So I am seeing two guys, my ex, who isn't exactly my ex anymore and a new guy...here are the details....
The ex...
23
6'2"
known him for 15 years
love of my life...
9" when hard he's uncut
The new guy
19
5'4"
known him for 5 months
i'm falling fast for him
7" when hard he's cut
Me
26 (yes I am Mrs. Robinson apparently)
5'2"
likes to experiment, but has only been with these two guys
Ok so here is the deal....i really like both of these guys. They know about each other so everything is open and honest. Neither is really ready for a serious commitment...we are all young.
I see each one about twice a week and the sex is amazing with each, but very unique.
The ex once told me he would never do a threesome with two guys, but wanted to try with two girls. I told him I couldn't see myself with two guys, but two girls might be fun.
Well now I am really wanting to try with two guys...the ex and I experiment with toys and anal all the time.
The new guy has just tried toys with me and I have never mentioned anal to him or threesomes, because its to new.
WELL....
Last night while chatting on the phone with the ex, he brought up wanting to try some new things and I was cool with it. So I mentioned to him that I had started thinking about something, but I knew he wouldn't want to try.
He said: "let me guess, you want a threesome with me and "the new guy", I was like yeah. He said he wasn't sure about it, but he might give it a try. I was surprised as hell....
Now how do I proceed....
I think I would really like it, but neither of them know each other and this is something I had NEVER thought of doing before so I have NO idea what I am doing....
I'm more curious about why you thought it was important to tell us whether the men are uncut or cut. Usually only men write about themselves that way.
just to get a perspective on the experience I guess...since sex is complete different with the two.
The only difference being uncut makes, from a sexual mechanics point of view, is that it makes fellatio a bit more difficult since there's more skin to mess with. I do hope you are using condoms with both of your men. Sex is not only different between men, each having his own style, but subtly each time with the same man.
Now then, as to how to proceed. YOU are going to have decide upon what roles you want the men to play. There does not have to be any bisexual activity involved - so the men can relax. Generally speaking, you engage in foreplay with both men, begin sex with the first man and the second man eases in where he can. The focus is upon you. You change positions - now the man who was second becomes first and the man who was first becomes the second who moves in where he can. The men alternate taking "the lead" as it were.
Please be sure to have plenty of non-alcoholic fluids available. It is important for everyone to stay well hydrated. Use fresh condoms each time. Lubricate as necessary. Stay clean and tidy esp if doing anything anal. Shower all together afterwards and then cuddle with them both.
Well always use protection, that is a rule.
Yeah the ex is totally for it as long as he doesn't have to do anything directly with the other guy, although in previous circumstances when we have been out he has made out with a guy or two for my enjoyment, so I wouldn't oppose him doing that.
The ex and I love the whole double penetration experience we have had sex while using toys so that I get the feeling, so I think that is why he is so accepting to this. He knows I like it and this would a chance to experience it as the real deal.
The new guy and I have never really tried anal or discussed it....sooooo....I still have to talk to him. I figured he could take on the easier role that he would be more comfortable with and the ex could do the anal stuff.
But who knows if the new guy agrees to this, he may want to try anal too.
My big hurdle is bringing this up to the new guy.
If he really likes you, and is the jealous type, he'll say no.
I wouldn't feel comfortable with anyone even asking me for that with my girl friend.
OH just pounce upon him and then tell him all about it. Most men will not say no.
I dunno, I think the new guy might be concerned since the other guy is your "ex" not just some random guy, lol.
People, remember that both of these guys know about the other and that they aren't in high school. It is the lady's choice here.
Yes they both know about each other and I have kept things very open....
[quote=michelle2004;199823]Yes they both know about each other and I have kept things very open....[/quote]I guess the little "shrinking violet" (months ago) has now come out to be the woman she was intended to be...:)
Yeeehaw!! About damn time!
well the 19 yr old wasn't so keen on the idea....so scrap it for now.
Well, you need to find someone less timid. Try an older man - they're not so easily 'upset' by experimentation.
well the ex and I got into a car accident and I am just trying to figure out my life now. We are both ok, but shaken up.
So he wants me to work on what makes me happy while he finishes school.
The new guy couldn't handle me seeing both of them....
So now I am seeing neither one, but the new guy is slowly coming back into the picture and the ex and I are trying to just be friends so we can focus on work and school, before we start "playing with fire" again.....