Alright, me and my b/f been together a while, and were both very very sexual people, we both wake up in the middle of the night wanting to love eachother, and show it. You know, and make love right? well.... LOL every time the other wakes up, the other feels it when they are asleep, and the one person wants to wake the other. How do you go about that? do you just wake them up? if they have said its alright to do so? do you just... wake em up 
and if we don't wake eachother up, and both ignore it.. we can't sleep that well, because we always LOL wantto show how much we love eachother, that and were horny... at pretty much all times. Also, have any of you found, sure you will let someone eat you out, but... your all.... weird.. like.. "omg.. what if i smell, what if they don't like it" blah blah and become very uncomfortable.. because of past experience, but yet, very willing to please them in anyway you can/know how? but they themselves are to shy to really try anything? just on their own.
Also, as for sex. What do you suppose i could do with it, because, yea we enjoy it, but... I always stop, after he has came because, it becomes almost painful for me, i think its half the time, the type of condom, and lack of lubrication, on my part..do you think i should just get lube? like that will help it? cause at the beginging, i love it.. like it feels great, but once after about 10 m ins, my "lube" natural stuff, it almost "goes away" and the condom almost feels dry... so their is alot of friction...? help? cause, i do want to please him very much, but i find it very hard... also, because of past experience, the only time i will really open up, and do things i wanna do, and help him out, because he isa "newbie" ill direct him and tell him things of how i like it and ask him and so forth, but the only time i do that.. is after i've been drinking alot.. thats the only way i can relax enough... is there anythign wrong with this? 
Jamie
ok, im lost again, see last night, we were together, and well... lol we don't really do foreplay.. its weird, though i would l ike him to touch me more, im a very shy person, with alot of past... "pains" if you will, so i figure, thats probally why he doesnt really as much as he would like, or i would. but last night lol we figured out a fetish, and htats just Licking eachothers face.. lol yea, its weird.. but i LOOooveee it.. and i found when he did that i didn't have as much "friction" actually, prettymuch none at all... Maybe this is just a factor of not being "warmed" up.. enough? but, how do i open up and tell him that i do want him to touch me more? like he's only fingered me once, and thats cause i put his hands there. lol and hes kinda ate me out alittle, and usally i hate it, but when he did it i loved it.. but thats cause i kinda told him to... and he did willingly.. but how do i just open my self up alittle more to kinda "direct" him. and get him to.. direct me.. and just be more open about sex in general???
Spanks.
Jamie
1. Talk to him- "newbies" love the attention. (I know I did way back when . A satisfying sexual relationship is a relationship first. Communication is essential.
2. Switch what you're doing before your 10 minute friction limit. Oral sex, different positions, etc. Use the lube if you need to. Make it a game and apply it to him. He might like the attention and want to come that way.
3. You really need to keep away from alcohol as a crutch to help you open up. Make your mind up ahead of time that you're going to be aggresive about what you want and that you'll tell him without feeling embarassed or uncomfortable. Plan it out.