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SEX e.g. INTERCOURSE

Next, please read other articles on the how-to's of making out.

> She is 14, but it looks like she are 15-16.

That's nice; however, when it comes to relationships and romance, what is more important is a person's maturity, not looks. Both are much more complex emotionally than masturbation. Understanding this fact, what is your background with this girl? Are you dating? If so, how long? Have you made out and if so to what extent? I ask because if the two of you have not been fooling around and making out much if at all, then you are really rushing into intercourse prematurely and should devote many weeks or months to simply making out and later, going only as far as foreplay.

Many girls at 14 have not developed physically enough for their body to easily have a child should a pregnancy result. Keep in mind that the process of changing from a child into an adult is a decade long process and she is only half way through the change.

> she wants me to be on-top and I don't have so much knowledge about the positions.

The Missionary position works OK for first time intercourse; although, many of us on the site recommend the Woman Superior or Cowgirl position. The reasons are many and explained in one or more of the articles. You can also do a site search using my name and the search term "Woman Superior/Cowgirl" for more information.

> Is the position 'missionary' good for men on-top?

Usually it is; although the question to ask should be: "Is the position good for women the first time?" You will learn why the Woman Superior is better as you do some research.

> I'm a bit worried that I can't get into the vagina, I don't have a to big penis though. She says that she are not a virgin, will there be trouble to get inside her then?

This is a major reason to use the WS/C position. She knows where P & V are and can deftly bring the two together, often saving the guy some angst and embarrassment.

Will the initial penetration be difficult? Perhaps. Much depends not so much on size but with preparation.
* Has she been adequately aroused
* Is she wet
* How nervous is she/you
* Have you lubricated your penis, also
* Technique and knowing how best to go about inserting a penis

> She says that she are not a virgin

Please read the article on "experience" for more on this. It should calm your self doubt.

What are you planning to do for protection? Please be certain to read the information on this before making to many plans.
What are your plans should your girlfriend become pregnant?

After doing the reading, please do not hesitate to ask questions. I hope this is of help.

-doc

Let us begin with the fact thaqt you each would be guilty of contributing to the delinquency of a minor. Seems silly, but judges have found that to be so. Neither of you is yet ready for sex. Imagine telling your father that you are becoming a father. There are many outside the vagina tricks that each of you may enjoy and will do more than tide you over. They will give a knowledge of your own body and of hers. Then you will have different questions.

I have heard that 69 position is always best for having sex with your partner but I found some disadvantages of 69position. If man is on top then You could suffocate her easily if your pleasure takes over your realistic train of thought.
You might strain your neck if you keep struggling to lick her deep within.
Once she puts your penis in her mouth, she could have a hard time getting it out considering you'll probably have a tendency to want to keep it in there.

What does this, tacita, offer to the original poster?

> I have heard that....

You should not believe everything you see in the movies and none of any gossip.

Tacitascott, have you looked at the illustrated animated sexual positions on the site? Yes or no, you may want to (re)visit the section on 69.

> You might strain your neck if you keep struggling to lick her deep within.

How deep is "deep"? The usual tongue only extends about an inch beyond the mouth.

> Once she puts your penis in her mouth, she could have a hard time getting it out considering you'll probably have a tendency to want to keep it in there.

Pure conjecture, based upon what? The old saying "try it you'll like it" holds true with any position or variation. Do not be afraid to adjust.

you might want to check out the local laws concerning statuatory rape..you could be in big trouble with a 14 yr old girl..just a thought..

Man have I got a story, I lost my virginity when I was 14 to my girlfriend at the time who was 14. Her parents caught us one night (we usually went to an empty "for sale" house near by). The house was completely locked, so we decided to go to her house instead (it was much closer than my house). My X girl-friends' parents decided woke up (idk why) and caught us in the act, I was lucky that her father didn't beat the s**t out of me, they called the cops. All the cops did was take me home, since my girl-friend at the time had let me in through the front door. What could have been the possible consequences if her parents could in fact press any charges, I live in CA, Kern County.