Hello everyone,
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year, and he is a very loving, caring man who would give me the world if I asked for it. However, his only shortcoming is that he has somewhat of a small penis and his tongue is abnormally short (mild Ankyloglossia...when he sticks out his tongue, it only goes about 3/4 of an inch past his lips). His tonuge also gets tired quickly. This hasn't been great for our sex life, because it takes a lot of time and patience for me to orgasm (but it's possible). He gets very discouraged when I don't orgasm during sex, and it's quite frustrating to be sexually excited and not be able to have any sort of "release" without "taking things into my own hands" so to speak.
We masturbate side-by-side often, because it's the only thing that can make me orgasm. I still enjoy sex with him, because it feels good and I like giving him pleasure. Yet, he has confessed to me that it makes him feel guilty when he can have an orgasm (manually, orally, or through intercourse) and I can't. Half of the enjoyment of sex is knowing that he feels pleasure, and I feel bad that he can't experience that joy of watching and feeling me orgasm.
We've tried vibrating cockrings, vibrators, various positions (I'm an avid reader of "cosmopolitan"), relaxation, watching porn together, extending foreplay, fantasizing, erotic massage, the list goes on...
Has anyone else been in this situation? My girlfriends can't relate to me in this department- they've all figured out how to reach orgasm with their partners. Does anyone have any suggestions? Any advice (or commiseration!) would be very much appreciated.
Wow, you get size problems and i get allergy problems. What about a sollution that will take longer, like, buying a penis enlarger and trying that(one like Austin Powers uses.) I dont know if theres a procedure were his tongue can be surgically extended. Being a man, I cant empathise with you but you have my sympathy and i hope you both find a sollution that works for the best.
HEY !!! wait a minute...I thought "size" doesn't matter:p :p :p Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmpft.....LOL
Luvs, size only matters when you are lacking it. Otherwise, it doesn't matter at all.
try a penis extention
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Enhancement devices such as potions, creams, or pumps, do not work, regardless of the hype or advertising dollars spent on such gimmicks. Pumps can be downright dangerous, even though they temporarily swell the penile structure to fill the void within the vacuum chamber.
Most women in the know will tell you that it isn't the size that matters, rather, what you do with it that counts. If it is long enough for her to grasp, it is large enough for her to control your arousal progress.
> it makes him feel guilty when he can have an orgasm (manually, orally, or through intercourse) and I can't. Half of the enjoyment of sex is knowing that he feels pleasure, and I feel bad that he can't experience that joy of watching and feeling me orgasm.
There are only a few positions that make it really possible for a woman to have an orgasm during intercourse. Most of the time a knowledgeable, caring, lover will reach around and finger his partner while stroking and thrusting away. Moreover, he may see to her pleasure by helping her achive an orgasm before and/or after intercourse if it is what she desires.
Reaching a climax requires nearly constant friction. Most positions only let a woman's vulva have intermittant contact and this is simply not sufficient stimulation. The positions that make reaching a climax more likely are:
* The Woman Superior
* The Missionary in which the man rides high up giving the base of his penis and pubic area more contact with her pieces-parts
* The "X" and "Y" positions in which a couple reclines on their sides facing each other. The difference being in how they position their legs.
> it's quite frustrating to be sexually excited and not be able to have any sort of "release" without "taking things into my own hands" so to speak.
Asked and answered, above. There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking matters into your own hands; yet, why not let it be his fingers??
He already has an image of how you masturbate, now, teach him the fine art by guiding his movements by taking his fingers in your hand a few times until he learns to mimic your specific movements, rhythms, and pressures. Let him pleasure you while having intercourse.
There are Kama Sutra positions to accommodate a small penis and give the woman more sensation and pleasure.
I will agree with dancingdoc, let his hands bring you to your O.
With practice, you both can come together, if you like.
There is no "right" way to have sex. Every couple will have their own techniques and joys. That is part of the fun of sex, the exploration of each other and finding what pleases. Enjoy each other's body and enjoy the giving of pleasure in whatever way you choose.