My girlfriend and I have been having sex for the past few months. I've said before that I can't really feel anything with the Trojan condoms we've been using, but we haven't really done anything about it until tonight. I was reading some reviews about condoms, and it seems the best feeling we can get is if she uses birth control and I don't mess with condoms.
I'm not against condoms, but damn it'd be nice to feel something during sex. What's the popular choice here?
e:hm I just brought up birth control and she flipped out about how condoms are safer. Good condom brands then?
my boyfriend and I have always liked Lifestyles...theyre snugger than Trojan, it seems. We've never been big Trojan fans...too big and billowy-feeling
I'm the same way, so you are not alone. I tried a few different makes/models all to no avail and finally gave up. I do recommend that you try different ones even if you have to order them.
Another thing you should do is to apply some lubricant to just the glans of your penis. Doing so will give it more wiggle room and transmit more friction. This might very well be all it takes to solve the situation. Regardless, do it with all condoms you use.
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We normally recommend that teens use three forms of contraception because of the high likelihood of becoming pregnant. Yours, hers, and ours. If you do not use a condom, then at least use a spermicide in addition to what she chooses to use.
I'll add that condoms are only safer if she's irresponsible about taking her pill.
Or use condoms with the pill!
Grrrrrrrrr - you should use both.
"Hey darling, pump yourself full of hormones and put yourself at risk so I won't have to use condoms. Thanks, love."
Man or mouse?
I like the Trojan Ultrathin ones. They are very thin and fit very well. They have a very thin lube to them which does not make it messy. They have them with spermicide and without. My gf and I like them very much. She says it feels like I am wearing nothing at all. We have tried the Lifestyle Skyn and they are ok. We have just started trying them.
CONDOMS ARE BIRTH CONTROL!!!! Any time a penis is in a vagina, there is a chance of pregnancy. Whatever we do to reduce that chance is birth control. Condoms are a barrier method and the birth control pill is a hormonal method.
Every woman in the world has, at some point, heard the old "I want to feel it bare" argument and too many give in. I always gave my partners a choice: my vagina (with condom and spermicide) or their hand. At some point, it becomes realistic to go the hormone or iud route. But, not when you are still in the dating stage. Take Evil's advice. Condom and spermicide with her on the pill.
The idea that YOUR pleasure takes precedence over HER safety is repugnant and unworthy of anyone who wants to be, or be thought of as, a man.
Are there any more questions on this topic?
I found that I didn't really get loads of simulation with normal Durex condoms but the ultra thin ones are pretty good.
Now though, she's decided to go one the pill, partly because of sexual reasons & partly because it's supposed to lessen period pains. Her periods are also really irregular without it to.
We were also both virgins when we started going out & because I donate blood every few months, we could be confident we were both clean of S.T.Ds.
If I was to have intercourse with a stranger I'd defiantly use a condom.
EDIT
According to the (U.K) N.H.S website, the combined pill (which is the regular one as far as I know) has more than a 99% success rate. Condoms with spermicide have about a 98% rate.
ALL hormonal systems have a 99% THEORETICAL success rate. In real life use, no this high. Failures are counted per 100 sexually active women for one year. With the pill, three would likely become pregnant; on condoms and vaginal spermide, about the same number would become pregnant. I am an NHS employee.
The pill is the preferred treatment for dysmenorhea.
You should be using condoms until you've reached the point that the two of you will likely get married. I agree, condoms don't feel that great compared to nothing, but like the Evil Kitten said, its either wear a hat or use your hand. My wife and I will still use a condom on occassion when the risk of pregnancy is high.
In addition to the condom being for birth control, its also for STD's. I would highly urge the use of condoms until you've both been STD tested and clear and you are not having sexual activity outside the relationship.
The birth control pill should be up to HER. I never pushed my wife one way or the either with the pill, it was her decision, not mine. We decided that we don't want or need any kids right now. We also agreed that we find sex more sensual without a condom and we both are STD free. More importantly, we both agreed that should she get pregnant while on the pill, we can accept the consequences.
A lot of things to think about, but keep a rubber on your dick and leave the pill decision up to her, that is not your call to influence.