Ok so 3 months ago was when I started having sex with my boyfriend. I was a virgin before this so he is my first. We probably do it 2/3 times a week i'D say, we have foreplay so that I'm relaxed enough, and for protection since i have keep having reactions to lube...we alternate between using condoms and spermicides (im also on birth control & he pulls out too).
No matter what tho EVERYtime we do it it hurts so bad. He is of average size so its not like he is too big or anything. he always starts very slow and sometimes i have to have him lie there for like 5 minutes so the pain subsides. After that it is fine, but lets say he pulls out for 5 minutes and try again...it goes all tight on me again. It feels so tight everytime and i thought that by this time i would have loosened up a bit? Also no matter who is on top it ALWAYS feels like i have to pee even if i just went. i have a bad bladder to begin with so i may just have to put up with that part.
any suggestions anyone has on what the problem could be and/or solutions would be so much appreciated thanks!!! :)
What has your Gynecologist & Urologist said regarding this matter???
Urologist says the bladder problem is related to my kidneys...a congenital defect in that they're enlarged therefore produce more urine = having to go to the bathroom all the time.
Havent been to the gyne since 2 years ago...but i wasnt having sex then. With college as crazy as it is i have to wait til the end of the school year which is May to go see him
I would recommend avoiding vaginal sex until you see the gyn.