Me and my girlfriend have had sex for about 6 times in the past month. Everytime we foreplay, i get an erection, but when its time to pull our pants down and put a comdom on, my penis gets soft and she needs to touch it for it to get hard. And during intercourse it usually gets softer and doesnt stay hard. ALSO, i can only last for about 3 minutes :[ i would like to control it for a whole longer time. Is there anyway i can stay hard for longer and control my cumming? Please reply back with help and advice. Thank you so much. ALSO, whenever my girlfriend gives me head, i never stay hard and get soft. Why is this? All replys are accepted and appreciated. Thank you again.
Sun, 01/21/2007 - 05:34
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Staying Hard and Control Ejactulation
An erection is simply your penis engorged with blood. Anything you do (getting undressed) that requires use of muscles will divert some blood from the penis. The good news is it comes right back when she touches you.
As for lasting longer, google "squeeze technique." It requires your g/f's cooperation but that, too, is fun.
Another fun thing the two of you can do is the exercise described in this Sticky post: "Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation" in the SEXUAL HEALTH: MEN forum.
Mastering the exercise works for both Premature Ejaculation and simply lasting longer than a few minutes during intercourse--or even foreplay!
Ive heard of even a "start/stop" technique it can be done on with ur partner and even on ur own. all it requires is to start and stop before blowing and instead of some one squeezing ur penis u just let it go soft and then repeat about 5 times or how ever many times. its probliy more of a long term thing tho but im not sure im no expert
> > Ive heard of even a "start/stop" technique it can be done on with ur partner and even on ur own. all it requires is to start and stop before blowing and instead of some one squeezing ur penis u just let it go soft and then repeat about 5 times or how ever many times. its probliy more of a long term thing tho but im not sure im no expert
This is certainly one approach; however, rather than let a penis go completely flaccid, most just pause the proceedings only long enough for the sense of urgency to subside. That accomplished, continue on! Your suggestion to let the penis go soft is not the answer because this is what is happening and what he is attempting to remedy.