i won't give you all the gory details but just skip straight to the heart.
i met a guy over winter break last year, i was 17, he was 20.
we went out on a date; ice cream, movie. he had me home by 12:00 sharp and he kissed me on my doorstep.
the second date we went out to dinner. then we went a listened to music in his car and made-out a little.
he had me home by 12:00 sharp and he kissed me on my doorstep.
the third date was new years eve. we went to a party, i don't drink and so he decided he would have a sober new years with me. we kissed at midnight and put drunk people to bed.
he had me home by 1:00 sharp and he kissed me on my doorstep.
our fourth date would be his last night in town. he would be heading back to his university the next morning. his parents were out of town so we rented a movie and went up to his place. the movie was good, the fooling around better.
that boy had me, a virgin, completely naked in his bed.
he could have had me right then and there, i wanted it to be him, and we both knew it.
but do you know what he did? he laid down on top of me and kissed me from right shoulder to neck to face to neck to left shoulder and whispered in my ear, "i wish so much that we lived closer, and that you were 18. i wish that so that we could stay together and make love."
i was sexually frusterated at the time but thinking back i can't believe what a good guy he was.
just thought i'd share one of the sweeter experiences i've had. that memory always makes me think back and give a little 'aww', what a great guy.
well, have you tried to contact him since? and if not, WHY?
Sweet guy? maybe... smart guy? heck yes! Unfortunately even though sex happens at younger ages, the risk of sleeping with an underage girl far exceeds the payoff of pleasure. If your mom and dad found out, it wouldnt have mattered how much you consented because they could still have him arrested and doing time. If he is a guy you care for and you do pursue things with him in the future, make sure you give him equal respect and not get him in really big trouble =p.
True, I don't me to pee in your kool-aide, but some guys have a strategy and plan these things long in advance. Then again, he could be on the level. Just make sure there's a ladder for your pedestal.
In either case, I hope everything goes well.
That's way too god damn adorable.
I'm glad you're both happy.
He did the right thing, for himself as much as you.
Not all men are sex crazed jerks? Aaaw gee - there goes ALL of MY fun!
Seriously, why do you think that all men are? Sure it is their main focus in life and that's how they were made, but they do think about and do other things as well. Men are people too. Odd people in many ways but people nevertheless.
In this case, he had some fun and then got to scamper back to college unscathed and unentangled. And you got a nice 'hearts and flowers' memory to savor.
haha, who doesn't touch themself at night...?
yeah, it's kind of sad :( but i guess i can be pretty pessemistic, too.
it's the world we live in, ladies and gents! it ain't always pretty but it's there and so are we, so let's try to make life fun, hm?
bluetide - in washington the legal age of consent is 16, they couldn't do **** and they wouldn't. they already knew i fooled around with guys, and while concerned they realize they can't stop me. so they make sure i am educated and trust me to make good decisions.
evilevilkitten - you're right, that was an over-generalized statement. it's just a cliche and i love to see cliches disproven, as with my little story. i love men, i love everything about them!
yes, we still talk and hang out when he comes to town. we already have plans for this summer, camping and such :)
but why so pessemistic some of you? it's just a cute story. :)
why are they pessimistic? cuz you touch yourself at night lol jk
Its cuz people in this world are too coulluse to good things so they automatically assume the worst...not the worst way to be but still...
I'm glad you guys still hang out and have a nice relationship. I do not subscribe to the "all men are jerks" theory at all and I really seem to think much less of the differences between the sexes than most people. Lots of girls are jerks, lots of guys are jerks. But we're all human and it's always nice when we are kind and respectful of others, regardless of gender.
Why did he wish that you were 18 if the legal age of consent in your state is 16?
"...i wish that so that we could stay together and make love."
My point actually was that men being sex-crazed is a good thing!
It makes my life easier.
"Here teddybear, teddybear! Look what I have for you!"
[QUOTE=atomic;207525]Why did he wish that you were 18 if the legal age of consent in your state is 16?
"...i wish that so that we could stay together and make love."[/QUOTE]
See that was why I sorta had the pessimistic view. It is a cute story and is sweet, but I just didnt get why he would state something as specific as that. In that situation something like, "You mean a lot to me and I think we should wait."
i don't know if he knew the law, and i know he tries very hard to be a moral person. we were so torn when he left for college but ultimately decided long-distance is too hard while we both attend college. he goes to school 4 hours away from here.
Well after you see him again and you guys do some camping figure out if it's worth pursuing. 4hrs isnt huge, a pain yes, but doable. He sounds like a good guy, if he makes you feel special and takes good care of you, then keep em =).
oh he's a keeper.
i tried dating a little after he left, but they were just "nice" guys.
nothing wrong with them, they just lack...passion?
and everyone but sean thinks my addiction to dried mangoes is mildly disturbing :D
Wait whats state is he from. The whole 18 thing could be reasonable if he was from...say cali...Or some other state where that is legal age. Hell up until about 2 weeks ago I thought the age of consent was 18 for the entire country haha
yeah, it's 16 in washington where we live : ) most people don't realize that legal ages of consent differ from place to place. i didn't think about it in the moment and don't think he knew.
Okay my doubts were confirmed. Your statement about "nice" guys confirmed it. You're too young to date anyone seriously. If there's no chemistry that's one thing, but to stimatize them as being "nice" = no passion? That's just not true any more than all men are sex-crazed is true. "Nice" guys generally don't flaunt their passions they just keep it under wraps until they're sure you're for them.
you're right, i'm young, and i don't consider myself terribly experienced!
but what i meant by "nice" was that they were too careful. they were too afraid to just go for it, they were also my own age. i put a general ban on guys my own age three years ago, with few exceptions. i should have known going into it.
Males simply take longer to mature - generally speaking. I have known a few that were but only a few.
Now is the time to play the field and 'sport' date while getting on with your life and your goals for your life.
i agree. i'm excited to meet new people and experience new things. we aren't serious in any respect and we never planned on becoming that way. we just keep in contact and have fun when he's in town : )
it's the most exciting time of my life so far