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There are a couple of articles addressing the matter of am I ready for sex.

> My question is how can I pop her cherry the first time?

Over the years the traditional approach has been the Missionary position.

When the two of you are ready, I recommend using the Woman Superior position for these important reasons:

A. It places the woman in complete control
* she knows where your penis is and where her vaginal opening is and can deftly bring the two together thus saving you some potential frustration and embarrassment.
* Regardless of the position you opt to use, the tip of the penis should be placed against the largest opening. This can be in the hymen itself or most likely between the hymen and the vaginal wall. You can do this or better yet, have her do it.
B. Another reason this position is recommended by sexperts is because she also controls the amount of pressure and duration against the hymen.
C. She also has complete control over the angle of penetration, speed, and rate of stroking.

> "I would want you to pop my cherry our first time, because if you didnt I would still feel like a virgin."

This is somewhere between girlish fantasy and wishful thinking. As Brandye our resident doctor has stated, by the time most teens/older are ready for sex the hymen has often eroded away, all or in part. If so, you might very well be able to achieve penetration on the first attempt. If her hymen is in tact--maybe yes, maybe no. Much depends upon her tolerance for pain (if any), the thickness of the membrane, and, nerves in general.

You might possibly lose your erection either from Performance Anxiety or from simply poking your penis against the hymen in the attempt. She needs to know these things and become more realistic. If so, just laugh it off and do some more foreplay to reestablish it. If you are wearing a condom, remove it so she can work on your penis and then have her place a new one on for the second try.

If you do not lose your erection, one or the other of you should apply pressure only against the hymen. No poking, jabbing, shoving, etc.

> Im not sure how much this matters but im 6" long and 5 1/2" girth ( yeah average boring size right?) So will my tool most likely pop her cherry?

Asked and answered, above.
You also answered answered it when you said you were "average". It is not the size that matters, as explained above.

More than likely you will be able to achieve penetration the first time; however, there is also a possibility that this won't happen until you try a couple of times.

Lastly, use a condom. She should be on the pill or be using some other form of high reliable contraceptive. At the very least, spermicide. Act responsibly.

Your girlfriend sounds young and naive. If she in anxious for intercourse simply to lose her virginity, then she is wanting to for the wrong reason. Intercourse is all about the expression of the love two people have for one another. Oh, sure, it can be sex for sex sake and for the pure fun of it, but for the first time--no.

I believe you are correct in waiting and not being in a hurry. Now, having said all this, why not wait even longer until you know she wants to have sex for the right reasons.

"Pop her cherry" is the common for parlance for taking her virginity. In other words, that is what will be happening. For a very few women, this is painful; for most, just a bit of a twinge; and, for many of us, a non-issue. The psychological issues are generally greater than the physical ones.

I hope she has read around here a bit. Such things as "Am I Ready?" and the advice that all women should have gyn exams before becoming sexually active can be very useful.

[quote=Nicholas92;216490]Ok so you said that as a woman gets older her hymen erodes? And that is what breaks an makes women bleed right? We are both 16, I know you guys cant really give me a yes or no but...Given all of the information I just told you is there any way you could tell me what my chances are of popping her cherry?[/quote] Okay...let me put it this way...what the hell do you think there is to pop? This term "popping a cherry" is crass. If she is a virgin, then you are her first, end of story.

The majority of women do not have a intact hymen at 16...why; sports, tampons, etc. Bleeding can be caused from many reasons--one is breaking the hymen incorrectly or from a person who is just not skilled or is too rough. Lack of lubrication can cause irritation.

Prior to any sexual encounters she should have a gyn visit.

Nicholas,

You clearly do not understand Doc's original response. What you two need to be doing is not preparing to have sex but getting educated. You seem to be using the word bleeding as though you do not understand menstruation.

Both of you should read everything in New to Sex and Sexual Health Men & Women. Then read some of the books recommended. Then ask some questions.

Here are some pictures of a hymen in various stages...
http://www.healthystrokes.com/hymengallery.html

http://www.sexinfo101.com/sexualanatomy.shtml

Length and girth are irrelevnat. Like everyone here has already said, there is no cherry...it is simply a term for losing your virginity. I mean when someone says I got a blow job, do you think someone blows on their penis till they cum? No its just a slang term that teenagers use.

You should pay careful attention to brandye and docs responses. You should not be getting ready to put p into v, you should be learning about it first. The risks associated with it, the anxieties that accompany it, (Lasting long enough, doing a good enough job, not getting pregnant, and even getting it up). Heck you should be figuring out if its really realy what you want. I mean everyoen can feel ready for sex, but you have to be sure, not just in the bedroom, and not when your horny...more like when your in church saying a rosary (Or maybe not that extreme but you really dont want to be in a sexual mood when deciding if your ready...hormones can play tricks and when your horny their at their best)

Oh btw, Id also do what brandye once suggested to me. Practice telling someone that your girlfriend is pregnant (pretend they are your parents)

I know that this isnt so much about taking her virginity, but since she seems so set on you guys having sex, you should be ready physically and mentally.

Nicholas, here's what you two should do. Temporarily break-up so she can have this done by a guy who knows what he's doing while you learn some skills by getting with a lady who knows what she's doing. Sure beats this "blind leading the blind" act you two are playing.

BTW it is "My girlfriend and I..", not me and my gf - which makes you sound like an egotistical toad. ALWAYS put the other person first.

Well ME and MY friends like to talk this way too lol jk EEK :p

so how did it go STUD??:rolleyes:

Then you and your friends aren't doing yourselves any favors, Ducy!

[quote=EvilEvilKitten;216642]Then you and your friends aren't doing yourselves any favors, Ducy![/quote] It's "Aint" right, EEK? :)

Oh we definitely do "favors" for each other ;) :D

[quote=Ducy;216671]Oh we definitely do "favors" for each other ;) :D[/quote] I guess that's better than favoring yourself! Aint it...? I love the grammar corrections actually, with all the writing I do; I always have an issue with then v.than. It's some odd mental block.

Haha well then you better get it straight...cuz sometimes than is better then then! :p

Oh sera btw...kudos on the song....faraway is bomb!

[quote=Ducy;216711]Haha well then you better get it straight...cuz sometimes than is better then then! :p

Oh sera btw...kudos on the song....faraway is bomb![/quote]

The song is there for a reason doll! And thank you...coming out of the "digital divide", LOL!

ok, popping a cherry can mean two things, the first one is losing their virginity, simply by having sex with them accomplishes this, the 2n'd one is making her have an orgasm, the only advice i can give you on that is foreplay and oral prior to insertion, and even if you can't make her orgasm her first time don't worry about it it's your first time no one is a sex god their first time

[QUOTE=sera300;216675]I guess that's better than favoring yourself! Aint it...? I love the grammar corrections actually, with all the writing I do; I always have an issue with then v.than. It's some odd mental block.[/QUOTE]

Try this Sera: Then is about time, t-e in time, t-e in then. Than is a comparison about which I haven't come up with a mnemonic yet, sorry LOL.