I've been with a few submissive women now... three or four have enjoyed various types of pain, before, after or even during intercourse. I don't go out and seek submissive women, it just seems to have happened.
Now I have no issues with this whatsoever. I've never forced any ideas on anyone, and I wouldn't describe myself as excessively dominant but I'm relaxed enough to have learned to enjoy parts of this.
Some have been very turned on by being tied up, others enjoy a mild spanking, others like to roleplay a scene, and my longest-running girlfriend needed to be treated extremely mean to get off at all.
I was wondering if any women would care to share their thoughts and experiences on being a submissive partner in a relationship, or even on being a dominant partner.
Cheers,
Ringo
Returning to these boards for the first time in a month or so...
The other night my girlfriend asked me to tie her down to the bed. I have some velcro-restraints which we used so it was quite comfortable for her.
I started by slowly feeling her pussy, stimulating her clit as I went. Soon she was begging for me to get into her, so I did soon after, propping her stomach up and taking her hard, doggy-style.
Literally I've never heard her being so loud when we've been having sex before. Incredible.
NB: As always people: Safe, Sane and Consensual.
Cheers.
I love playing both the dominant and the submissive partner. Sometimes it just turns me on to be on top of my man and watching him squirm underneath me. It's a crazy power trip!
But then again, one of my biggest fantasies is having him, well, basically rape me from behind. There's also something stimulating about having no control of the situation and having it all be abouthis pleasure and not mine...eek. that sounds a little masochistic. Oh well!! I like what I like!
[QUOTE=Quote (guitarle @ Sep. 22 2004,00:07)]Hey there. I've been a member for a while and just so happen to be in search for some quick thoughts on mild bdsm. Latelly me and my g/f have been experiencing some different sexual activities. Bdsm is one of them. The last time, my g/f tied me up to my bed and teased me with her sexy body for quite some time.. dressed up in lingerie, sexy boots, choker... you get the idea.. i had lit candles to set the mood and basically, i was tied to each end of my bed with some suit ties. She teased and torchered me (fun) with her feather and body aspects. She had soo many positions and great ideas when she was teasing me. It was then my turn to tie her up and proceed with a bit of pleasure. Now this is when I pretty much just used the feather and ticked, teased her body a bit and then pleasured her. Ever since the day that happened, we can't stop talking about it and want it to happen again!
My question to all of you:
Does anyone else have any great ideas what i can do to her? To make her squirm, scream (in pleasure) and make her drive go wild. Thanks alot![/QUOTE]
Yep, all good stuff.
Seems like you both enjoy a bit of teasing, so I'd concentrate on that. Stretch out the situation for a while and then you can get some thunderous orgasms going.
Be safe, and have fun.
Cheers,
Ringo
Hmm im a switch, i love being dominant yet i love being dominated.
jamie
Hey there. I've been a member for a while and just so happen to be in search for some quick thoughts on mild bdsm. Latelly me and my g/f have been experiencing some different sexual activities. Bdsm is one of them. The last time, my g/f tied me up to my bed and teased me with her sexy body for quite some time.. dressed up in lingerie, sexy boots, choker... you get the idea.. i had lit candles to set the mood and basically, i was tied to each end of my bed with some suit ties. She teased and torchered me (fun) with her feather and body aspects. She had soo many positions and great ideas when she was teasing me. It was then my turn to tie her up and proceed with a bit of pleasure. Now this is when I pretty much just used the feather and ticked, teased her body a bit and then pleasured her. Ever since the day that happened, we can't stop talking about it and want it to happen again!
My question to all of you:
Does anyone else have any great ideas what i can do to her? To make her squirm, scream (in pleasure) and make her drive go wild. Thanks alot!
my girlfriend and I often switch roles, but she likes for me to be in control more. I'll tie her hands together with electrical tape and wedge her hands between my matress and headboard so she can't move. Then sometimes she'll tie me up and do her thing.
Yep, I've done something very similar to this (think I called her a bitch rather than a bad girl though.) Lots of fun - she loved it!
Cheers,
Ringo
i am a very submissive person, I love for a guy to take control, tell me what he wants.
my favorite thing to do is:
doggystyle while he is whipping me with a whip and calling me a bad girl at the same time
Nope, not me. I've learned to enjoy certain parts of being a dominant partner in a relationship, but I wouldn't describe myself as dominant or submissive. Just... a human!
(Just editing it now I've realised you were probably talking to mspersia82 rather than me... how self-centred can I get?
)
Cheers,
Ringo
Yes "switch" , as switching places or roles between Dominance
and submission.
eDJ
[QUOTE=Quote (WallyLlama @ Sep. 03 2004,12:26)](I'm not suggesting that Ringo did this in his original post, BTW.)[/QUOTE]
No worries!
Cheers,
Ringo
[QUOTE=Quote (eDJ @ Sep. 03 2004,05:19)]You would be a "switch"?
eDJ[/QUOTE]
Me? Not particularly, just someone who's been in several relationships where I've become the dominant partner.
The term switch usually refers to people who enjoy both being dominant and submissive.
Um, I thought "switch" (as in switch hitter) meant something else...
The obvious problem with this topic is it requires generalizations... but I'd say many women do appreciate strength in a man (that may be a little different than being submissive). Particularly when that strength allows them to feel comfortable and perhaps even "safe."
I see the "pain" thing as being very different and apart from submission. I think it's a bit unfortunate that most people quickly associate the submissive/dominate roles with whips and chains, so to speak. (I'm not suggesting that Ringo did this in his original post, BTW.)
You would be a "switch"?
eDJ
I'm a submissive type. I'm not into pain or any of that but I love for my man to be very aggressive, dominate me, and "take it" even when I pretend to resist. I don't mind being the aggressor sometimes (and I am) but I love when he is aggressive even more.