We don't make love all the time because she lives so far, but when we do, i try to make it as erotic as possible and try to use diff. positions. The problem is that whenever i asked her what position she likes the most she just says that she likes all of them. She says that they all feel the same. I mean, what am i supposed to think when she says something like that? I feel like i can't please her even though when we are making love she looks worried as though her vagina is gonna explode...i just don't know what to do.
Sat, 05/20/2006 - 00:39
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Is something wrong with her vagina?
> The problem is that whenever i asked her what position she likes the most she just says that she likes all of them. She says that they all feel the same. I mean, what am i supposed to think when she says something like that?
Woe.....slow down, take a breath, relax, and let it out slowly.........
What you have here is not so much a failure to communicate as much as understanding the answers she is giving. There is nothing wrong here, and a lot is right.
I would count my blessings because if she likes all positions, then she is comfortable with her sexuality, you, and what the two of you are doing. That, kind sir is a feather in your cap.
As for feeling the same, what is important to her is that you are filling her and what she (and other women) enjoy is the sense of fullness the penis provides. This is a good thing, a girl thing, and if she is finding joy in this with every position then you need to place another feather in your cap.
> I feel like i can't please her even though when we are making love she looks worried as though her vagina is gonna explode...i just don't know what to do.
People make faces when making love because the facial muscles relax and/or tighten. If she is not complaining, then do not assume something is wrong.
From your description of events, it looks to me like the two of you are doing right by each other. Have fun........
Doc
I'd say you need to take a hard look at what's going on here... and there are some difficult questions involved. One big one is whether or not you are projecting some insecurity... or is she not giving you enough "feedback?"
The answer to both questions is probably yes.
The solution is to have a different conversation with her. Let her know that you are feeling a little insecure about the lovemaking. (Do NOT have this conversation while you are making love!) What you really are trying to do here is learn together how to open up and share needs. You are very concerned about her sexual needs and that's a good thing. Just give her an opportunity to be concerned about your needs for some communication and reassurance.
Don't make it a big issue... and don't let it become a big issue, either.