If I were in your current situation sex would be the LAST thing on my mind!!! I remember I once just had a pregnancy scare and I didn't want to be touched for awhile!
One day at a time sweetie....

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Please begin with this article:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

Why are you self-concious? He's a guy. He doesn't need much to start him off. Can you hold hands with him? Can you hug him? Can you kiss him? If yes - then just hold his hand, put it behind him and hold it against his back firmly while hugging him and before you let him go, kiss him - lightly, lingeringly and for a long time. There, foreplay started.

Remember: everything you were taught about sex, is wrong. Ask us instead.

I agree completely with Demon on this one. Many of us have had "the scare;" fewer, fortunately, what you are experiencing. In my early 20's I was three weeks late and then had the nastiest period imaginable. I can only assume it was a spontaneous miscarriage and had been worried constantly for three weeks. I did not want to even see a penis for a couple months. You need to take a break, think about yourself and sex will come back as you are ready.

If you can do all of those things...then do them.

Women are VERY bad about their bodies...they fixate upon what is 'wrong' to the point where they CANNOT see how incredibly cute, hot, sexy, whatever they are. STOP looking in the mirror without another person, preferably male, there with you in the same mirror. You have gotten to the point where you are no longer fit to judge yourself. You need to get out and see what's real and what's really important - the PERSON NOT the PACKAGING.

It is good that you are looking for tips n' techniques before having sex. As for how to begin--begin by reading the articles listed in the Index. There are several on making out, kissing, etc. This is where you begin.

Foreplay is the result of a natural progression building upon all the fooling around and making out that the two of you have been doing. Your love making can end there or continue on ending with intercourse.

There is a misconception that the term "Foreplay" is all inclusive and means making out in general. This is not correct. A good make out session is comprised of the following stages:
* Necking--
Kissing and caressing above the shoulders

* Petting--
Kissing and caressing everywhere except the erogenous zones (breasts and genitals) and with the clothing on

* Heavy Petting--
As above and now involving breast exploration including removal of tops (blouses and shirts), and some genital fondling through clothing

* Foreplay--
Moving right along to now include all of the above plus major undressing and the fondling of each other's breasts and genitals

* Intercourse--
Follows Foreplay, and all the other stages that are all inclusive. This means that you begin at "A", add "B", revisit "A", add "C" go back to "A and B", adding "D", etc. et cetera, etc. As you move to the next stage you continue to include the previous stages! This is what helps to build arousal, excitement, and anticipation.

A great make out session takes at least half an hour or longer to build a woman's level of arousal to peak. Guys do not need this time, yet can also certainly benefit from not taking shortcuts and rushing toward the finish line.

Doc and Evil,

You are missing the point. See my om to each.