Ok so here the thing. This is the 3rd time this has happened in a year. Ok so me and my fiace are having sex and then after a while (I say maybe 30 mins and a few positions later) he losing his erection. Last time I just jerked him off until he came, but this time not even that got his erection back and he watched porn instead. I was upset with the fact that he watched porn and also by the type of porn he watched...shemale porn. I just couldn't and still don't understand why he got off (in 5 min) with that and not with sex with me. Did I do something wrong? Then he gets mad at me because I'm mad at him for this happening. He said that I was shallow. Was I being shallow for being offended and feeling less pleasurable to him? Please give me honest answers...I'm really feeling down about this...
Ok in my last question I asked I left out this...my boyfriend has been watching shemale porn since before we got together...2yrs+. He says that he's not gay and he's not attracted to guys. He says that he would not have sex with a shemale if given the opportunity. I kind of understand because I like lesbian porn but I can't see myself having sex with another female. Did I mention that he also has OCD? This is the first time that he's not been able to have an orgasm with me but was able to have one 5min later watching shemale porn. Also I'd like to mention that I am 8mos pregnant and he is very nervous about hurting our baby. Also we had sex the night before as well and there was no problems. Ok so what's everyone's take with this added info?


I do not believe you were wrong for getting upset, I know I would've.
With that said the only thing I can really tell you is that you need to talk to him about it and ask him what the inner issue is.
If I was in your shoes and he thought I was wrong for getting upset and then in turn getting mad at me... I would just do it to him. If we were having sex and he was trying to make me orgasm, I would just stop him and get on the computer, watch some porn, and get myself off. Then, if he got upset, I would simply say "quit being shallow." But that's just me.
And you allow this lack of consideration, why? I'd be more concerned about his lack thoughtfulness to a child & be re-thinking my future.
Why did you allow yourself to get pregnant by this loser?
Stop and rethink your life - you need to get away and get on with building a decent life for yourself, by yourself.