hey all!
I asked my boyfriend the other day how he achieved his best orgasm. He told me that a girl he was with previously had just slightly touched him, i.e blowing air on his penis or draping her hair over it, and teased him enough to the point of no return. He says it really got him off. I have tried foreplay using this method, but of course I get anxious and we end up having oral or vaginal sex.
Has anybody ever actually tried this? How long do you think it would take for me to do all that teasing?
Well it depends. I mean I know when someone is going down on me, and their hair brushes down my chest, or against my les while moving down, it drives me bonkers, but it would still take me a while for a "slight" touch.
i love teasing and using light touches, but my bf would always get mad at me for it, so i couldnt do it for very long :o
Both of the techniques you specify are great. Long hair dragged across him can really do wonders. Be aware that you sometimes end up with semen in unexpected places!
> I have tried foreplay using this method, but of course I get anxious and we end up having oral or vaginal sex.
Isn't this the point? What am I missing?
Even if you have a climax sooner than desired, this does not mean you are finished. Making love can go on for hours and include more than one or two climaxes.
Why on earth would you be getting anxious?
When you're doing this, and it is called "ghosting" btw, you should be taking notes of what he likes where and how. Think of it as exploring him and do not limit it to just his penis. This is part of body worship. Please read the sticky post on that subject.
I'm not sure I am that sensitive down there for that to work, but during the first few months of our relationship my girlfriend basically made out with my ear...and I just about blew it!
You mean to tell me that having your gf down there does NOT make you sensitive? Tsk tsk tsk.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;200733]You mean to tell me that having your gf down there does NOT make you sensitive? Tsk tsk tsk.[/QUOTE]
she doesn't really go down there anymore...after she realized it took 15+ minutes to get me off with a bj, and I tried to let her know how to make her handjobs better...she doesn't even bother anymore.
[quote=NoLoveAtHome;200739]she doesn't really go down there anymore...after she realized it took 15+ minutes to get me off with a bj, and I tried to let her know how to make her handjobs better...she doesn't even bother anymore.[/quote]If she is that unwilling to be an active partner to your needs as you give her her needs; you need to talk, if no results re-think the relationship.
It takes you 15+ minutes to get off from fellatio? You should be ashamed of yourself! You really do need to work on your sensitivity! When was the last time you spent 15+ minutes giving her cunnilingus?
Well if all she hears is "you're doing it wrong" and "it is your fault I can't come" no wonder she doesn't try any more.
i never tell her she's doing it wrong. and I can spend all day down there on her...so that is definitely not a problem.
Communication commuication.......take the time to simply talk and discuss
things. Both in personal and professional life, communication seems to
solve so MANY PROBLEMS. Just talk and LISTEN. Maybe, it is something
that you can solve jointly.