I have this girl that has been begging me to go out with her for about a year or two and she doesnt look bad and I would like to give her a chance but she seems kind of obsessed with me and It kind of scares me. I dont know what I should do with this type of girl should I give her a chance or just say no?
Thu, 06/25/2009 - 12:42
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should I give her a chance
Give her a chance..at least she is focused and could be very loyal and a keeper for the longrun. If she attempts to have sex with you on your first date, I would be concerned a little.
This is a difficult call. You could do as Gibson suggests, although, I have another point of view. Women have "intuition"; guys have "gut feelings", both are pretty much the same thing.
If she is "obsessed", I would be questioning the behavior and wary of future behavior. One component of this type of behavior is possessiveness and as we have been discussing in another thread, this is not good nor does this promote a healthy relationship.
My questions for you are if you have known about her interest in you for a while, why haven't you acted upon it before now? Were you dating someone else? Were you unavailable to date anybody until recently?
How much do you know about her at this point? Do you have any friends in common, or, do you know one or two of her friends who can give you a different perspective on her?
Of course you could date her two or three times and see how she interacts with you and others. Dating is all about learning what humanity has to offer us in prospective mates, so you are well within "operating guidelines" to date her (as well as others) if only long enough to determine she is not your type. If so, say thanks but no thanks and move on. This would be my approach and you would be putting into practice what I have been preaching about dating over and over.
I was just interested in other girls and shes 3 years younger than me. but now that all the other girls are out of the picture I thought I would atleast give her a chance. Why should I be concerned if she tries to have sex on the first date?
If she comes on strong on the first date, it indicates a possible dependency that will develop. Your use of "obsessed" is the flag that causes some of us to react. There are women who use sex as a trap. At the same time, be prepared because you do not want to end up with unprotected sex.
Oh so now that you have no one else available, you will now pick up your option?? What a lout!
Please - save her from herself and just say "No, thank you."
She deserves someone better.
Evil Kittens Right
She's Asking You To Go Out With Her For A Year And Now You Think Ohh I Think Ill Give It Ago, If You Didt Want To Then Whats Changed You mind????
What has changed his mind, apparently, is no one else seems to want him.
Once again, buddy, if you have to ask us if you should - then you definitely should NOT.