I had this same problem..I couldn't understand why he wouldn't use his tongue as much as anyone i've ever been with before. I never brought the issue up, except once when i was drunk and i either told him to stick his tongue in my mouth or why don't you use your tongue..i can't remember what i said. But what i found was whenever he did then use his tongue it would send me crazy, i'd get like a shiver right up me. So because he wasn't using it all the time whenever he did it felt amazing.

You can't really force him to like it.. About all you can really do is ask him why he doesn't like it specifically, find reasons and concerns and see if you can maybe talk through them and come to a solution.

Some guys are just not really into kissing. My boyfriend is the same way. We've discussed it and he just told me flat out he doesn't really like to do it for that long. Since then we've found other things to do and moved past it. You're really not going to know the reason until you ask him!

Usually such things are caused by a mental idea that it is "gross". This applies to other areas of sex as well as to French kissing as witnessed by the "ick" many women feel about "swallowing".

Discussion may help. Body worshiip may help. But other than that - there isn't much you can do beyond getting another more kissable male in.

With french kissing, sometimes I think its possible to unintentionally be a bit too forceful. If one partner goes in too hard with their tongue, it can sometimes seem intrusive to the other person, and can be a bit overpowering. The other person may feel like they have lost some control. You need to find the right balance.

I love kissing in general, but I've found that french kissing can be a bit hit or miss. Sometimes it works well, and when it does its wonderful, but that's not always the case. If the other person doesn't want it, then there is no point in trying to make them do it. There are many other aspects to kissing that can be just as enjoyable.

One of the most enjoyable french kisses I ever had was on a date a couple of years ago, with a woman who had a rather unusual kissing technique. When we kissed, she placed her tongue level with her lips then gently moved her tongue from side to side. I responded in the same way, and it was the most incredibly intense and erotic experience! The great thing about this kissing technique was that there was not only contact between our tongues, but also contact between the tongue and the other person's lip.

I have used this technique a number of times since, but have never managed to recapture the effect in quite the same way, so maybe it had more to do with the mood we were in at the time.

But boy, what a kiss!

i'm the other way around...my guy likes deep kissing, but i don't. :o

Well Stormy after we talked about it we started to conentrate on touching each other more then kissing. He also doesn't mind kissing anything else on me, so I of course I encouraged he do that! But since we got it all out in the open he does indulge me now and again with passionate kisses. I know that wouldn't have been the case if I kept my mouth shut. Hope that helps a little!

i love to deep kiss with my GF (although i am new to it) we usually just kiss with lips which is fine enough and i really enjoy it too, but when things are heating up and she becomes very aroused she likes to deep kiss more, it's very passionate and a huge turn on for both of us.

try kissing and playing with his tongue with your lips and tongue without going inside his mouth, it might be something to do with going too deep that bothers him.

i too prefer 'reserving' the deep kisses for 'special occasions' so to speak...like when you're feeling particularly close or in a passionate mood, etc. I'm the one that keeps back on the kisses too - rather than him.

One other reason I sometimes keep back is if he would still be tasting of the food he ate! That really bothers me.....so if i'm in the mood of some good kissing I offer him a mint before if a toothbrush isnt handy...we've spoken about it and he understands so again...best thing is to communicate and talk about it.

I still enjoy that we dont do it all the time....if we did it wouldn't feel as special and intimate.

agreed, the 'special moment' feeling when you really go deep with kissing makes it so much more passionate

I'll periodically french kiss with my wife, but it's not something that I often have any huge craving to do. I know she loves it though.

To me, it's an act that sort of beckons the 'old days'. Like those young adolescent times when deep kissing was the pinnacle of expected intimacy. Or when your or the early days with a new girl ("Yeah, I finally made out with her for the first time!")