Ok. I think i'm bi, and I was wondering if any one (guy or girl) can give me any hints about what to do my first time having anal sex. I've given it, I was wondering about taking it. Thanks for your ideas!
Sat, 11/08/2003 - 05:11
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Taking anal


Somewhere in the Golden Posts is a very olong one I did on anal sex. Check it out.
Rawbob, love the 1-5. lol
All of that is great advice, so I'll only add : Make sure it is with someone you trust. If you really know your partner, you should feel comfortable with the fact that he will take things slow and make the experience as safe, gentle and pleasurable as he can.
Also if you know your partner really cares about you there is no pressure to "perform"; you know you can always stop and try again later, or not at all if you decide you really don't like it.
yeah but he doesn't mention if the anal sex he had was w/ a man or a woman.
maybe he'll get back w/ us and clarify b/c then that would explain it a lil better.
Well....i'm scratching my head....you think you're bi, you want to know about receiving anal, because you have already given it. Well...now, for me, i would say you are at least bi, because not many str8 guys will f*** another man's ass. Many str8 guys will let other guys jack or suck them off..but not many will engage in anal. So, it's COOL if you are bi, but my friend, it's likely that you're a bit past the "curious" stage.
That said, a few things to keep in mind:
1) Cleanliness: Go to the drug store and buy some fleet enemas. Follow the directions and "clean out" before you "bottom" - thats the term for a person who's receiving anal.
2) If you haven't ever had ANYTHING in your ass, you might want to have your partner, using lots of lube, spend time fingering your ass slowly. 1 finger, then 2 fingers. Don't make the mistake of having him just lube up and push his cock inyour ass..it WILL hurt and may cause u to get fissuress (small tears in the sphinter) or hemmoroids. To avoid this, time, patience and lube are keys.
3) Position: For first timers...its often best to have your lover lay on his back, then you lower your ass on his cock..this allows you to determine how slow and deep to go. Once yo uare down all thew ay on his cock...take a breath and then start moving up and down. If you lean back a bit, you'll feel the head of his cock hit your PROSTATE. It will feel very akward and yet very wild. You'll have the urgency to almost cum right away..thats normal..just use this position to get relaxed. Remember, once the sphinter has "relaxed" you can really get to enjoing anal sex as a bottom.
4) SAFE SEX: Having been both a TOP and BOTTOM, you can rest assured that having safe sex is an absolute requirement. As a bottom, its' VERY tough to feel the difference between a raw cock and a cock that has a condom. As a top, you can tell the differnce, but the risk of STD's should be incentive enough to NOT risk plying without protection.
5) Don't panic if it dosn't work the 1st time: Not everyone can take a cock in the ass right away. It does depend on how big your partners cock is, how much time u have, where you are, etc. For your 1st time...ti's best if you have time to clean out using your douch, and for lots of foreplay! If you really feel ike its's hurting and uncomfortable....take a break and try later! Like others have said, playing with toys first is a good start...as foreplay or just in general.
Good luck! Email me if u have any specific questions!
I agree with demonbuttercup. Have a girl try it on you first with a strapon. You can see if you're into the act without forcing the bi issue.
You may find, like I did, that your partner enjoys turning the tables on you. My wife gets off when she uses the strap-on to do me.
Word ofs advice- take it slow, use lube, start small (with dildoes) and enjoy!
first off i dont think just b/c you want anal stimulation it makes you bi...unless the person you have been giving anal sex too is a guy then well yeah you've crossed that line.
anyways... you dont necessarily have to jump right in w/ sex w/ a guy if you are unsure. have a g/f use a toy or something on you.
as far as hints goes its the same situation... whatever precautions you used for the taker last time you'll want used on you. have them use lots and lots of lube and take their time and go slow.