When my girlfriend is orgasming, something strange (to me) always happens: She tries to bite me. Not a gentle nibble, but she really tries to bite down REALLY HARD on my face or neck. And afterward, she never remembers it even though the toothmarks are there as evidence. I guess it is some sort of reflex action or something?
I always try to position myself so that I can sort of bodily block the turning of her head so she can't get her teeth against my skin, but it makes me really nervous because she could accidentally injure me.
1. Is this a normal kind of thing? Do a lot of women have this reflex? I haven't been with anyone before her.
2. Is there any way to prevent her from trying to biting me? She does not like the idea of mouthgags because they silence her, and being sexually assaulted supposedly feels like you're being silenced. (She was assaulted in the past by some disgusting paedophile.)
Any comments are appreciated.
ok am sorry i must sound so mean but that is funny... i say bite her back no am jk i guess it must just be a reflex thing yes it is a common thing i dont think there is any thing you can do to stop it tho sorry i couldent be any help
Now that you mention it, I don't think she'd mind that as long as it wasn't in a place exposed by clothing...
Put a horse bit in her mouth.
...or a mouthguard, like football players wear.
Yikes! Well, you could always have her wear a football helmet...but you might have to worry about a concussion if she begins flailing her head about
Hi moose,
[QUOTE=Quote ]1. Is this a normal kind of thing? Do a lot of women have this reflex? I haven't been with anyone before her.[/QUOTE]I have read that the biting reflex during orgasm is fairly common.
[QUOTE=Quote ]2. Is there any way to prevent her from trying to biting me? She does not like the idea of mouthgags because they silence her, and being sexually assaulted supposedly feels like you're being silenced. (She was assaulted in the past by some disgusting paedophile.)[/QUOTE]I feel like this is the root of the problem. Sex is causing her to flash back to the assault. If this is indeed the case, I think professional help is your best option.
Hang in there. Things like this can be difficult. Hope this helps.
[QUOTE=Quote (canoestripper @ Sep. 19 2005,04:41)]I feel like this is the root of the problem. Sex is causing her to flash back to the assault. If this is indeed the case, I think professional help is your best option.[/QUOTE]
This is something I never throught of. Thanks for the information.
i bite, hard, and scratch as well but i'm at least aware of it! i'm not sure about it being a reflex... i dunno... it's the same kind of thing as breathing heavily and moaning etc, it's just natural. i cant help it ... which probz isnt a good thing, i'm pretty sure my bf hates it. uhoh...
Per haps have her chew gum or something that way she will bite down on the gum and not on you...don't what gum in your partners mouth would taste like but would be better than being bitten
just a thought
I've had to accept that my lover will bite and scratch me. Fortunately she scratches more than she bites, but it seems to be a reflex action for her. I use it as a convenient gauge to know if I'm getting the job done right. When she does bite, it's usually my right shoulder. I don't dare take my shirt off in a place where there are people, though, because there are some permanent marks now (and I think that friends and family would know what they are.....) As for preventing her from biting you, I don't think there's a way you can do that completely without offending her. Talk with her, and try to at least shift the area she bites (something that's covered by clothing). Also try to prevent her from drawing blood.
Take a hint from my husband of 29 years - wear a necklace with a medallion on it that she can bite onto when she comes.
Poor St. James has seen more of my mouth and teeth than the dentist has!
As for clawing, well, you could ask her to file her nails so they are blunt - with rounded edges so hey do not break the skin.
It is better to find a solution that works for the both of you rather than have her 'throttle back' or for you to 'grin and bear it'.
This may sound weird, but encourage her to bite herself. If I want to scream out but I know that I shouldn't, I will bite down on my hand. See if you can get her to do that.
Man.... you need to talk to her about it.. tell her when you are NOT having sex.. that it hurts... Hard to do.. but it's the best way to stop her.. may make her mad at you.. but if she gets mad because she can't bite you... should you be with her?
I do not agree with biting her or forcing her to stop. This is part of who she is - part of her natural expression. Find a solution that works for the BOTH of you not just one of you. Giving her something to bite on instead of you and blunting her claws is more humane than any of these other "solutions". If you do otherwise, it is likely she will find someone else with whom she can fully express herself sexually. There are good men out there who enjoy receiving the full expression of a woman's unbridled ardor. It is your choice.