Mkay, so my girlfriend and I have been together for a while and have basically messed around sexually but hadn't ever tried intercourse until last saturday. I have always been able to finger her or give her oral to the point of orgasm, but whenever she has tried going down on me, it has taken forever and she has either gotten tired or we've run out of time. So she's never gotten me to the point of full orgasm. At one point she was trying to give me head for about 45 minutes and nothing occured. I ended up just finishing myself off while we made out.
Basically my thought was that, well maybe once we have sex the situation will get better. Well last saturday we tried and not only was it initially painful for her but we went at it for about an hour and a half and I wasn't able to orgasm.
My question is, will I always be like this? Is it an actual condition or is it just me? And is there anything I can do to help this situation? I am taking several medications for ADD, would these have any effect on my ability to orgasm within a reasonable period? (I'm taking Adderal XR and Lexapro)
Thanks in advance for any advice or help you can give.
Well, you have most likely identified your own problem: drug side effects. Most of the drugs available for ADD do have some sexual side effects and ejaculatory malfunction is one of them. This is not truly retarded ejaculation, it is that the drugs are using some of the brain receptors that are needed.
You should talk to your doctor about this. It is possible that dosage can be regulated or you may be raching the age where withdrawal can begin. That is up to you and your doctor.
By all means, do NOT adjust your drugs on your own. In the long term, this will correct itself and you will be better off for waiting a while.
I thought of something else to add to the description of my situation. When I masturbate alone, like without any help from her, I can usually get to an orgasm within 5-10 minutes. I guess thats why I felt it was so odd, because it's not a problem in every situation.
Anyhow Brandye, thanks for the advice and if this adds any new thoughts to you, I'd love to hear them.