Read around. The threads on this topic range from watching together to the guy spending so much time watching there is not time left for being together. The maturity question is more likely about him than about you.

[QUOTE=SickenedBarbie;174029]Hey everyone!!!
I have a question, and I seen in other forums kinda related to my question they made fun of her saying shes immature, I just hope you guys wont think that!!! But my question is, while dating a guy, and you guys have pretty good sex...but being the innocent not really a freak, just a simple kinda gal, you catch your boyfriend watching porn, not in the act but knowing he has been...what does the guy think of while watching porn, my boyfriend says " I just watch it to get a nut off when your not around" do most guys when their girls aren't around think of their girls or...just watch the sex to get off? I dont understand, please dont think I'm immature, I'm just a little insecure. Thanks in advance![/QUOTE]
Consider it "eye-candy" for guys. Using it in moderation and common sense it's just "eye-candy"...of course as with everything, excessive consumption of it causes all sorts of problems. It's most unusual that watching some porn would make a guy seek out the chick in the movie...

I don't think most guys "think" about anything when masturbating lol. Men are VERY visual and they just use it as an enhancer to get the job done.
And people who have GREAT sex lives can/do still masturbate... one doesn't always lend to the other.

Porno is like "fantasy land" for men and women. It has no relative meaning! Sometimes men pick up some neat tricks when they watch (or bad habits)!

As far as feeling insecure...listen to HardNgood. Don't let it bother you. Try watching it with him some night.

It is all visual for men same as when you are looking at a nicely dressed woman or a sexy lady it is all just all looking I will not worry about it

You are just looking for reasons not to believe in yourself. Leave it be, and skip the magazines.

[QUOTE=SickenedBarbie;174437]Thanks you guys made me feel alot better :), I guess your right, I shouldn't have to worry right? I mean as long as the loving ends up comin my way! We talked about it yesterday and he found out why I'm so uptight about it , because I feel disgusted with myself, so when he jacks off to it, and/or looks at other girls on tv or what not, I feel even more insecure. Although its not his problem shouldn't he make me feel better about it? Telling me I'm "beautiful" everyday gets old, I wish there was something he can really do to show feelings. Men. hahah...[/QUOTE]

It must only get old b/c you don't believe it?!?
Yes he can do things on his part like make sure to view porn when alone and not leave anything obvious to show he was doing anything.
You also should be understanding and flexible on your side. You have NO reason to feel disgusted w/ yourself if he's the one looking at porn.

You are right... it is your problem...but what should he do to make you feel better about it? He already tells you that you are beautiful and that he wants to be w/ you... but its like in one ear out the other. Some men just aren't romantic as far as showering you w/ flowers and candle lit dinners.

It's easy to say one is beautiful, sexy etc as it is easy (finances allowing) to shower one with gifts and dinners etc. Its when he "REALLY" listens, that is when he is showing his love to you. It is the small things one does that shows.....to me, it is consideration and respect that are the biggest signs of love, devotion and how special you are.

Don't come back with "oh, well if he respects me he will quit watching porn, etc etc", its when he is considerate towards you and does not allow these things to affect you, when he respects you enough to not only be considerate to your feelings but also towards what turns you on/off, makes you comfortable/uncomfortable.

Just remember though, it is a two way street!!

[quote=SickenedBarbie;175012]Yea, I guess your right, I'm just one of those people, that look at it as, everything is my fault and blame everything he does on myself, I shouldnt do that but I do.[/quote]

Have you ever looked at how to change this? Even if you have to see a counselor for a while?

It will only become cumulative throughout life if not dealt with. If this relationship fails, you will blame yourself and the problem worsens making another relationship impossible.

all my bf thinks of is cumming lol which is fine with me coz i watch it with him and thats what i think of too lol