hello, ok well me and my bf ave been together for 8 months now, am 16 and hes 18, he is really great to be with and we both love each other to bits and are always with each other. the legal age in scotland to have sex is 16 and we have both had sex with each other and i am also on the pill, (which my mum wanted me to go on!) we both would really like it if we could sleep with each other, like in the same bed like actual "sleeping" cos we really love cuddling up and just want to wake up next to each other but the prob is my mum... she wont let us!
when ever he stays over (never dose now but is ok with not staying) hes on the couch cos my mum wont let him sleep with me in my bed for some weird reason, she dont know that i have had sex yet wi ma bf and i cant talk to her about this kind of stuff either, put it this way she is alway on the computer and never spends any time with her kids!
i think she thinks that she never wants me to do anything sexual at all reali and she'l say "...your to younge...and not ready..." or something along those lines to everything to do with sex but the thing is i am legal to do anything sexual and i was ready when i done it and how is she supposed to know when am ready or not anyway??!! .she wont even let me sleep with him on the couch either which is stupid as her room is down stairs and is next to the livinroom so we would not be so stupid to do anything anyways when she is that close lol
i would like to talk to my mum about this but am just too scared to or its just not the right time to and dont know how to say it to her/ask her things.
it would be really helpful if you(s) could reply with some useful advice please, thanks alot.
I'll just leave you with my little experiance with this. Im 19 years old and just started my first 'real' relationship. Anyways to get to the point, my boyfriend stayed the night (no sex.) My mom was so pissed off that she came bursting into my room. It's out of respect that you dont have sex, or that he even stays in your moms house for the night. Or atleast thats what she told me. Lol. I do understand her point of view of course. I dont think its as bad if the female stays the night over at the males house.
That first paragraph is exactly my situation except I live in England :P
I'm 18 and my girlfriend is 16, her mum won't let us sleep together in her house .. but knows that we do when we stay at mine or we go away. I guess its just the thing of being in her house.
I usually sleep in my girlfriends bed and she'll sleep on a fold out bed on the floor (I've always tried to be a gentleman and say I'd sleep on the floor but she won't let me XD).
We're fine with it cos my parents will let us sleep together and we go away quite a lot together. It'll get better as you get older I suppose and until then you'll just have to wait.
My parents always told me that if I didn't do it there, I was going to do it somewhere else, so they didn't worry about it - they're pretty liberal, though.
Her house, her rules. Live with them 'till you're on your own.
[QUOTE=Hurricane88;164376]That first paragraph is exactly my situation except I live in England :P
I'm 18 and my girlfriend is 16, her mum won't let us sleep together in her house .. but knows that we do when we stay at mine or we go away. I guess its just the thing of being in her house.
I usually sleep in my girlfriends bed and she'll sleep on a fold out bed on the floor (I've always tried to be a gentleman and say I'd sleep on the floor but she won't let me XD).
We're fine with it cos my parents will let us sleep together and we go away quite a lot together. It'll get better as you get older I suppose and until then you'll just have to wait.[/QUOTE]
Funny this man, you and your girlfriend are same age as me and my gf and your from Manchester :)
My gf sleeps in my room when we stay at mine, but when im at hers i have my own room, her mum did say do we want to stay together one night, but i refused out of respect to her and her husband.
thanks for all you'r replys.
yeah i think it looks like that we will just have to wait yeah, and we dont have a problem with that either, as we have the rest of our lifes to sleep with each other in the same bed :) and we cant really go to his house either cos his mum wont let him or his older brother (which shares the room with him) having there gf's staying over.
i also have a single bed under my double bunk-bed, she wont even let him sleep on that, but there aint anything i can do, yeah its her rules, her house and we'll just wait.
but anyway thanks xXx