I am 28 and just started dating a 22 year old. My new girlfriend has requested that I come on her face and insists that's where she prefers me to finish. While I am more than happy to oblige and love the erotic result, I am still wondering if this has become a more acceptable practice for girls of her/this age. In all my time of dating women closer to my age, come on the face has ALWAYS been regarded as a little overboard. I would like a little feedback (from women especially) so I can make sure I meet my new girlfriends needs appropriately.
Fri, 07/02/2004 - 14:34
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Taking a facial - Ladies
For some reason, the whole facial thing does it for me, and I would love to try it, but I would have to talk about the possibility with my wife first.
If I had my druthers, I think I would prefer having her be at the ready with her tongue out and depositing directly onto her tongue. To me, this would provide a great visual stimulation, the ultimate in sharing the act (she tells me that she loves the stuff) and any extra that might leak out would give that great facial effect.
After typing this, I realized that nobody asked my opinion...too bad!
you're lucky she allows that and she's pretty kinky! Give her a high five from me. I'd never allow it. i don't like it in my face. it hurts real bad when it gets in your eyes. I mean stings. i guess if she closes her eyes its' better.
i don't mind my dude cummin on me anywhere else tho i prefer my ass!! oh yeah baby
im 18 and i think it's hot... I would not like to get it all over my face and make me messy cuz i would think that is degrading and i agree she proabbly liked a guy who liked that and got use to it. But, i wouldn't mind it being in my mouth i think that's hot. I agree porn has a lot to do with this whole how woman see it as hot if a guy cums all over is hot for them. But i would do it if i was in a kinky mood and feeling like a dirty girl who would liek to be messy but there is also as everyone else said where there is love involved and times can't be kinky all the time. Unless ur purely lustful then do that every time but if u love this girl i would get hurt if i was a guy doing that to her all the time...
So I guess all of this just begs the question of you girls out there:
Do you/girls in general take it on the face because they really like it or because they are just trying to please their boyfriend, husband or significant other based on what they think turns the guy on from what they see on the internet, porn, etc.?
Sometimes people just like things.
I hope this doesn't come across as critical, but to put it issues like this into perspective, I'd like to point out that most people don't post things like, "My partner doesn't like ice cream, how does everybody else feel about that?"
Admittedly, a facial is different than eating ice cream (well, maybe not for some people!), but sometimes it's simply important to accept what a partner says and believe it - particularly when it's mutually enjoyable.
Personally, I don't think "internet and porn" has much affect on whether or not people enjoy certain practices... but if, in fact, it has opened people's minds to trying new things... well, that's not so bad.
[QUOTE=Quote (Moli @ July 02 2004,13:13)] It's like the internet and porn has desensitized a lot of people to things that were once considered crazy or outlandish.[/QUOTE]
yeah i definetly think that is whats happened.
and like you said, its not all wrong.
its just i would hate to think that girls believe thats the way we are all "supposed" to act.
if your g/f enjoys it, it might not even be b/c of porn, she just might like it.
i say enjoy it w/ her if you also enjoy it.
just make sure she knows she can set boundaries.
which you don't sound like the type that would take advantage of a situation, so that shouldn't be a problem.
Thanks Demon...I'm not saying that everything in porn is acceptable or the norm because it's more available or whatever, it just seems like the kinds of things you mentioned used to be considered outlandish because it wasn't prevelent in the mainstream...now, everyone seems to be a lot more open about the subjects in general - whether they choose to do them or not. It's like the internet and porn has desensitized a lot of people to things that were once considered crazy or outlandish.
Anyway, I don't want to get too into my theory...I'm just wanting some feedback from a female perspective on the topic or for some to share their experiences so I can be a little more informed and educated.
Thanks Brandye...you insight is good. I have asked her and she just said that she likes the way it feels as it's blasted across her face, my reaction to it and the thrill of doing something "highly erotic". But then she said that she really doesn't give it much thought and that it's not really a big deal and was wondering why I was so amazed at her preference since among her friends and others she knows it's quite common to take it on the face. It was just surprising to hear that and it seems like times have changed a little. I was thinking that maybe girls her age (because of the internet and the fact that porn seems to be a little more available) have been more exposed to "facials" and therefore the practice/preference has become more common, acceptable, preferred, etc.
In the thread cited by demon, it was said many times that women better be prepared. Especially with younger men, it is liable to squirt at any moment and most of us with active sex lives have have had semen just about everywhere. I personally do not like a face full. In my younger days it sometimes occurred at the last moment when I decided I really did not want a mouthful. It is possible that some women take this as an alternative to completing the blow job in the mouth. She may have had an earlier partner who was really turned on by this.
I enjoy sexual play and getting squirted upon unexpectedly is part of it. I am washable. If you really want to know her motivation, ask her.
i mean if she's cool with it and so are you, then go for it.
personally i don't care for it, but to each her own.
did you read all the posts under
Cumming on Her 101?
that should give you a good idea about how women feel about the subject in general.
i have no problem w/ being cummed on, just not my face.
in that thread a lot of guys will mention how they don't feel any less about a girl if they cum on her face. i just still think its degrading. its like spitting in someone's face. in most porns or video clips i see the big finisher is the guy cumming all over her face/mouth. even when there are a 3-4 guys.
and i know porn isn't real life but still.
but like i said, some girls like it so whatever floats your boat.
maybe so moli
maybe since porn has become so easily accessible over the internet and such that it just doesn't phase them.
only problem is is that many girls and guys probably get their idea of how sex is supposed to be from porn.
that anal sex is just a norm for everyone. that everyone takes it in the face. that 3somes and same sex sex is a common occurance.
its kinda sad tho b/c sex isn't meant to ALWAYS be like that. i mean its ok to be kinky every now and then but there is also the love and respect that i think is lacking.
and i agree w/ brandye... its one thing if its accidental. i mean that stuff shoots wherever..lol. its crazy.
one time my b/f shot when he pulled out and it went in my hair. only thing is i had just turned my head...lol.. if i hadn't i wouldve gotten an eye full...ouch. lol
I have to respond and cannot believe that there are not more women saying this, but I LOVE A FACE FULL!! I guess there is nothing more gratifying than knowing that I have please my man so much and that is my reward!
moli im 20 and i have had a few partners who have asked me if they could finish on my face, i always let them. i love the taste and it's alot easier to clean up.
i would never be with a girl who didnt let me cum all over her face. get with the times ya know.
[QUOTE=MrKalar]i would never be with a girl who didnt let me cum all over her face. get with the times ya know.[/QUOTE]
My, my, my. The criteria for a good relationship certainly has changed since I was in the dating scene.
Umm I'm 3 years younger than she is... I haven't let a guy come on my face just because... well I highly doubt I'd like that... anywhere else on my body is fine just not the face. I can't speak for every girl... but this girl doesn't like it. I'd rather swallow it than have it on my face. my advice if you do get oral from any new girls. Before you come give them warning and ask them where they want you to come. It's just politeness.
[QUOTE=nipplesmcgee]I have to respond and cannot believe that there are not more women saying this, but I LOVE A FACE FULL!! I guess there is nothing more gratifying than knowing that I have please my man so much and that is my reward![/QUOTE]
There's nothing that says "I love you" like ejaculating in your girlfriend's face. For guys who have a hard time expressing themselves, it is equally touching for them to just jizz in her face and say nothing.
Here's a new Hallmark card inscription:
[FONT="Lucida Sans Unicode">[COLOR="DarkRed">"Sweetheart, I know that I am not the most romantic man around, nor the most thoughtful. Sometimes I seem crass and inconsiderate. But I just want you to know that each time I ejaculate in your face, I do it with the love and respect that you deserve..."[/COLOR][/FONT]
did 2 facials in my entire life, i dont like em.
perhaps times have changed. I gave my first blowjob on my couch in my basement to my bf at the time. It took forever, and finally after about an hour he had to finish himself. I felt sad. I could never get him off. I would put my mouth around his penis as he came, but he would always have to do it himself.
One day he decide to come on me after my vigorous attempt at getting him off. yea, I was supprised, I thought it was icky, but then when we did it more often it became "normal". We I got to dating my second serious bf he was obsessed with cumming on my face, and that when I really started to like it.
I think its just a matter of exposure to it, I think most guys secretly love it, but are afraid of asking because some girls are very opinionated against it. She's probably just begging for you to cum on her so that its not awkward and she can see how much you enjoy doing it...
[QUOTE=Suziespeedhump;201730]perhaps times have changed. I gave my first blowjob on my couch in my basement to my bf at the time. It took forever, and finally after about an hour he had to finish himself. I felt sad. I could never get him off. I would put my mouth around his penis as he came, but he would always have to do it himself.
One day he decide to come on me after my vigorous attempt at getting him off. yea, I was supprised, I thought it was icky, but then when we did it more often it became "normal". We I got to dating my second serious bf he was obsessed with cumming on my face, and that when I really started to like it.
I think its just a matter of exposure to it, I think most guys secretly love it, but are afraid of asking because some girls are very opinionated against it. She's probably just begging for you to cum on her so that its not awkward and she can see how much you enjoy doing it...[/QUOTE]
Well, I'm a guy and I don't "secretly love it". For me to do that to a woman, I would have to truly not care about her at all and I would have to consider her to be a sex object and nothing more.
Now if she truly WANTED me to do it, I guess I could get into it once we established that she honestly didn't feel degraded by it.