I just want to add here, that I used to have the same problem, even though my boyfriends didn't pressure me to have an orgasm, I pressured myself. I was 20 when I reached my first orgasm with a guy, and it happened when I was completely bored with the sex all together, and just waited him to get to end. In other words, I relaxed, forgot all about it and -woosh-, there it was.

To some girls it might be easier to orgasm, but then again, we all experience it differently. The intensity of it might not be as great as to some of it, so we even might think, that what you loose in quantity, you win in intensity. As life isn't fair, this isn't a fact, but makes you feel better, doesn't it?

Teen-aged boys are not masters in bed, I tell ya. And if he thinks he or his friends know everything there is to know about making girls come, I'm having a good laugh about it here. Most men go through their lives without ever getting to know more than the basics about sex, so if you're not orgasm, I'm not amazed. It would be great to orgasm just for the sight of a guy, but unfortunately that's just so not how it goes, right?

BTW, one of my exes told me that he KNEW his friends hadn't had had sex when they boasted about their great experiences. He on the other hand had had girls, but did he say a word? No. While the other guys were bragging about doing it, he was actually doing it.

Awesome post Lydia

[QUOTE=Quote (uncreativename @ Sep. 20 2005,14:55)]he always complains he rlly wants to get me to orgasm. i feel like theres so much pressure on me, and i just can't take it anymore.[/QUOTE]
Im sure this has a lot to do w/ it.
And as Brandye says, its YOUR orgasm, not his!
Don't do it for him, do it for yourself.

Also, guys talk... who's to say all that is really true that ALL his friends are making their girls scream.. ya know?
Im sure they'd say anything to make themselves look cool.

I myself can't usually orgasm with just penetration alone, as is most women. I/he has to either rub my clit, or I have a small vibe I use just on my clit.
My b/f doesn't care that it takes me a little something extra.

Just let your b/f know that it IS normal and that everyone woman isn't like those in a porn. Where they ride a guy for 20 seconds and they are screaming, lol.
I mean you guys can continue to work on it together but tell him not to make you feel bad or for him to get all frustrated when you can't.

I usually can orgasm fairly easy w/ the above mentioned technique but even then there are sometimes I just CANT no matter what. Doesn't matter if Im turned on or whatever. Just some days it isn't gonna happen. I just say oh well, lol

Again, try to relax and not freak out about it, you are normal and it will work itself out.
good luck

[QUOTE=Quote ]my bf... was telling me about how loads of his friends tell him how they get their gf's moaning and get them to orgasm in various sexy ways n w/e...
i feel so terrible as he always complains he rlly wants to get me to orgasm. i feel like theres so much pressure on me, and i just can't take it anymore. why can't i orgasm as easily as other girls my age??? i just feel so deeply upset about this and don't know what to do. my bf even suggested buying me a clit stimulator...why don't other teens have my problem?[/QUOTE]

I have a few things to say

1) your bf isnt very nice making you feel inadequate by comparing you to other girls. You are you, and you don't work the same way they do. They could even be faking it, to make their bfs feel better; he should be thankful you're being honest. All women are different, and for every one who cums really easily, there are a hundred for whom this takes a lot of time.

2) "he always complains" -  why should he complain? its selfish of him, and I'm pretty sure it would contribute to your lack of orgasm. Pressure is a sure-fire way to stop orgasms. it is not wrong of him to want you to orgasm; but he shouldnt place focus on himself: he seems to be looking for reassurance.

3) and other teens/people DO have your 'problem'!! Lots of, if not most, woman dont even have orgasms through masturbation til much later in life, let alone with a partner. Especially teenagers. Orgasms are delightful, if slightly elusive things, and they take time, effort and relaxation.

Its nice that your bf wants to please you sexually; but he needs to stop blaming you for the situation. He is feeling sorry for himself ("why cant i make her cum?") when he SHOULD be concentrating on simply making you feel good. You WILL orgasm. Just be patient. You are less likely to orgasm when there is any pressure, so stop focussing on it and just enjoy yourself.

You need to reassure your bf that its nothing wrong, its just you need him to relax about it more. And a 'clit stimulator' (presume you mean vibrator of some kind?) would be good; be sure to use it on your own first, to get used to what you do and dont like. Vibes are usually a pretty quick and easy way to orgasm, but again, keep pressure away. Tell him that what he does feels good.

Talk to him about what you like and dont like; show him, even. Its much harder to orgasm with an 'audience' for any number of reasons, but it WILL happen.

Good luck