Alright first off some background, im 16, and am not a virgin, but the times I have had sex(2) they were on the spur of the moment at partys, as are most my sexual experiences, but I stoped partying about a year ago, and am now involved with a wonderfull girl...
My issue is Iv never really taken a step by step relationship as where you progress slowly over time heading twoards sexual relations farther down the road...
First off im experienced with sex and oral sex, but foreplay like making out, not so much, I want to pleasure her without penetrating her(get what im saying), today we were making out and I was feeling her up, her shirt was off and I was moving between kissing, frenching and gentally sucking her breasts, the thing is im a little disconcerted on the motion to rub her breasts in, im pready sure that iv done moderatly well by the way she gets out of breath quickly, and trembling in her legs every once in a while, and the grabing of my back, i just would like some tips there... F.Y.I: she is a virgin, at least with innercourse...
Also im a little troubled on my "size", today i measured, im about 6" lenght, and 5 1/8 " girth, im preddy sure this is good size, but my trouble is, im 6' and shes 5' 3", will my girth hurt her the first time, given that she is on the smaller size, like i know all girls feel pain and usually bleed the first time, but im worried this may be a little intensse for her...
thanks...
Not that you haven't heard this before..but...
She: a virgin
You: not.
Both: should think of these below before you continue....
Consequences...what happens if you get her pregnant? Are you ready for it financially? Are you ready for the choice to make of keeping, adoption, abortion?
As much as I like sex and it's actions...and I'm sure you do care for her...you should really think of what could happen if you do not communicate fully and think...yeah yeah...intense feelings of physical nature are happening...that's normal...but excusing it with....it just happened...we weren't prepared...
not cool.
she should also read this post as well... i wish you both of luck...but don't rush...you've got tons of time to pleasure each other in life...and please, please..(begging) don't let it happen at a party...she will regret it...and maybe you too...make it special...she will never forget her first time...as i'm sure you haven't with whomever you were with... but be cool and understand her...not just hear her words...LISTEN...
yeah, i , also agree to take things slow and explore each other.
I definately agree with demon. Take it slow.
It sounds like you're doing well so far.
When it does come to the point of sexual intercourse, remember take things very slow. It will hurt probably no matter what but, it will get better and less painful with time. Watch and listen to her cues. Slow and easy until she says otherwise. If you feel like tonight's the night be prepared. Focus on forplay getting her aroused and wet and it wouldn't hurt to maybe have a lubricant like astroglide around to help just in case.
well i looked up on the sex polls and the majority of men fall between 4.5 and 5.9 (girth) so you are in the average range.
nothing too extreme.
also, 5'3 isn't that short. it would be different if she was like 4'11. plus i don't think that always mean anything.
if she's been fingered before and/or used tampons before her hymen should already be broken or at least worn away some.
as always, when you are w/ her take things slow at her pace and make sure she is ready.
read throught the posts on "1st time pain and bleeding" under "new to sex" to get an idea of some girls first times. mine wasn't bad at all and my b/f is pretty well endowed by length and girth.
all women enjoy different things. just take time to explore eachother and see what turns you both on. don't rush this one.