[QUOTE=Lost one;223168]To Goofschick

We been on five dates and two of which nearly involved sex (technically I gave oral). Anyway, both times she was loaded. First time I got too loaded for much sexual anything and the second she was messed up and all on me till I finished her off. Basically, if we hit a bed and she loaded, she'll want some pre- pass out sex stuff. Before then nothing.

I'm hoping to fully lose mine next time, but sadly I think she'll want booze.[/QUOTE]

You say in your last post you were able to get aroused, in the first encounter, yet here you say you were pretty much too loaded for anything?????

I would move on and find someone who doesn't drink.

I doubt it has anything to do with you. Alcohol consumption decreases ones inhibitions. It can also lead to sexual dissatisfaction.

I would agree with Sera. It's not you, it's that she's more relaxed and uninhibited when she's drunk. Share with her that you're worried about it.

I need clarification, been a long time since I was drunk. So do you mean she's all over you when she is drunk and sober she isn't. If she's sober she wants no part of intimacy with you?

They have "Sayings" for these scenarios but they aren't terribly polite.

hmm, sorry. I guess you have to make some decisions. Is this who you really want to date, and how comfortable are you talking to her about this issue if you do.

I wonder why she is like that.........ladies opinions???????
Chik, Sera, Rowan, Gigi what do you ladies think?

Alcohol does wierd things to people. Go to a bar, you can tell who's had a few. The ones out on the dance floor that think they can dance. The one's that haven't are their friends trying to pretend they don't know them. Inhibitions gone, I've seen this in even the shyest of girls/women.
It's usually not pretty to watch, unless you don't know them and see the humor in it all, and it's not fun to wake up with your head the size of a basketball. Yet over and over people, men and women, do it. I think women start getting loud and that draws more attention to them than a man.

That makes sense. I have never gotten in that sort of condition so I was
curious............It does make sense though.

It has been a very long time for me (probably wasn't even of legal age). I did find humor in watching someone make themselves look a fool, then after my little brother, I just want to shake them silly.

My little brother committed suicide 6 years ago after getting a DUI, his 6th. For those of you that may not of read that in other threads.

I am not a big drinker; years ago can count on one hand how often I tied one on & regretted it. One was my wedding day...opps...bride intoxicated accidentally while walking down the isle.

As far as the OP & the girlfriend? Well, she could be an alcoholic or over drinks due to boredom & lack of other interests in life.

I find things to do and to get me to go out with friends for a drink, to a bar, they have to nearly drag me into the bar. Occasionally, will go if there is an event for a "going away party" but the bars I am accustomed to are also restaurants with a lounge. Therefore, it's not uncommon to have snacks & a drink, if I go.

Years ago, all there was to do here as a teen was to hang in the bars...aka dance clubs. No one drank; it was a place to meet up with friends and dance or see a band. However, currently there are so many different activities available; I would not see someone sitting in a bar routinely for any good reason.

[quote=goof'schik;223198]It has been a very long time for me (probably wasn't even of legal age). I did find humor in watching someone make themselves look a fool, then after my little brother, I just want to shake them silly.[/quote]

This is why I despise going out with those who drink...you get to be the designated driver for a group of intoxicated people who make no sense!

I don't mind meeting the girls for a drink, mine are virgins. Most of my friends are past the had too many stage and need a babysitter, with no pay and they are more work than a two year old.
It was funny at my brothers 25th reunion, back in 05, drinking was everywhere and even some still getting high. Too funny, had a great time and was so glad that when I left I was sober, bars were still open, and I was probably the first to leave. Nothing like a room of 18 year olds, oh wait the room was full of 43 year olds.

I'll meet friends out for a drink. If I plan on being there for about 2 hours, I'd have one, "nurse it" and then switch to a soda. Yeap, watching them with too much? Worse than keeping 4 two year olds quiet. Meet male friends out & stay too long; you watch the brawls.

I have no issue with what people do to themselves; drinking or drugs, it's their life. However, I have seen too many innocent people injured or killed. I will take a friends keys away & drive them home (I usually wish I did not if they are feeling ill in my car).

The fear was instilled long ago, when a kid, & we were allowed to have a drink at home with a parent. There was no novelty when I turned of age (18) to drink; rule was if you did while out [either of age or under] call for a ride--no questions asked. I never called, never needed to. My brother went to a bachelor party at 26 (or so). His friend was driving & said he would not drink. Later he found out he was; my father went to pick him up in a strip joint! At least he did the right thing. I know a few times he went out & I went to pick him up due to a friend driving began drinking and my brother would not take a chance!

So just to hang out for dates in a bar? No thanks! I enjoy a nice bottle of wine with company/dinner if home or such; however, alcohol is banned now for me for a LONG time!

What really drove alcohol home for me was long ago; I was a "guinea pig" for the police academy...certification for field sobriety testing. We [test group]were given drinks over hours & monitored. I drank the most while watching a movie. Could not vaguely pass the field sobriety test, could barely stand up & yet only blew a 0.80 which was not considered by law as intoxicated; there were no laws for DUI yet. I saw double and was really hung over the next day. Never, never, again! That was the last time I really drank beyond a social glass of wine/drink.

I have a weekly thing ("Cougar Congress") at my local hangout with a group of like-minded people. All I ever drink is Diet Coca-Cola, no ice, no straw, no fruit. Some women have one or two. A few women have too much but there's always a willing man to "help them home". Most of the men have 3 to 4 drinks. Rarely do the men drink to excess.

Alcohol should never be 'necessary'. If it is, then your relationship is a sham.

EEK is exactly right..........if the alcohol is a "must" then things really
aren't right.....when impaired and clear decisions are not being made
then in reality it probably is wrong.

You guys should see the midwest college scene where you stick thousands of people from mostly small towns into a cornfield by themselves for the first time in their lives with no activities besides bars and the gym. The routine is eat, workout, finish homework, drink until you pass out, occasionally go to class.......and these are the smart kids.

As for the OP- Women's reasons for things like that differ quite a bit. To understand it you'll have to take into account where you live now, where she's from, her work/school life and friends. I've been a bartender at bars where you see a couple hundred to a few thousand people a shift, and they all have different reasons.