Some women I've been with have been very responsive, vocally and otherwise, whereas others are practically silent.
But I have heard from some of the silent one's friends, and they testify that she/them actually enjoyed themselves.
This leads to my question:
Can women have orgasms without the panting/screaming/song and dance routine?
Thank you for your attention, female board goers.
I certainly can. I'm fairly quiet. I rarely even sigh or moan.
He usually has to ask if I came, in which I respond yes, and then he says something like that's good and we continue on.
I believe it is a good idea for a woman to communicate to her lover that she did orgasm using some form of verbal or non-verbal communication. A "whew", "wow", or some other utterance or just a squeeze of the hand or some other form of body english that the two of you work out. Doing so need not be a major distraction from the bliss of the moment yet it does inform and keep a guy from wondering if what he is or has been doing had the right affect.
I would tend to agree with dancingdoc, in that I would like feedback... But, as someone relatively new to the sex as I, I was astonished to hear that there could be good feelingness unaccompanied by sound effects. This makes things far less intuitive, and therefore upsetting to me.
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[QUOTE=Quote (foxtrotuniformcharliekilo @ Jan. 02 2006,02:53)]But, as someone relatively new to the sex as I, I was astonished to hear that there could be good feelingness unaccompanied by sound effects. This makes things far less intuitive, and therefore upsetting to me.[/QUOTE]
Why is that upsetting.
Just as everything else in life, sex isn't simple black and white.
Women dont come w/ big flashing neon signs that say "Im horny" or "I just came".
I myself am not that much of a vocal person, in or out of the bedroom.
I do usually let my b/f know that I am about to come... just as a FYI lol.
W/ experience you will be able to better read expressions and body language.
There is no question about a man's orgasm. There is a wetspot. And every male orgasm is quite similar to the others. The variation is mostly in intensity. This leads, regrettably, to male expectation that women's orgasms are more or less the same.
There is great variation among women and within one woman at different times. We leave no incontrovertible evidence that we had an orgasm. And each orgasm is a bit different from every other. It is wonderful being a woman.