I have been dating this really nice guy for a while. We have tried to have sex twice and both times it was a disaster. He couldn't seem to insert or stay inserted. I don't know what to do in this situation. I am quite timid in the bedroom because I have had some bad experiences. So, I am not really experienced enough to "help."
Fri, 09/15/2006 - 20:57
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Slipping out - problems in Bedroom
so he can't get hard? and when he does get hard, he slips out?
He can get hard. But he slips out to the point of frustration.
Well, there are two factors that I can think of right off the bat.
1. He's "hard" but not rock hard, if you know what I mean... or
2. He's just pulling out too far.
If it's the first, then work him until it's rock hard.
If it's the later, grip his ass and keep him in... or you do the workings and get on top so YOU can control the motion. When on top, you don't always have to go up and down, grinding guys {in a soft or hard manner} works wonders.
And if you are on top, while grinding, and he still slips out... the only way for that to really happen is if he's "soft-hard" and it bends out. In which case... make him rock-hard before having sex.
I agree with reiahart, if he has trouble with that getting really hard, get him a cock ring. WORK WONDERS. Hard, lasts longer, and it's bigger. My boyfriend has one. Makes for a wonderful night.
Also, some men get over zealous. I'd hop on top so you can Energizer Bunny it.
Another thing is, try different postions, that stimulate blood flow, standing ones perhaps? they increase: size,hardness, and amount fo time hard. IT also gives you a chance to see what it really is -via- looking down every once in a awhile. Cock rings work good too.. I have two different ones.. onne's for masturbating if I'm finding it hard to cum >.> and the other for normal sex, allowing me to stay harder longer