First of all, try talking to HIM about the fact that you are nervous about it, and are worried about not knowing what to do. If he is any kind of decent man, he will be supportive, encouraging and guide you. Like anything else, its something you learn with practice and the more you try it the better you'll get, as long as you are willing to learn. If he is worthy of you, he will be patient and help you to become more confident and skilled, and most certainly won't dump you for however awkward you might be on top or when giving him head.

Now, as far as going down on him, the main page of this site has links about blow-job technique, starting from basics, read those and they should be very helpful to you. Only do as much as you are comfortable with, and don't be shy. Remember, he will enjoy you touching his penis, and its something for you to have fun with as well. I used to be really nervous and dread giving head, but now I find it massively entertaining to know that I can drive him wild. With practice and the right kind of guidance from him, you won't feel awkward about it for long.
Being on top isn't that complicated. The thing to remember is to just try to be smooth in your movements until you are comfortable enough with it to go into a faster and more forceful pattern. Start out slow, figure out what feels good for you, and just let your body move in whatever way feels natural. And remember, he WANTS to see you riding him, to him its a beautiful sight. He can even put his hands on your hips and help to guide your movements if you want him to. Don't be nervous about it, the more confident and enthusiastic you are about it, the better you'll be. And you shouldn't be doing it just to please him. Think about it as your chance to be in control, and your chance to explore what feels good for YOU, when you are in charge of the speed, angle, force, etc.

Again, the best thing you can do is communicate your inhibitions to HIM. Tell him that you are willing but feel nervous and unsure about what you are doing. If he doesn't respond in a positive and supporting manner, then he isn't worthy of your attention and SHOULD go seek what he wants elsewhere, because you deserve better. Sex is about MUTUAL pleasure and enjoyment. Don't let him or anyone else ever make you feel uncomfortable about it.

Raez is right. Just because he wants you on top doesn't mean that he expects you to do all the work, especially the first time. Just being open to the idea is going to be a big turn on for him.
I like having a headboard, gives me something to hold on to to help balance and additional leverage. Otherwise it's alot on your knees and midsection muscles. Also his hands on your hips and bum gives him some input, how fast, how deep and well what man doesn't want to touch his ladies hips and bum?
Don't be afraid of doing what he does to you, when you are on your back. Lean in and give him kisses, brush the hair off his face if needed. Ect, ect, ect. Relax and give it a try, if he's worth it then try.

I know you are a recent newcomer to the site; however, I'm surprised you haven't looked around more because I've written articles on all this and I must have said it a couple of dozen times if I've said it once--making love is not what we do to one another, it is what we do with and for each other. A relationship including the romantic and sexual aspects as well are a partnership. A couple should explore and learn together.

Another article you should read is the one on experience. Pay particular attention to the part describing "Square One". You'll find these and much much more listed in the Index.

--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics

I do understand your apprehension about being a good lover yet not yet having the experience. My question to you is were you perfect the first few times you sat upon a bicycle? No one expects you to be a great lover right out of the starting gate. Your boy friend like most of us will be happy to simply have you participate willingly and enthusiastically. Experience equates to knowledge, not skill. Every new partner even if you are each others first, has a Square One from which we begin so even experienced lovers with new partners can have some shaky and unsure first few episodes.

Please do not be so hard on yourself. It is better to talk to each other about your interests, likes, dislikes, fears, and, expectations and work together as a team.

As for being on top, I regularly recommend this position for women who expect to loose their virginity. Why? Because it places you in complete command.

* You know where P and V are and can deftly bring the two together saving your man some angst and possible embarrassment.

* You can position the penis correctly against the hymen if it is still intact so he can slip past it and apply pressure to stretch and break it if needed.

* You can guide the penis inside at the right moment, with the right pressure, with the right speed, to the right depth.

* You can then begin stroking action with a speed, depth, and rhythm that is comfortable for you.

Later, once you are comfortable with one another, this is one of the few positions that brings your pieces-parts into constant ongoing contact with his pubic area in order to produce the needed friction to peak your arousal and trigger a climax.

There may be other benefits to this position, however, none will be worth a hoot if you are too embarrassed or self conscious to recognize the benefits and just go for it. Sex is serious business, yet should not be taken so seriously that the two of you cannot have a good chuckle once in a while. Relax. Have trust in him and in yourself. Self doubting will keep you from moving ahead whether it be this or some other aspect of your future.

Lastly, I can tell you this: Boys/men pretty much decide to accept a woman warts and all including the parts as yet unseen once they commit to loving her. Looking silly or stupid is an unreasonable expectation. Until you can be more comfortable with yourself and him, make love with the lights out. Eventually you will be doing it under blue skies!

Please read all the articles listed in the Index. Knowledge is empowering.
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