go get drunk as it solves the confidence issues
then go up to any girl u think hot and chat to em
they'll be flattered as most girls are :P
unless there big headed prats and then it works out better if u don't get with em
try not to waste it tho as u will end up regretting it
i lost mine to my current gf
like a fool i thought getting rid of it as fast as possible, not a good thing
we rushed into it
so take it slow and try not to waste it on the first girl waggling her tits infront of ur face. :)
Okay so you're the 'friend' are you? Well, stop letting women cry on your shoulder, stop accepting the 'lets just be friends' arguement by saying "No thank you - I wanted to be closer than just friends." Be confident, be tough, and talk to as many women as possible. Sport date.
- Wear a T-shirt with an arrow pointing to the side and the legend "I'm with Sexy."
- Be too sexy for that shirt.
- Get a dog. Really. Chicks dig dogs. And then they'll know that you already have a companion.
- Getting really drunk does solve the confidence problem, but creates the acting-like-an-idiot problem, which (once your supposed "friends" give you the details the next day) will create an entirely new and slightly different confidence problem. On the other hand, if we take your goal literally ("sleep with" a girl), getting sufficiently drunk actually works, but only if, by "with," you mean "on the bathroom floor of."
- Be a rock star.
- Oh yeah, another one: realize that there probably already are women who want to sleep with you ... but you don't want to sleep with them. Change that second part.
Ahh my best friend IRL has the same problem. He thought joining a frat would help but it doesn't. JUST an FYI
Most of my friends are girls but I gotta say that actually helps. They tell me what to do and it works. LOL Not so much recently last year I couldn't get a relationship to last moar than a month and some change let alone get the chance to actually get the slim chance to perform the sexual act.
My advice to you? Get active in some kind of public activity. I have school now so that helps cos I know girls with the same major as me at least share a common interest. So maybe book clubs? Bar scenes? Women at work?
Plus don't come off as desperate or depraved. If the topic comes up just say you're waiting for the right woman. Course they might think that's a line. heh.
Honestly I can't believe i'm not a virgin. I'm a huge insecure dorkus.
Above all though
Confidence Confidence Confidence
The worst thing that you could possibly do, is try to be something that you aren't. Chicks can see through that, and besides, how long can you really keep that up? The only thing that you need to do differently, is let her know right off the bat, that you aren't interested in "just being friends". Let her know that you are interested sexually. Putting on a macho persona won't help you, it'll just make you look like an ass!!! Trust me.
I used to always be the friend, trust me. I just showed them that i wanted to be more than a friend. Give him/her a kiss, show them that you want more than a friendship. Good things come to those who wait.
How I pick-up Men: Look around, select him. Make eye contact and hold for 20 seconds at least, do this three times. If he doesn't come to you, go over to him, stand close, place three fingers under his chin raising his lips to yours and kiss him for 20 seconds. Then say "Hello. My name is 'EvilEvilKitten'.
How men pick-up me: Make eye contact and hold for 20 seconds. Gradually come over, then sit down next to me and chat - no rush, no fuss. Wait until I touch you. If I do, then move in for a kiss lasting 20 seconds. If I don't touch you, move on.
Since I usually only kiss men I have an immediate intention of bedding, this system works for me - and him.
Dont do co-ordinated dance routines with ur female friends when u go out...
girls will assume you're either: gay
or
Shaggin said female friend and creating dance moves is part of your foreplay...
go get drunk as it solves the confidence issues
then go up to any girl u think hot and chat to em
they'll be flattered as most girls are :P
unless there big headed prats and then it works out better if u don't get with em
try not to waste it tho as u will end up regretting it
i lost mine to my current gf
like a fool i thought getting rid of it as fast as possible, not a good thing
we rushed into it
so take it slow and try not to waste it on the first girl waggling her tits infront of ur face. :)
good luck and happy hunting my friend!
Okay so you're the 'friend' are you? Well, stop letting women cry on your shoulder, stop accepting the 'lets just be friends' arguement by saying "No thank you - I wanted to be closer than just friends." Be confident, be tough, and talk to as many women as possible. Sport date.
Tell em " If all I wanted was companionship, I'd buy a dog"
Some ideas:
- Be rich.
- Complicate; be evil; be loose.
- Wear a T-shirt with an arrow pointing to the side and the legend "I'm with Sexy."
- Be too sexy for that shirt.
- Get a dog. Really. Chicks dig dogs. And then they'll know that you already have a companion.
- Getting really drunk does solve the confidence problem, but creates the acting-like-an-idiot problem, which (once your supposed "friends" give you the details the next day) will create an entirely new and slightly different confidence problem. On the other hand, if we take your goal literally ("sleep with" a girl), getting sufficiently drunk actually works, but only if, by "with," you mean "on the bathroom floor of."
- Be a rock star.
- Oh yeah, another one: realize that there probably already are women who want to sleep with you ... but you don't want to sleep with them. Change that second part.
Ahh my best friend IRL has the same problem. He thought joining a frat would help but it doesn't. JUST an FYI
Most of my friends are girls but I gotta say that actually helps. They tell me what to do and it works. LOL Not so much recently last year I couldn't get a relationship to last moar than a month and some change let alone get the chance to actually get the slim chance to perform the sexual act.
My advice to you? Get active in some kind of public activity. I have school now so that helps cos I know girls with the same major as me at least share a common interest. So maybe book clubs? Bar scenes? Women at work?
Plus don't come off as desperate or depraved. If the topic comes up just say you're waiting for the right woman. Course they might think that's a line. heh.
Honestly I can't believe i'm not a virgin. I'm a huge insecure dorkus.
Above all though
Confidence Confidence Confidence
A quick mental review of how I met the various women I've slept with reveals:
About half at a party
About a third through mutual friends
The rest other ways, such as: school, work, a bar
In some of the party cases, mutual friends/acquaintances may have been involved. But generally, I wouldn't have met them absent the party.
So:
1 Go to parties.
2 Make friends.
The worst thing that you could possibly do, is try to be something that you aren't. Chicks can see through that, and besides, how long can you really keep that up? The only thing that you need to do differently, is let her know right off the bat, that you aren't interested in "just being friends". Let her know that you are interested sexually. Putting on a macho persona won't help you, it'll just make you look like an ass!!! Trust me.
I used to always be the friend, trust me. I just showed them that i wanted to be more than a friend. Give him/her a kiss, show them that you want more than a friendship. Good things come to those who wait.
just start acting like a MAN keep her on her toes dont be arrogant but show a bit of cockiness and JUST SHOW CONFIDENCE in yourself
Picking up - Two Perspectives.
How I pick-up Men: Look around, select him. Make eye contact and hold for 20 seconds at least, do this three times. If he doesn't come to you, go over to him, stand close, place three fingers under his chin raising his lips to yours and kiss him for 20 seconds. Then say "Hello. My name is 'EvilEvilKitten'.
How men pick-up me: Make eye contact and hold for 20 seconds. Gradually come over, then sit down next to me and chat - no rush, no fuss. Wait until I touch you. If I do, then move in for a kiss lasting 20 seconds. If I don't touch you, move on.
Since I usually only kiss men I have an immediate intention of bedding, this system works for me - and him.