Don't feel badly about your first time not being with someone you love. I know that you will get both sides answering this question. You can have your first time be with someone you love and still have it be terrible ! I was a virgin when I got married. (and yes it was TERRIBLE !! )

Just look at this as a learning experience. You will meet lots of people in your life. You will fall in love many times. You will have sex with some and make love with others. Perhaps someday you will meet "the one". In the meantime just have fun, but be careful also. (especially with those you meet on the Internet.... a lot of times they aren't who they claim to be....)

as long as you enjoyed yourself i cant see any harm the right man will come along and things will be fine

Whether your first time has passed or not, the first time you have sex with someone important to you it will be special.

And, in addition to what these two have stated, think of this as having laid the groundwork for great things to come when the person and the time are both right.

When your really true "first time" comes (and there will likely be several "first time" events as special men enter and leave your life) you will not have to worry about or contend with your hymen. Not having this to worry about frees your mind and body to become more fully immersed in these pleasures.

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HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

Sort of, but maybe not in the way you mean.

It can be awkward and clumsy and painful and just plain not good times for the inexperienced. And for that reason I am glad I waited untill I was in a relationship with a guy that I trusted to take care of me when I was that vunerable.

Making sure my first time was done responsibly and on MY terms was important, not necessarily the virginity itself.

But you said you had a good time anyway, so it seems like the guy you picked knew what to do and all that. What matters is that the encounter was YOUR CHOICE. As long as you went into it knowingly, consented to the activities, used protection, were not coerced, then there doesn't seem to be anything to regret. You took control over the virginity that was YOURS to take control of.

So it's entirely up to you whether this bothers you or not. You can choose not to be bothered, because there's really no reason to be if you had a positive experience.

If you're worrying about what future partners might think, don't. As long as you used protection your previous experience is not any of their buisness and their feelings about it are their responsiblity.

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[QUOTE=Jasmine.x;276659]This sounds really bad but I recently lost my virginity to a guy I met on the internet (he didn't know I was a virgin). I'm 17 and he's 25.
I told myself that it was just a bit of fun and we both had a really good time, but looking back I feel like it should have been with "someone special" and now I feel bad.
Should virginity really matter that much??[/QUOTE]

Hey dont feel bad about it. As long as you enjoyed it, had some fun and you came to no harm.
Sex is probably more meaningful when it is with someone you love but I am sure it is a lot of fun and exciting when it happens with someone you don't love - just be careful:)

for me personaly I would like it to be someone special. I actualy have a long list of required things. Like I have to have known the person for atleast a set amount of time things like that. But I was abit insane about such things, and as I get older its getting harder to remember why I care so much. I am only a teenager but my bodies needs are starting to over ride my reasons to wait.

At this point I dont know how I will loose it. Or who I will loose it to, and right now that uncertanty is kind of a turn on.

I think society puts too much emphasis on that first time. I mean, if you think about it there are TONS of first times in your life that are less/equally/more important that nobody thinks twice about.

First car you drive. Your first wreck. First broken bone. First financial "crisis". First time you develop your own clothing sense. First time you vote. First time you shoot a gun. First time you wear makeup. First time you ride a bike.

On any of these, people don't fret that their bike wasn't the one they keep their whole life, or they still don't dress the same. For some reason sex has this extra layer of mental glue that means you have to always remember and cherish and all that.

I started out that same way, only have had sex with my now wife. We pretty much waited till we were engaged. I kind of regret it now, as I missed out on all the "fun" of the experiences.

I say, as long as you stay safe, go have fun. Create some memories. If anything you'll have fun stuff to talk about at work 20 years later. Everyone here giggles about their past and what all they did, while I just sit. lol

Ironically, all of the claptrap you've been fed about "with someone special" was indoctrinated into your brain so you would wait - it is a deliberate repression of your sexuality - and you bought it hook, line & sinker - this is why you feel bad because it WASN'T with someone 'special'. Such piffle we are still taught!

HOWEVER - you did precisely what you SHOULD have done. You went with a man with some experience. (Strictly speaking you're not "legal" so don't make a habit out of this.) I hope he treated you well and with consideration.

So stop feeling badly about it.

It doesn't matter if you don't care if it matters. Sounds like it may have been a good first time to me.

You will always remember the first time simply because it was the first time. For most women it seems to become no big deal. Most have none of the bleeding and few have any real pain beyond, perhaps, a twinge. And, we are usually so stressed about "it happening" that no real response is evoked.

We are raised, in the developed world, to expect to lose our virginity on a cloud of bliss with someone with whom we are deeply in love. Hence, we make it a big deal.

I rather respect those (few remaining) cultures in which young men and women are assisted by experienced partners for their first time. At worst, no one is traumatized or embarrassed by an inexperienced partner. At best, the new one would look forward to a healthy sex life.