my wife wants to have some fun by being tied up, thus the minor problem I want to truly please her so what do you women like when in the situation:)
Sat, 09/20/2008 - 06:06
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she wants to try light bondage, need help here


I would ask, but if you're not comfortable with that, a safety word could help. Have a non-sexual word that is a signal that she is uncomfortable. This way you can try things in a position of control and if she is saying "no" or "stop", it would be just part of the fantasy. As for specific acts to perform, that's up to your imagination.
Playful,
The rules of the Light Bondage game are:
1. no longer than 45 minutes tied up
2. never ever leave a tied up person alone
3. no pain, no abuse, no humiliation
For beginners, I would suggest simply tying one wrist to the bed - headboard, bed frame, leg of the bed.
The idea is to absolve her of any responsibility, excuse her from doing any of the work, and removing from her the need to reciprocate - she doesn't have to please you. She gets to enjoy your efforts free and clear and you get to do whatever you want without regard to pleasing her particularly.
At this level a safe word is not necessary, nice but not necessary.
Get a timer and something soft to tie her wrist up with and off you go.
Please see www.wickedwomangroup.us for further info, just switch the genders.
When you say "light bondage" I take it to mean that you want to tie her to the bed or some other piece of furniture for sex.
As far as the question of consent goes it appears to be settled already because you state that SHE is the one who is interested. I agree with Evil Evil Kitten on this one a SAFE WORD is most likely unnecessary here.
Having tied up ( and down):p a few women in my time I can tell you the following:
different people get different things from being restrained- sexual arousal from feeling helpless or having surrendered control ( maybe there are underlying dark fantasies there, maybe not ), the sensation of rope on skin-or whatever you use to bind-I have always been partial to silk neckties so I keep them even after they are out of style, some people feel relaxed when bound-I have heard more than one rope bunny say that she reaches a meditative state while tied and some even report feeling so relaxed that they can fall asleep while being suspended!!!!, and finally some people just get horny from the idea of doing something different that society might consider "perverse.! LOL!
First thing you want to do is learn some basic ties-
the one column tie
http://es.youtube.com/watch?v=3vYMsrkqkzA
and the two column tie
http://es.youtube.com/watch?v=dWEaH05t5t0
this is what you need to tie someone to bed/furniture, or tie her limbs together. These also work with the silk ties I was talking about.
Material: for starters if you use rope get something soft like cotton. if you both want to explore more there are other materials which I would gladly discuss with you.
It's important to not tie too tight. First time you might want to tie loose so she can slip out of the bonds if she needs/wanst. Something to discuss before you get started.
My boyfriend and I recently tried this for the first time, and it was thoroughly enjoyed so I can tell you a little how we went about it and hope that it helps you.
First of all, my boyfriend prepared the bed with tied ropes before I got there, and had the ropes hidden under the pillows, so that once we were in bed and had started to make out and such, he was able to surprise me with it. He had casually pulled my hands up over my head and then before I knew it, had slipped the ropes over them (he had pretied loops in the ends and used a knot that could be easily tightened or loosened, so it made the process very easy... I guess those boy scout skills did come in handy! haha..) Once I was tied, he proceeded on a very sensual note. It was all about the sense of touch from his mouth and hands all over me, touching every part of my body, with varying pressures and movements. A couple things specifically that he did that I loved- He alternated licking and then blowing on various parts of my body, He also was brushing his hair up against my torso and legs so that his hair was lightly tickling me, it drove me wild! And of course, he gave me a session of amazing oral. We didn't go for too long, only about 20 mins or so, mostly because we killed the moment when one of my hands came loose and we started laughing because I nearly punched him in the eye..things just got ridiculous after that, we couldn't stop laughing so we moved on lol.
The experience was fantastic and its definitely something that we plan on exploring more, so I hope maybe I've given you an idea or two of how to go about it. Good luck, I hope you and your lady have an terrific time. Oh and keep in mind, for someone who has never tried it before, being tied up can leave you feeling rather vulnerable, which is part of the attraction, but she is placing herself in your hands... handle with care while you explore where boundaries might lie.
The bottoms of her feet are one of the most touch-receptive parts of her body, with tens of thousands of nerve endings there. Absolutely the most overlooked, underestimated part of a woman's body. Softly kiss, touch, nibble, and pleasure her feet and toes. Explore the different areas of her whole foot. Don't forget to throw in a light, sensual tickle here and there!! You will be surprised at her reaction! Happy hunting !!! Let us know how it goes...