Okay so yesterday me and my girlfriend had sex, as we usually do on a Thursday.
Usually we fall asleep afterwards and wake up feeling in a cuddling mood but yesterday for some strange reason we both decided to go at it again, just over a minute after we had finished the first time.
We were in a rush due to the fact we had to get back to college so fast it was, she came but I didn't, she then got all upset and disappointed with words such as "I can't even make my own boyfriend cum".
Keeping in mind that I we both came the first time, I tried explaining that the chances of my cumming so soon after the first time were slim but she didn't want to listen.
How can I explain to her that after cumming a first time and getting back to the action so soon, that I was unlikely to cum again as soon as she had of hoped ...
... or do I just have my facts wrong and my penis is somewhat broken ;).
Men all have recovery times. These vary among men and in the same man from event to event. Could have to do with rest, diet, how long you were erect, how long since you ejaculated and whether or not you were comfortable.
We women have the advantage of almost zero recovery time! Men can be satiated without being satisfied; women can be satisfied without being satiated.
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the tip of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative and how-to articles. Information and knowledge are empowering and I encourage both of you begin reading. Here is the first article to read:
Boys and Masturbation
Please scroll down to the section on Multiple Orgasms. If she won't believe you, maybe she will believe our resident M.D., Brandye, and, me.
Was your girlfriend sad or disappointed that you were unable to climax a second time, or, was she somehow upset with herself? Either way, it does not matter. The information she has is incorrect as the article will explain. You are correct as the article will explain.
> she then got all upset and disappointed with words such as "I can't even make my own boyfriend cum".
The next tidbit of information she should know and understand is that we do not give orgasms away. Each person is responsible for his/her own orgasms. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve one. This and the fact that men have a longer recovery time as explained in the article. Our recovery/refractory period is much longer than those for women, and to date, this is probably her only reference.
Now, here's the good thing that I bet neither of you considered: Even though she can have multiple orgasms often in quick succession, the two of you can space any of her multiple orgasms in between any two of yours. In addition, when you determine how long your typical recovery time is, you can then plan to incorporate one of hers to coincide with one of yours. Just continue to fool around and make out in the interim. In other words--YOUR LOVE MAKING SESSION DOES NOT HAVE TO END UNLESS YOU RUN OF OUT TIME. It is not unusual for one or both to think that just because a man has climaxed and may have lost his erection that sex and love making are over. WRONG. This time period is simply the pause in the proceedings with more to come (cum?) later. Continue the lovin' for as long as the desire is there, rebuild his erection when he has recovered and proceed on to the next round.
I recommend that the two of you, together or independently, begin reading the articles listed in the Index and then discuss each of them. The two of you will benefit from the insightful information.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
I masterbate A LOT!!! I'm not sure if you do, but I find I can cum multiple times in a short period of time. Less and less each time but it still cums. Hope this helps a little bit. ^_^
YUP! Typical.
I suggest that if a guy does not yet know about recovery (refractory periods) and how long each of these times are for him, that he take the question home and explore thru masturbation. Depending upon age, sex drive, and how an individual is "wired", a person's refractory period can be between about ten to thirty minutes--less if the boy is right out of puberty.
So learn while having fun! Once you learn how your body reacts you can bring this information to your make out sessions.
It is also important to know how many climaxes you can have during the day whether they are spread out over the course of a day/night and/or some grouped together in multiples in a session.