I don't think the problem is you. You say yourself that you've never had problems before; therefore the problem is less likely to be you.
To be honest I'd need some more info before I could really suggest anything - how old are you both? Has this kind of thing been a problem for him in the past?
Some guys just have trouble coming. I'm one of them. It's not a big deal for most of us. However you mention he often loses his errection and that sex is "uncomfortable" for him because he's very sensitive.
Could you elaborate on this point a little more? I'm not quite sure I understand. Try to be as specific as possible about what kind of "uncomfortable" it is.
It could be some kind of mental block (ie. performance anxiety) or it could be a physical thing. No way to even narrow it down until we're presented with more info.
As always feel free to PM me if there are sensitive details you don't want the whole internet to be able to see.
[FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]Just the other day, in my human sex class, we were talking about hyper-sensitivity in males as a sexual dysfunction. Do you mind if I ask if your boy friend is uncircumcised? [/SIZE][/FONT]
1- His age?
2- Experience?
3- Ever had this matter before?
If he is older & had past matters--time for a doc's physical exam, MRI, and then labs work. After these [assuming all are negative] time for him to look for the root of his matter...cannot blame yourself. It's his body and his responsibility to care for it. If you had such as a woman; would you not be in the docs office? I highly doubt you bear any responsibility for his functions [or lack of].
Often, the brain interprets extra stimulation as pain rather than pleasure. If there's nothing physically wrong with him (see sera's comment below) then this could be the problem. A man has to become 'habituated' - train his brain - to correctly intrepret additional stimulation.
This can be difficult and it will involve lots of time and practice. He has to RELAX, roll with the 'pain', and BREATHE - deeply and calmly. He simply has to keep going and work through it to get past it. He loses his erection due to the false pain signal and to performance anxiety - it hurts so he expects it to hurt etc etc - one of those viscious circles.
This is where using condoms can help as they do block a certain amount of stimulation. When using lubricant - select one that contains a 'de-sensitizer'. If he is uncircumcized, he might want to consider getting circumcized but I'd try everything else first.
I don't think the problem is you. You say yourself that you've never had problems before; therefore the problem is less likely to be you.
To be honest I'd need some more info before I could really suggest anything - how old are you both? Has this kind of thing been a problem for him in the past?
Some guys just have trouble coming. I'm one of them. It's not a big deal for most of us. However you mention he often loses his errection and that sex is "uncomfortable" for him because he's very sensitive.
Could you elaborate on this point a little more? I'm not quite sure I understand. Try to be as specific as possible about what kind of "uncomfortable" it is.
It could be some kind of mental block (ie. performance anxiety) or it could be a physical thing. No way to even narrow it down until we're presented with more info.
As always feel free to PM me if there are sensitive details you don't want the whole internet to be able to see.
[FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]Just the other day, in my human sex class, we were talking about hyper-sensitivity in males as a sexual dysfunction. Do you mind if I ask if your boy friend is uncircumcised? [/SIZE][/FONT]
How about these questions:
1- His age?
2- Experience?
3- Ever had this matter before?
If he is older & had past matters--time for a doc's physical exam, MRI, and then labs work. After these [assuming all are negative] time for him to look for the root of his matter...cannot blame yourself. It's his body and his responsibility to care for it. If you had such as a woman; would you not be in the docs office? I highly doubt you bear any responsibility for his functions [or lack of].
Often, the brain interprets extra stimulation as pain rather than pleasure. If there's nothing physically wrong with him (see sera's comment below) then this could be the problem. A man has to become 'habituated' - train his brain - to correctly intrepret additional stimulation.
This can be difficult and it will involve lots of time and practice. He has to RELAX, roll with the 'pain', and BREATHE - deeply and calmly. He simply has to keep going and work through it to get past it. He loses his erection due to the false pain signal and to performance anxiety - it hurts so he expects it to hurt etc etc - one of those viscious circles.
This is where using condoms can help as they do block a certain amount of stimulation. When using lubricant - select one that contains a 'de-sensitizer'. If he is uncircumcized, he might want to consider getting circumcized but I'd try everything else first.
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