My girlfriend was telling me that before we have sex, as in right before entry, she wants me to "spread" her. Apparently, our defiintions of spreading are different. She says that the way its done is she lies down flat. I am then supposed to "hover" over her, kiss her, and do something with my hand. For some reason she won't tell me what it is, she is frustrated that I don't know, and doesn't think I know her. THing is, she's never told me about this before and I have no Godly idea what she is talking about. Can anyone one here offer me some advice or clarification? A search online didn't produce any satisfying results; which tells me that she is eithe rusing the wrong term or something. Thanks in advance.
Wed, 12/15/2004 - 09:31
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Spreading her?
i'd guess the same thing as buttercup.
and to add to that, it sounds like she's not comfortable enough yet to just go with the flow when it comes to sex. she's got a strict set of perceptions as to how sex should happen. I would recommend taking it easy and maybe not going so far until she's a little more comfortable and at ease
yeah I agree she is following a strict protocal. You must "hover" while she does this and then you do that.
huh?
Like Vaga says, I just go w/ the flow and what feels good. I don't have a schedule. We will do missionary for X number of minutes then switch to me on top, then this and that. Thats no fun.
Also, sex should be about exploring, learning, and teaching your partner what makes you feel good. How can you learn if she doesn't tell you? She shouldn't make fun of you for not knowing something
*shrug*
The only think I can think of was maybe to use your hand to spread her vaginal lips apart some. That sometimes makes entry a little easier... who knows??