Hey, I need some advice.
I am still a virgin and don't want to rush into sex, however I feel when I am ready I will want to share it with someone who is also a virgin and who I care about a lot.
The problem is a lot of my friends have gone off and had sex already (my friends and I are 16) and i'm wondering if I should stay with the idea of going with someone who is a virgin or just go for the right person whether or not they have done it before.
Yeah i feel bad for rushing my g/f into it at a young age.
OOOOPS. Sorry! Geeze, what a blockhead I am!
Well, hopefully some of my advice will still apply!
Good luck!
Ok, I have just checked my post today and there is something I need to clear up.
Many people seem to refer to me as a girl. Sorry, quite wrong, I am a 16 year old male.
I do have quite a feminine mind according to my friends. Oh, well
Thanks for the advice it has been very helpful.
You'll know when it is the right time. Just never ever do it "just to get it over with" like some girls have done. The first time can be VERY emotional for a girl. Don't believe everything your young girlfriends tell you.
You will always remember the person who you first slept with. So, being special would be nice! You may also be a little emberassed when it comes to getting intimate the first time. It would be beneficial to you to make sure you are very comfortable and feel ready when the time comes. It can also be very painful. It helps to be with someone who really cares about you and does not want to hurt you physically or emotionally.
Be careful about protection, as well. Make sure you use condoms (have them ready or know that he has them) and possibly be on birth control as well. Please consider the fact that you definitely can get pregnant the first time you have sex. Wouldn't that suck? lol.
Just make sure you are emotionally ready and feel comfortable with your partner. The rest will fall into place.
to answer the question, i think you should wait till that right person comes along. i mean sure, holding out for another virgin shows something, but what are you going to do if mr. right comes along and they aren't a virgin?
if they're the right one for you, they're the right one for you, and being a virgin or not, to me (and this is just to me), shouldn't really be a part of that. there's a lot more to a person other than whether or not they've had sex before.
Well, this is a delicate issue. I have known people who have had sex when they were young thinking they were in love with the guy etc, only to be dumped later and bitterly regret having sex with this person. I also know people that to them, it doesn't appear to have any affect on them one way or the other. Sex is a very big deal for a lot of people and chosing the right time for YOU is very important. You have to make sure that if you decide to have sex that you won't later regret it. I myself waited until after I got married to have sex (same with my husband) and for me it was very special and important knowing that we were each other's firsts. My personal view is that you should wait to have sex until after you get married. Again that is just my personal view, I'm sure I will get alot of people calling me old fashioned in that regard, but that was what was right for me. You have to do what is right for YOU.
More important then you having sex with someone that is also a virgin is to find that special one that is right for you.
I congratulate you on your decision not to lose your virginity until you are truly ready. That shows a remarkable amount of maturity on your part.
It is a very good thing to wait for the right moment. Finding a virgin of either sex can be easier then you think (you never mentioned your gender or preference), but it still is a rarity the older you get. I was 26 when I lost my virginity (male by the way). my GF lost her virginity at 15, so she had experience which ended up helping alot. I say this only because she knew what she wanted. And because of that, and the fact that I was very open sexually, we could explore lots of new things together and have a good time and both not be too nervous. I say if you are not ready then you are not ready. period. Just make sure that you always keep a relationship in sight and don't fall into depression if you become lonely. I assume you date/flirt anyway, so that is probably not an issue..Just saying that it can become bad when you are ready but have nobody to experince it with. Anway, don't think you are strange or different or whatever. Just have fun with your life and let things happen as they happen. And just because someone has had sex before, does not in any way, mean that you can't offer anything new or exciting.