Since you can get all these guys I am certain one will accommodate you in ending your virginity. Or maybe they will hold sex over you and have all the power :) As they say payback is a B****.

We were all virgins at the beginning. Nothing to be embarassed about. Do not become anxious; some date will really work out. No need to tell anyone.

Hey yeah Im pretty much the same as you, well actually I haven't done other stuff that much...mainly, the guys I've liked havent felt the same, and vice versa....well when I was a bit younger anyway....now the thing is, I'm going to sound up myself, but just so others know...I'm attractive, and have quite a good personality, but even though I have guys around me, and go out etc...I get anxious about the fact Im nearly mid 20s, and they're expecting experience.....and seriously, I want some fun as much as any other 20 something yr old!!! but I'm worried they'll think I'm planning the wedding, when all I want is some action haha. But it's the "to tell, or not to" debate...I've had guys turn brotherly on me, wanting to protect me, it's so frustrating!!! But then if I dont tell them, do I really want to look like Im just complete crap?
So while this hasn't helped you out, sorry, I just thought I'd let you know I understand your pain haha, and I'm another girl like you!!
People, help us out! Guys, do you care????
xoxox

Okay Monica & Starr:

Go out and find a FWB relationship. Lose it, get the deed done! Or look for someone older who is willing to help you out. Or just don't tell anyone you are virgins.

I find it hard to believe you are in you mid 20's and just cannot "get laid" (sorry to be crude). Look for a guy who is 28-30.

Maybe he was quite a bit bigger than average if it hurt. Or maybe you were just nervous. I remember my first time it wouldnt go in 'cos all the muscles had tensed from nerves!
Just find a nice guy, go on a few dates - dont tell him if you dont feel a need to! And when it comes to it, just relax! I know its easier said than done, maybe a few drinks will help you relax?

every guy isnt gonna run away scared from you. but i see you want to lose your virginity to someone you at least like. do exactly that! i know if i was told a girl was a virgin, that wouldnt put me off. im POSITIVE that a guy will help you in this. just go for it, dont let your fear hold you back.

To some men, those with whom love has meaning, the "popping of a cherry" as part of the initial physical demonstration of that love has a great deal of importance and meaning. That you or someone else is a virgin regardless of age and that "he" is the one in love with you and is the one to "deflower" you, has deep-seated relevance and importance to him. It is a guy thing both as it affects his ego and his psyche. Depending upon the relationship you have with a guy and where it is headed, telling him at some point that you are a virgin can be a hughly important milestone for a guy. So, please do not think that your situation is unique or somehow a hinderence; it is not as far as many of us are concerned.

As I see your so called predicament, you have at least three options:

O#1. Enjoy your status for and until Mr. Right comes along
O#2. Find someone, anyone, who will help change your status with little hesitation
O#3. Change the condition of your hymen, assuming it remains intact

As for the latter, I have written many times that in Western societies, a woman's status of being a virgin determined by her word on the matter. Why? Because the hymen can erode away early due to a number of factors such as being active in sports, riding, and/or using Tampons. With no intact hymen to absolutely prove that a person has not engaged in intercourse, then what proof is there? Her word and this alone.

Another topic I have written about many times is that with each new pairing or relationship there is a new Square One from which to begin.** This means that regardless of previous experience(s) one or both of you may have had, said experience equates to knowledge not skill. Here is a partial quote:

"People are different, what's more, people are wired differently and because of this may respond differently than someone else one or the other of you were with previously. Add to this that the two of you have individual likes, dislikes, preferences, quirks, moral values, beliefs, hangups, expectations, troubles with this or that as well as finding one or more activities much to your liking. Discovering these things, working through any problem areas, and learning to become proficient as a team are all unique to the two of you and have little bearing on past compatibility with someone else. You have a unique set of dynamics. Sex ain't just about plugging P into V. While this may be the common denominator, arriving at the solution often takes unique turns and twists that will be different than what was encountered with another partner."

One avenue to consider with the above in mind together with an intact hymen is to eliminate the so called roadblock that is both physically and emotionally hindering you. You might consider doing one or more of the following:

* Doing some stretching exercises to make the hymen and the vaginal entrance more complient so that when initial penetration does happen, it won't be a big deal
* Open the hymen yourself using Tampons over the course of time, or--
+ just working with it using a finger or dildo
* Having your doctor do the deed with a little nick of a scalpel

** With no physical barrier, the only barrier remaining is psychological and I have explained how this can really be a non-issue.

From your description of events over the years, it sounds like you have yet to find the right guy, either for sex sake or for for the sake of love and sex. Keep looking. Keep dating.

Enough already!
All of his "they'll tell their friends" and "having power over them" tells me you are NOT mature enough to have sex. Why are you still worrying about such nonsense? None of that really matters.
Do you tell him you're a virgin? Yes, but actually it will be unnecessary becuse any man with any experience will know because you will be bad at it. Face it, did you immediately stand up and run the first steps you ever took? No, of course not. Same thing here. Practice makes perfect.
So go out and get laid - have him do it at least twice that first session (grit your teeth if you have to) and get on with your life.

I think you have an inner conflict yourself: should I, should I not?
I was in quite similar situation. 19, been with a girl once (I am bisexual), had oral sex way before, masturbated a lot and did gymnastic (so I was pretty sure it wouldn't be too hurting). The other thing was I felt really prepared for sex, wanted it instead of waiting for "perfect one".
So one day I just did it, had one night stand and lost my virginity. It wasn't painful. He made me orgasm just before we had intercourse, so I was pretty relaxed as well. That was the start of whole new life, I suddenly started feeling much better, much more self confident. Before, never had a bf, since then I've never been single. So in fact, I am not at all sorry I did that with basically a person I didn't know.
What I meant, if you feel like doing it, don't wait too much. If you doubt, then don't. If you only want to do it because it's "so late and I am already ashamed to admit I am a virgin", then it's not your time yet.

Wait for a guy you love, that loves you. A guy that loves you will think it's sweet that he took your virginity.. and it will probably only make you love him more. That's how I would feel if I was in his position anyway.

You do not need to have a relationship to get sex. To prevent freak outs get yourself an older guy not one of your current crop of hangers-on.

If a woman told me she was a virgin i would ask if she would wait to have sex. I would ask her if she was masterbaiting or if she thought about stretching at all. I would do whatever i could do to prevent pain for her during intercourse and hopefully give her an orgasim. I would of course be a little nervous about being "her first". Before you get to that point in a relationship, you should have a long talk with your guy. Tell him your concerns; if he's good, he won't run away.

Right. I totally agree with Evilkitty and the Doc.

Get laid. Use a dildo in you beforehand. It will help get the feeling and size, and will ease the pain of the first tries, because you already adapted beforehand.

HOWEVER...

A warning

You are holding your virginity as a price. Don't. Sooner or later, no one will care. Actually, men don't care. Kids care, men don't. Virginity is not that valued, and since I'm pagan, even less for me, for instance.

Being a control freak will get you lonely in the end. You have been warned.

I'm another one the same. I'm personally pretty ok with being a virgin, as I'm really not that concerned with the idea of "virginity" to begin with, but like you, There's no way that I'd let it slip to the community at large.

Do you have a good guy friend that you could fool around with? If I felt like you and wanted to get it over with, then why not turn to a really good friend who will respect your wish to not spread the word that he got your virginity? Maybe that sounds weird, but at least you'd feel better about it being with someone you can trust and who you know will work with you. It doesn't have to be someone you want to be in a relationship with, but I mean, I have had guy friends that I've slept with and that is all it was. We are still great friends, but we've had sex. The sex didn't change anything and the sex was really comfortable and fun.

Well, can I say I'm in my twenties and am still a virgin. I'm a guy not that bad lookin have plenty of female friends just no girl at the moment. My last g/f didn't know I was virgin but it never got to the sex. I would love to be satisfied by a loving girl, but I want to be with someone I care for a little bit. So ladies don't think your alone.

Losing your virginity does hurt a little. It was just awkward and uncomfortable for me. I think some people think that it's supposed to be the best sex ever and if it's not, you've wasted something special. For me, it was just awkward and uncomfortable. I felt like having sex with somebody who actually cared about me for the first time was like losing my virginity...because it was the first time that sex became fun and enjoyable.

Have you tried just using a lot of lube, or asking for some oral beforehand? That always helps me when I'm dry, and that might be contributing to the problem.

I think the idea of doing it with a male friend is a good one. Just do it, and then the next time you do it you'll be a lot less nervous and that will make sex more comfortable.