Many women have miserable sex lives because of male partners "trying harder." A clitoris is not a penis. Reading books does not make one a lover, learning from your partner can. Some women squirt; some. not; some sometimes. There is nothing you can do, despite all the books and websites that glorify the male who "makes" his partner squirt.

Relax; let her relax. Que sera, sera.

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If you have looked around the site, you may have found several replies in which it is stated that each person is responsible for his/her own orgasms, that we do not give them away. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them. The same is true for squirting. You can NOT will them, cajole them, or, somehow stimulate them to happen. Squirting will happen to some women sometimes, others not at all.

[QUOTE=hotboy1;255992][COLOR="blue">I have a girlfriend and everytime I try to make her squirt she complians of wanting to pee[/COLOR]

This is usually, although not always, an indication of a new man or woman's reaction to sex to becoming very highly aroused just prior to having a climax. If she has gone to the bathroom sometime prior to making out with you, then this is usually a false signal to being stimulated and will usually subside and go away if you just work thru the sensation. With experience, the sensation of having to pee will disappear altogether.

[COLOR="blue">If I try harder to make it come out she starts to feel pains. So what we do is she goes to the toilet and then she pees.[/COLOR]

Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with an for each other in partnership. Communication and feedback {both verbal and non-verbal) are keys to success. Explore and learn together.

I recommend that you stop trying to make this happen. Your attempts are futile and the more you try the more exasperated you will become and the more disappointed she is likely to become. Understand that if it is to happen, it will--maybe this time maybe not the next time, maybe not at all.
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For me, I dont really like that due to the peoples experiences I have heard on squirting, and I love seeing girls squirt but the person I really love finds it difficult.
I have read so many books and tried to get solution to this on the internet but the problem is still on.
Can anyone Help?[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

Asked and answered. It is not about you: do A, B, + C, and Z will result.

Hotboy1 - please find and read the sticky posts entitled The Program and Body Worship. It isn't JUST about using yourr penis.

You suck at sex. Plain and simple. If you did a little research, you'd find that NOT MANY GIRLS SQUIRT. So quit trying to "make her squirt". If it makes her uncomfortable - STOP. Since when did sex become one sided?

I've had partners that gushed like niagara falls, and others who felt uncomfortable with g-spot stimulation. The less selfish you are, the BETTER LOVER YOU ARE.

Porn videos are not meant to be "training videos" for guys. Use it to satisfy your fantasy, but in the bedroom, SATISFY HERS. Women are not tools to be used for a mans pleasure. It should be shared.

As far as you not being able to continue after you orgasm, well did she cum? Because if she didn't, then you need to learn how to please her first. I always satisfy the lady first and worry about me second. Because when you take care of her first, she's going to come back for more.

Read up son, and quit watching so much porn.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;256096]Hotboy1 - please find and read the sticky posts entitled The Program and Body Worship. It isn't JUST about using yourr penis.[/QUOTE]

* How old are you?

* Have you ever masturbated and had more than one climax during a session?

* If not, have you ever tried?

Yes or no, here is the secret: There are several phases to a person's arousal that we all go thru, and the last is called the "Refractory Period". This is the down time between any two orgasms. The period is very short for women; for men depending upon age, sex drive, and how we are "wired", this period can be anywhere from about ten minutes or somewhat less for a post pubescent boy, UP to half an hour for the majority of men who are not yet senior citizens.

Once you have ejaculated and enjoyed an orgasm, a second climax can be had after you've gone thru your Refractory Period--how ever long it might be. For the sake of discussion, let's say the period lasts half an hour. During this time any attempt to stimulate yourself or be stimulated by a partner will end in failure. Your penis might even become too sensitive to touch for several minutes after climaxing (something you won't likely experience just from masturbating by yourself).

[quote=DirtDriver]As far as you not being able to continue after you orgasm, well did she cum? Because if she didn't, then you need to learn how to please her first. I always satisfy the lady first and worry about me second. Because when you take care of her first, she's going to come back for more.

Read up son, and quit watching so much porn. [/quote]

If you want to enjoy a second or third orgasm in a row, then just relax and continue to fool around and make out without involving your penis. At the end of your down time you can then begin to rebuild your level of arousal and excitement and have another orgasm. Each subsequent orgasm will probably be a bit harder to trigger than the previous one, so understand this fact and focus harder on the sensations you feel. At some point if you attempt to have more climaxes than your body can accommodate, your body will simply refuse to respond for several hours.

Use your down time to please your partner and to help her have more orgasms if it is her wish. Because her down time is only a matter of moments to minutes, a woman can and sometimes does want more, so use this period to your best advantage and her enjoyment.

All this and more is explained in the articles listed in the Index. Please start reading. Knowledge is empowering. If after reading an article you have questions, please feel free to ask.

-doc

As a person who can squirt, I find that my ability to goes away the second I'm asked to or urged to or have pressure to of any kind. You really have to be relaxed and just having fun to squirt, and even then it doesn't happen all the time.

Thanks, Rouge. A squirter's testimony beats all the expert stuff any time!

This topic has been brought up before and can be found here.

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-her/27306-g-spot-technique-orga...

I recommend reading the entire thread as there are multiple explanations throughout it. In my experience the woman in any state other than very turned on but *relaxed* at the same time will result in it not happening. I've been with someone who wanted to but kept tensing too much at the last moment so we stopped and I gave her a massage and then she let it all out with a strong orgasm when I simply kissed the back of her neck during the massage.

Extended foreplay and previous orgasms help quite a bit.

You can do things to increase the likelihood of it happening, but eventually too many of those things for too long will just get in the way of being in the mindset of enjoying each other's company and your efforts will have the opposite effect.

From your questions, I am assuming that you are fairly inexperienced. I greatly recommend focusing and mastering other basics listed in the many Sticky's on this site instead of this topic. If you do that first, you probably won't even need this thread as you will have figured it out on your own.