My girlfriend and I have been together for a while now and needless to say, our sex life is not the best. When we are both in the mood, I can easily make her orgasm, sometimes multiple times. However, these times are not plentiful. I am very open sexually, I am willing to try anything that my partner wants to try. My girlfriend, however is completely shut off sexually. She feels uncomfortable with her body. she is a very beautiful and has a great body so i dont know why she feels this way. i am seeking help in how to get her more sexually motivated. she has never initiated sex between us. i have talked to her about these things many times and feels that she has "a problem". she says she is willing to fix it, she just doesnt know how. I told her that i would research and try to figure out why she does not want to engage in more sexual activities with me. i know that she loves me and is completely faithful, but for some reason she does not initiate sex, or ever ask to try new things. i like talking dirty, not just in bed, but on a normal tone. i also like role play and filming ourselves. it would be nice to have her like doing these things as well, we just dont know how to start her into it. any help anyone can give would be greatly appreciated. thanks so much!
Mon, 11/12/2007 - 04:42
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Struggling Sexual Relationship
No one fixes another person's problem. If she wants to, she will do it; if she lacks the interest, too bad.
You cannot and do not make her orgasm. You cannot motivate her sex drive. You cannot make her comfortable with her body. All these things she can do for herself and your gentle support is all that is required from you.
She can do some reading up and talking with friends; even see a sex therapist. You cannot do it for her.
you better FORGET about her pal ....she's just not into it, for whatever the reasons
Just give her time and understanding.
As said, you can't fix it for her, but you can try and help her. Don't push it or you will get no-where and hopefully, eventually she will loosen up.
A lot of women are insecure about their body, and no matter how much you compliment it, it may not make her feel any more secure. The best thing to do, is let her talk, and you just listen, and give it time.