i feel like an idiot when i do it. but i'm better than i was - i found that i couldn't say anything to cheesey because i just giggled!! but it gets easier and what i really really like is when i see my bloke enjoy what i'm saying :)
[QUOTE=Orow;177582]"I like that, baby"
"That's so good"
"Uh"
"Yes"
"Oh, God"
"You feel so big"
"That so nice"[/quote]
Um ... is that what people consider "talking dirty"?
Don't get me wrong here -- personally, I'm not really that into women talking dirty -- but I'm pretty sure I've had people talk that dirty to me while we were playing tennis.
clicked on this tread hoping to get a bit of help in that department too but I guess I talk pretty dirty comparitively speaking :). It's really not what u say, the purpose of dirty talk is so that your man knows that u want him and the easiest way to do that is to tell him that he pleases you and what you want. Pant a little bit and be specific. Every time he does something right moan and tell him you liked it. And if he isn't hitting the spot ask for something. You don't have to be a dirty whore but telling your man that you can't wait to **** him will get most men very excited. Also my man would be insulted if I said something he did was "nice" try words like fantastic, amazing...and especially if you are shy a curse word or 2 is appropriate because this isn't a tennis match.
Considering what I've heard in sex, I wouldn't say that is dirty talk. Basically dirty talk is a factor of intimacy. You can say many more things if you know (women) that men won't consider you something else outside 4 walls. That's the risk. Only do that when you have someone who you are VERY intimate with.
And soon you will be hearing yourself saying: "Come on baby stick it in me!" or thereabouts :D
Yeah I was never good at dirty talk either... my b/f likes it, but I am usually too shy... and I blush if he says stuff to me... doesn't really turn me on. I'm not much for talking in the bedroom lol.
About the most my b/f says is stuff like... I want to F you or your p*ssy feels so good.. something to that effect. I usually reply w/, you feel good too :P. I mean how do you respond? Oh thanks! lol
The extent of mine is alerting that I am getting close.. or say I am about to cum, lol.... but to get him to go fast and finish me off... I usually have to say F*ck me baby!!!
That's the dirtiest thing I say lol.
I mean some people really enjoy it.. and other.. it's a big turn OFF!
Just know the boundaries..which probably apply more for the guy to the girl. Some girls might enjoy being called a cum sucking whore..but some might get really offended!! LMAO
[QUOTE=Kbests2003;177597]"Then you can begin saying other things like: "You feel so big" or "That so nice"."
Funny, my girlfriend is latina.. she started saying that basically first... and supposedly I was her first guy... I guess some are less shy about that as fast... idk.[/QUOTE]
I wouldn't worry about you really being your girl's first based on that. I'm a virgin but I enjoy a little phone sex now and then and guys say that I know how to talk dirty.
Dirty talk can be anything and everything as many have said. My wife and I got her more comfortable with talking through mutual masturbation. I laid the path by telling her first things like how sexy she looked, what a turn on it was to watch her and how hard my dick was in my hand as I watched her. Then I had her do the same.
By far the hottest thing that anyone has ever said to me was during a one night stand type of hook up. We were having sex doggy-style when she turned and looked at me and moaned "F*ck your p*ssy daddy"...I pretty much exploded instantly.
[QUOTE=NizeGie;177694]Um ... is that what people consider "talking dirty"?
Don't get me wrong here -- personally, I'm not really that into women talking dirty -- but I'm pretty sure I've had people talk that dirty to me while we were playing tennis.[/QUOTE]
It never sounds sexy when it's written.
Or perhaps the guy wants her to swear and sound like a porn star?
That's ... weird. I find it a little odd. Why not be elegant and sexy, indstead of vulgar?
Personally I think dirty talk can't be forced or it will sound (and make u feel) stupid. you need to say it when you are feeling it! When I get really into it and hot I will be like "oh! F* me harder" etc and it totally turns both of us on... my guy is into it too he will say stuff like "how do u want me to F* u" and if respond with something like "F*me from behind baby" it makes him about to cum right then and there.. it doesnt have to be anything super intense but anything to make you even more turned on is great. The most common one with us is he will ask "where do you want my cum" and I usually either say (depending on my mood) all over me! or in my mouth and that just helps him "blow his load" even harder
mj2003 -
Yeah. But sometimes you have to push your limits just a little and give it a go, before you discover that you actually like it.
I thought it was a bit odd at first, but then I tried and now I LOVE it!
[QUOTE=Orow;177888]It never sounds sexy when it's written.
Or perhaps the guy wants her to swear and sound like a porn star?
That's ... weird. I find it a little odd. Why not be elegant and sexy, indstead of vulgar?[/QUOTE]
So true..it doesn't at all sounds sexy when it's written :p
I think not everyone would enjoy it i mean for girls..
The ones you guys using are the more vulgar and aggressive type :p I think there are also the romantic ones..hmm..but i can't still of any now..i'll come back to the thread when i remember some..hehehe..:o
well to see how far u can go start simple and push the limits. Obviously start with general moaning & heavy breathing. make baby steps. dirty talk 101. always keep them affirmative statements or "yes" statements: "oh yea/yes/mmmhmmm/uhuh" etc. the next thing you can do is describe or simply voice what hes doing combined with with the above affirmative statements. "oh yea, lick my pussy"/"mmm **** that pussy."/"yes that feels so good" Take these statements and turn them into affirmative questions: "do you like eating my pussy?"/"mmm does that feel good?". then incorporate swear words and screaming into those and your good to go. dirty talk 200 level: "im a dirty whore, **** me like a dirty little whore." 300 level is a little 2 advanced for these forums and you should proceed with extreme caution.
Whenever I say anything to her while were doing stuff (or once I tried talking dirty" she responds with "what?" LOL. I don't know if she actually can't hear me.. I think she's just like not comfortable with it.
I'd love to learn to talk real dirty. It is something so difficult for me even though I do not mind writing it! Which is strange, when I talk to my bf on msn or write emails, I can always say anything from "yes, I wish you to f*** me real hard" to "I want your big cock to f*** my ass, yes come there, feed my ass". When it comes to saying it loud, I get shy... I wonder why...:(
Laika, because you're not actually in a dangerous position. You are confortably at home talking dirty. But in the bedroom, eye to eye (so to speak) things may get out of hand as well :D just start with normal stuff and don't bother. Talking dirty normally happen when you're warmed up. I know that my wife say some things in the bedroom that she then forgot afterwards, and she was actually very surprised to have said them :) Just start low and let the temperature rise.
^ that is how I try, starting at low. But somehow there is a barrier for me to move up. I can say few sentences or phrazes, but not talk all the time. Well, that I a challenge for me and I am willing to try next time - to go over my own limits, so to say :D
Hottest thing ever said to me in bed - "Just shut up and let me f**k you!" and then every time I made any noise "shut up" (and I am usually pretty noisy) I don't know why but it was SO hot and the sex was amazing!!!
^^ That would be pretty hot.
OK...so I wrote that first line and decided to do some homework...turns out your a girl, but when I read your comment I assumed you were a guy and I easily correlated why it would be hot for a girl to say that to a guy. Anyways, I would like to know if this was very different from comments he typically made? And, would you have guessed that this would turn you on or were you surprised by it?
It's funny, cause I'm pretty shy... but I love dirty talk in bed. I love it when my boyfriend says his cock is all mine, and no-one elses, and that I can do what I want with it... and that he really wants to **** me and that I'm filthy and not the nice girl I pretend to be... and that I'm not allowed anyone else... he asks me if I want anyone else to **** me, or if it's just him... and he asks me how I feel when I come, and how he feels inside me... and sometimes I resist him just to tease him and he tells me to behave myself... god I love that!
He says he loves it whenever I swear, cause I don't outside the bedroom really... and when I tell him I think about him ****ing me when I'm at work, and how sometimes at night I touch myself thinking about him, and how he is completely amazing in bed. Saying that last thing makes him come instantly so I gotta be careful! We like talking about fantasies whilst having sex... like how I want him to tie me up, and he wants to have sex outside, & also in his car... and to film us... once you get into it, talking dirty is pretty easy!
Chino - Yes it's different. I was talking about the fact that our closet door was sticking because he had opened the door to grab the condoms. (Mid-painting the bedroom everything is in the closet and the mattress is on the floor) And I got distracted from sex by the sticking door. He is a very sweet and attentive lover and is usually only "rough" when I ask him to be. So the fact that he just told me to shut up was different. But I loved it and it surprised me a bit, yes.
Go ahead and be as "dirty" as you like - guys don't mind it. It helps, and guys like this, to comment on his "nice, hard cock" or "thick dick". Tell him how wet you're getting, how you need it inside you, how you want his hot, juicy cum on your (insert body part here). Don't overdo it - just let a few really nasty comments flow out once in a while.
[QUOTE=NizeGie;177694]Um ... is that what people consider "talking dirty"?
Don't get me wrong here -- personally, I'm not really that into women talking dirty -- but I'm pretty sure I've had people talk that dirty to me while we were playing tennis.[/QUOTE]
Very true! Good one my friend. ;)
Well my girlfriend loves talking dirty... but she pretty much does everything to me in the bed! I love speaking dirty to her also but its fun to just say " Lick my ass and dig for oil you dirty bitch! Or, Ride that Bond MagicWand hoe!, YOU LIKE THEM NUTZ IN UR ****ING MOUTH!, You like that 30inch cock in your pussy! O YES I KNOW YOU DO.... Thats how I talk with my girlfriend cuz I guess im so comfortable infront of her and she is a freak loll...
Just the other day my wife told me she wanted it in her hard and deep. It was surprising since she doesn't usually talk at all during sex. She is more a moaner. But it was a turn on for me to hear something like that. I would like it if she would do more of it. This is pretty tame for most people I suppose, but just because it was out of the ordinary and it sounded like she knew what she wanted was the cause of the turn-on.
Honestly, My hubby likes me telling him to F me and i love hearing him saying it back. We do say other things like "oh babe, i love the way you C*ck feels". etc.
I do say porn does help a lil. But i think i just go with how im feeling that moment.
[QUOTE=FearOfFalling;177838]I wouldn't worry about you really being your girl's first based on that. I'm a virgin but I enjoy a little phone sex now and then and guys say that I know how to talk dirty.[/QUOTE]
So talk dirty to us and give us some pointers! grrrrr..
Ohhhhhhhhh baby, your cock is HUGE (eyes widen with anticipation)
YESSSSSSSSSSSSsssss, oh, don't stop, that feels ****ing a heavenly.
I want your big ass cock in my mouth! Give it to me! Give it to me good, you animal. (grabs and sucks on his love machine)
**** me hard you bastard!!!
Your fingers are amazing.
I what to lick that cherry popcicle of yours. It's so yummy.
(takes his cock and rubs it on your clit) PRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR, kiss me you caveman.
You big tease, my tits are rock hard looking at that rod of steel of yours.
Kiss my tits, love. You like these big beauties don't you. ( jiggle your tits up and down in your cupped hands) You want them don't you big boy... come and get them.. they are yours for the taking.
Something like that. :)
My girl is really shy, and doesn't talk dirty too often. Then, one day in public, she whispered in my ear "Mmm, do you want me to suck on your cock?". Now, this may seem normal dirty talk, but it was SO out of the ordinary for her, becasue she is so shy, but she said it with such confidence! She has been starting to do it more often too. :)
ok what normally gets my guy gooing is just starting off simple but i have to be really in the mood. i am a virgin aswell but when it comes to dirty talking i am normally reall good here is something i wrote to my man the other night:)
i begin to beg you to take me harder, i beg for you to make me scream, you moan i moan harder i beg and you start pulsating faster and faster inside me i can feel the incredibleness of you hard p***s going in and out omg yess yess harder please f**k me harder i beg ha. you pull my hair and i let out a orgasmic yess. i like it rough i moan. you pound ur huge p***s through me f**k i moan yesss harder
the more detail you put in it the better.
I like adirty whisper in a public place, giving and receiving..