The short answer? NO!

If you give it a few years and still feel the same, marry, and then have a family. Both are too young to take on child rearing--sort of children raising children. You need to think of the future and what you as a couple can offer a child, just wanting one is selfish. When you both are in good positions and can offer a good stable happy home life, after marriage, then consider it.

The costs of raising a child exceed your current income.

you are both still living with your parents. if you cannot support yourselves on your own you should not even be thinking of having a child.

With age comes maturity and wisdom, so it's not "only age". Would you be able to financially support a child without depending on anyone else for help? If you can not afford to pay for ALL of the expenses that go along with having a child and starting a family with absolutely no financial help from anyone, they you aren't ready to. Love is irrelevant if you and you girlfriend can't solely support a child.

I'm just wondering, how long have the two of you been together?

[quote=pjm1990;187042]thanks....[/quote]
Welcome. And BTW, the urge to have kids is quite normal.

[quote=pjm1990;187058]you could all be a bit nicer about your answers please i feel like im being laughed at here.[/quote]

No one is laughing at you, I believe everyone is emphasizing why it's not a good idea, myself included.

[QUOTE=pjm1990;187058]you could all be a bit nicer about your answers please i feel like im being laughed at here.[/QUOTE]

Take it however you want to. You asked a question, and got an answer. No ones called you stupid, foolish,or childish, for wanting to have children. Or said anything that is demeaning in anyway, for that matter. Like Sera 300 said, it's a normal thing to think about. Now, look around at other post, no one gets babied here. I asked "How long have you been with your girlfriend?" Seems like a pretty straight question to me. I didn't mean it to be anything more then what it is.

All are right in that you can't think of it as, "just b/c I want one"... you should think of the baby and make sure that you are doing everything you are capable of... to give that baby a happy/healthy home.

Most kids your age are AVOIDING this scenerio at all costs. I think that is why people are coming back at you w/ such abrupt answers. I'll be honest my first thought was WTF?!? is this kid serious? I am 28 and still haven't decided if I want kids.

And yes some kids younger than you slip up and have kids at a young age... but that doesn't make it right for them or the baby.
It is also a strain on your family b/c they would be picking up any slack that you aren't able to provide, money and time wise.

Plus, wouldn't your g/f have to drop out of school? No expectations to further her education after High school?? It's just things you have to think about.

You have plenty of years to have kids. First enjoy the years of living on your own... getting married and being able to live w/ your g/f(wife) and having alone time together.... growing together...then throw a kid into the mix if you are ready.

[QUOTE=pjm1990;187040]Hello, me and my girlfriend have been talking alot lately about having a child. We are both 16 and love each other more than life itself, we also really really want a kid, and have got SO happy thinking about it.
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This is a JOKE right?? the both of you are KIDS...why in the world would you want a child?? Go to psychiatrist as soon as possible and keep your dick wrapped until you have that meeting! You are totally irresponsible and totally lacking with regards to FINANCIAL means...get a freeking life before you screw up someone elses life!..a baby has NO CHOICE in what the parents are...too bad about that!..

at 16 ? look pal you have to finish growing now I'm not only talking mentally but physically, a girls body at 16 is still growing in order to support a child if she has one now the child could do not to well and your gf might suffer some serious problems as well not to mention the fact that you / she need to finish education this also makes getting a job more likely but with having a kid at 16 the only work to be got will be something with low pay so best wait a bit and until you have you own home yea i have to say this sounds like a freeking poor joke wake up to reality for your own good

actually from reading other posts by the same person I begin to positively think this is a "oops she's pregnant wtf do we do" thread

O NOOOO!both living with thw parent's and wanting chilren that's a bad idea.How r u going 2 support your child.Neither of you have education and u earning 500 a month will be enough for formula and diapers.but a baby needs many many more things.Just wait.It would be foolish 2 have a baby now when u cant really support it by yourself.

like I said I have a strong feeling the baby is already on the way the guy hasn't replied and considering that on one other thread he mentioned using withdrawal as birth control I think this is a hidden way of asking what they should be doing with the baby and 500 £ isn't gonna get ya no where

NOPE! Way too young to handle this. I am not doubting your wants or desires to have a child or that you'd love the child, but a child requires so much more than love. It's huge in responsibility & the fact of matter is, the reality that you & your girl friend will last past 21 is so slim to none, well... it make's no sense.

I had my first child at 24 & to be honest w/ you, I feel that was too young looking back at the time & the man I was w/ at the time that I thought I'd be spending the rest of my life w/ at the time. Guess what? him and I are going to court for the 3rd time in August b/c we can't resolve the child support issue (he doesnt want to pay). I never thought I'd be bringing him to court for $$$ and for other stuff. Now this is the reality of the situation, my son is 7 and now I am trying to get things in order. It's horrible & I am not saying I don't love my son, but it's hard & there are so many things I hate dealing w/, like seperate holidays & the dividing of time.

You owe a child everything & anything, being 16 is not that. Get your life together, go to school, get a good job, party & have your fun now b/c once you have a child, that is out the window. Not all fun, but you have a responsibility & you can't be a parent & going out all the time.

[QUOTE=eminatic;187046]you are both still living with your parents. if you cannot support yourselves on your own you should not even be thinking of having a child.[/QUOTE]

ITA w/ this statement... well said!

[QUOTE=pjm1990;187058]you could all be a bit nicer about your answers please i feel like im being laughed at here.[/QUOTE]

You aren't being "laughed at" but you are getting honest opinions. We are here to give you honest answers, and we're doing it based out of thought for your future & the child's future. Its silly to want to produce a child in your situation, and for those of us who are parents (like myself) it's a laugh to us to actually put yourself in that situation at your age. You live w/ your parents, which means you can't take care of yourselves, so why can you take care of another human being in which you are solely responsible for?

This is another reality of things... "IF" you have this child, you'll most likely end up living w/ one of the parents, and your parents or her parents will end up raising this child like their own so you two can finish school etc. How fair is that to your parents??? They're going to do it out of guilt but they're going to have no life b/c of a stupid mistake/decision made on your part.

I hate to be blunt but it's a stupid thought/decision. I was the product of a 16 year old relationship. My grandparents ended up raising me after my mother decided she wanted to be a kid again. My grandparents tried to make my mother & father (whom I've never met) do the "right thing"... They forced marriage & everything else. My parents ended up divorcing before they were 18 & separated at 17... Now my grandparents are like my parents. I am grateful for them, but I had a hard life.

This is just silly to plan to have a baby at 16, even at 18... but what ever. These days you need a life, experience & your own place before you even consider a child. You have none of that. You have to see how silly you sound by posing this ? to a forum of experienced individuals who are frightened that you are on the road to a bad decision. Nothing positive can come of this, sorry, but that's the truth.

[QUOTE=cjb1981;187064]Take it however you want to. You asked a question, and got an answer. No ones called you stupid, foolish,or childish, for wanting to have children. Or said anything that is demeaning in anyway, for that matter. Like Sera 300 said, it's a normal thing to think about. Now, look around at other post, no one gets babied here. I asked "How long have you been with your girlfriend?" Seems like a pretty straight question to me. I didn't mean it to be anything more then what it is.[/QUOTE]

ITA as well... NO ONE gets babied here... if you can't take the heat of honest opinions (which is what you wanted)... then how are you going to handle parenthood? You said you wanted help...this is it. If you don't want the help, then don't read it. We're trying to save you from a bad decision.

I will add... wanting a child "IS" normal but it's different from wanting verses having.

believe me, hon.

16 is not a great time to have kids.

you're going to want to save for a very long time. two years i.e. 18 is pretty good. you have no idea how much babies cost. and your girlfriend needs to get a job. at least save some money.

and get your own place.

its not as much fun making the baby if the ones who made you are next door.

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seriously, i love children so much too. the advice they gave you is good. if the circumstances we're different --say you lived together, paid your own bills, all that stuff, then maybe. but say you had a baby and you were forced to live together. what if it didnt work? what if you just couldnt live with her, or vice versa. thats not a healthy environment for a baby. i think it would be in the babies best interest if you waited and let your relationship grow, try living together, and if all goes well, then discuss it with your parents. having a baby changes everything though, really.

NO.

1 - You can't possibly support a family on what you make. That's the equivalent of less than $12,000 / year, which, in the US anyway, is below the poverty level for two people, not to mention three. People who are in poverty usually stay in poverty, because they're in debt and have no flexibility to get an education or learn a new trade. If you have a child, one or both of you will likely live the rest of your life (that's something like 60-80 years) in poverty. If your kid is smarter than you are, he or she might climb out, but it will be difficult and it'll be in spite of you.

2 - Unless you can hire a nanny (you can't: you don't even make as much money as a nanny does), having a kid is a full-time job. That doesn't mean less time for fun, it means none. You can't turn the kid off and go out for a couple of hours. One of you will work all the time, and one will take care of the kid all the time.

3 - There's a huge mismatch in timeframe between your momentary desires and the consequences. You're likely to change your mind in a week, or if not then a month or a year. You're thinking in weeks and acting in decades. This is typical of people who are immature: kind of like joining the army because there was nothing fun to do that afternoon, or driving a car into a barrier at 70 mph because you're in a hurry.

4 - Age is a number, but it's not just a number. It's the number of years you've been alive, which closely predicts: (a) how much experience you have and (b) how much of a chance your body and mind have had to develop. Some people are mature for their age, some are immature, and the vast majority are pretty much about the same as other people their age. There's nothing in your posts that indicates you're one iota more mature than the typical 16-year-old.

The only way it could possibly work is if some combination of your parents saves the day with money and child-rearing time and expertise you don't have. That being the case, if your parents beg you to have a child and volunteer to take care of it, you might consider the idea.