I have been dating my gf for almost 6 months now and i love her so much she was my first in everything except like kiss but she took my virginity.. she asks me if it bothers me that she has had sex w another guy(guy was a complete jerk) i always tell her its nothing we can change and not to worry about it but sometimes when im w her all i can c is the 2 of them having sex it just hurts that when i lost my virginity it wasnt special for her she didnt even kno i was a virgin(i didnt want to tell her cuz she might treat me weird)
i just wanted to kno if its weird that im i guess u could say jealous of him??
any advice on how to tell her it bothers me??
You told all of us, a few million of your new best friends. I think you can speak to her about this. If you can't talk about this how do you expect to talk about the various other things that crop up in a relationship? Communication is key.
With the divorce rate in America hovering around 50% you stand a pretty good chance of meeting someone who has had prior sexual experience. That you are young and never married, is no guarantee that one or the other of you hasn't had sex.
I believe it is important to look at the matter of experience this way. Each and every time a couple gets together and a new pairing is formed, sex and intercourse will be new and unique. Problems will probably crop up that will have to be worked out and no two individuals make love in exactly the same way even though the basic mechanics are the same. Each one of us has likes and dislikes, preferences, desires--and, a specific and unique way of triggering an orgasm. So, tell me, how is previous experience helpful other than s/he has seen the opposite sex naked. The fact that a gal or guy has kissed, caressed, and done some foreplay and the partner has not is no guarantee of ability or superior performance.
What is to be jealous about? She is with you because she wants to be. That is all that should occupy your mind; that, and the fact that you should be thinking of practical and also imaginative ways to keep her forever happy.
Good reason to talk about our sexual histories with circumspection.
well u kno it doesnt mean it doesnt mean he was any better in fact she told me im much bigger and that in the 2 years they were together he NEVER gave her and orgasm and now i give her countless orgasms everytime we have sex one more q is how is that?? if she couldnt get them b4 y can she get them now
[QUOTE=bigpimpinbigbird]well u kno it doesnt mean it doesnt mean he was any better in fact she told me im much bigger and that in the 2 years they were together he NEVER gave her and orgasm and now i give her countless orgasms everytime we have sex one more q is how is that?? if she couldnt get them b4 y can she get them now[/QUOTE]
Well, she could be faking it. And if she's not, then why ask why?
Here's the deal, I don't think you're the least bit crazy for feeling jealousy. It's a very normal reaction in your situation. I remember feeling the same way at one time.
But it appears to me that you're pretty young. That tells me that the odds are that you won't end up with this girl. You think it's "forever" and it's not. Most likely, you'll move on and she'll move on. Then this will have made you the experienced one in your next relationship and you won't have to worry about this anymore.
well heres the thing i kno u can fake the moans and all that but i dont think she can fake the muscle spasms and other factors included in her orgasms shed have to b one damn good faker and i kno that shes not faking i trust her
My boyfriend and I have somewhat of a similar situation as you.
He was a virgin and, well, due to a very bad choice 4 years before I met my loving guy, I lost my virginity. Even after almost 8 months of being together every now and then it hurts /me/ that I couldn't give that to him because I really wanted him to be the first. He says he doesn't care but I know from time to time it ircks him.
But every relationship is different, and he knows although I gave that away long ago, that guy never had my heart like he does.
so my question is, does she feel bad as you do about it?
she always tells me that she wishes she had waited or that i had come into her life earlier