I've been going out with an amazing boy for about a month now although we've known eachother for much longer ( I'm 17, he's 16 and a half ) and I want to give him equally amazing sex ( specificly blow jobs ) but I'm not very experienced and a little shy in the sack. We are both feel very open and honest with eachother, however I want tips on how to not to let on my inexperience between the sheets, know what I mean? Also, how is the best way to initiate a blow job? Thanks so much for any words of wisdom! ;)
( PS - I recently ordered a set of flavored edible lube from a sex toy party by friends had a this week. Any advice on how to best to work that into a routine, so to speak? )
The best way to "work in to it" is to begin kissing his neck while he is lying flat...slowly work your way down his body, chest & abdomen (kissing and stroking with your hands). When you are at his hands, slowly and gently suck on one of his fingers, like you would on his penis, when you are at his belly, unbutton & unzip his pants...and keep kissing as you go and look at him at intervals while you do this. Rub outside through his pants & then underwear. Then, slide through the underwear, and slip it off...you can put the lube on him here and start stroking him w/you hand and kissing/licking his scrotum while stroking him slowly. Kiss all around the area and then start with nice long licks on the shaft, then head in the mouth, and start taking more of him...Just transition through it all slow and take your time...
The point is to work into it, not just strip the pants off and get it going, do it slow and make it more like a seduction. Oh yea, while you are there, look in his eyes...watch for his body movements...And don't get the flavored lube in your hair, it's hard to get out without a shower!
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http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_him/10856-blow-job_techniques_1...
Another good sticky
Just remember you can read all about techniques.. but only doing it makes you comfortable w/ it. I was terrified my first few times.. but it gets easier as time goes by.
Usually, no one is a pro at anything their first few times :)
Just to chime in: the two posts above are about 100% spot on.
And: hey, don't complain! You could be a guy. At least it's easy for you women to find everything you're supposed to pay attention to ....
Don't worry about being a pro the first few times. It does take practice and not every guy is the same, just like oral on a woman varies. Sera has some good advice about starting slow and work your way down on him. You will get some good signals from him on how he is enjoying it. Don't worry about taking his penis deep at first. Just the fact that you are willing to do this and want to get good at is is exciting and he should be gratiful you are so willing. Start by kissing the head and the shaft, then use your tongue on his shaft and lick the top of his penis. After a little time of this then just slip your lips over the head and take it in and out of your mouth. Then go down a little farther on his shaft and see how much you can take in. Keep your hand on his shaft and keep that going up and down his shaft as you match the strokes with your mouth.
Chances are at your ages, this will blow his mind and he won't last very long. Plan on what you want to do when he cums in your mouth. Some woman will swallow it, others just let it run out of their mouths and down his shaft, or they will have a kleenex close and spit it into the kleenex. Just don't act like it is the most discusting thing that ever happened to you, it will truely ruin the moment. I love it when she brings me to climax when she swallows and then keeps sucking every last drop out of me and swallows that also. My woman doesn't do this very often since it isn't something she enjoys very much. But when it does happen, it is so nice. Have fun and enjoy the practice.
Yeah, I don't expect to be perfect, just a good place to start. It's all about the journey right?
Thanks so much for your insight, ya'll have been truely helpful with a subject that's too taboo with most of my friends.
He sounds like a very lucky guy. Are you going to let him cum in your mouth?
Most guys agree getting oral is one of life’s simple pleasures. It’s brings true pleasure and nothing makes a man feel more pampered - sexually. For a guy, there’s nothing quite so sexy watching you work your magic on his member. Here’s how to master the basics of a mind-blowing blow job:
1) Drive him mad your hands and tongue. Us guys love the anticipation of oral and a slow intro works magic. If he’s not already naked, start with some light but firm touching on top of his clothes, running your fingers over his groin area, inside his thighs and along his belt line. Wen you feel him getting hard, unzip him and let his cock pop out. Pull down his pants to his knees (it lets him move a better) and spend time with your hands. Work gently with him – remember, his cock may be rock hard, but it needs a tender touch. Grab his ass a bit and stroke the underside of his balls and cock with your fingers. Drive him crazy by keeping your slightly open mouth close to the action, then use your hand to move his cock to your mouth. Run your lips along the sides while holding his cock, kiss the head and lick the underside of his penis. Eye contact is especially sexy since he’ll be looking down at all the action.
2) Zone him into ecstasy with your mouth. He might start holding your head – it’s a sign he can’t take it anymore. You may need to settle into a more comfortable position, or at least one you can hold for a while. Now, hold his cock with your hand at the base and envelope his head with your mouth. Focus on the head for now, and slowly work the base of his penis with your hand being careful not to grab too hard (sometimes, a light ring made with your fingers is perfect). Work up saliva and go a bit deeper, bringing your hand motion to meet your mouth. The wetness will help glide your hand over his skin and really heat things up as you combine hand and mouth. Rhythm and speed is important, so count out a steady beat in your head to keep him on track. Keep in mind, guys need the same kind of sensation during oral as they have during intercourse, so mimic the slippery rhythm.
3) Add variety to finish. Since oral can last a while, give him and yourself some variety by adding some out-of-mouth technique. If you have enough saliva on his skin, let his cock pop out of your mouth and stroke him with your hand, top to bottom at the same speed. Lick the sides of his penis and then go back to using your mouth. Stoke him while licking his testicles and along the underside of his cock. Alternate between these and your mouth, picking up speed as you go. A lot of eye contact, a bit of dirty talk and even some sexy touching of yourself add to the mental rush of it all.
You can use oral as a warm up to more sex or as a solo act. If you want him to cum from oral, read our story “Oral to finish” story.
Tips:
- Use a light touch with your hands
- Your hands and mouth make an amazing oral symphony
- Smiles and eye contact is a major turn on
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