I love having sex with my girlfriend, but it seems that during sex I can't get her off by just having sex. She says she likes having sex, but it doesn't really do anything for her. I find this disapointing and I turn to my size for answers. I'm a little over 5 inches and my girth is around 3 inches. Definitely not a big penis. Do you think this could be the problem? I love giving it to her from behind, but she says that feels the same as every other position and she says the same about the sex. If my size is an issue. Do the penis enlargement products really work. I've narrowed it down to two pill brands Pro Solutions and Size Pro, but I'm reluctant because I don't know if the pills even work. I'm really worked up about this. Please help.
Thu, 02/10/2005 - 20:26
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She says it all Feels the same....
Just be gald you are both getting some.
ok it is not your size. like they said rub her down there while you have sex or ask her what feels good try oral sex. as for the pills i say no but it is up to you some do work but do your home work ok. just try new things until you find what works.
Little whiny sister voice:
Well if you didn't take all the good men with minds I wouldn't be left to my own devices! batteries will NEVER be my first choice, but it is my only choice.
That should be in the other thread.
I got a tune for that. LOL!
It'll be a hit.
It is begining to look like the twins may not be identical ones.
To toy or not to toy,
that is the question,
whether tis nobler to toy in the mind ,
or to place vibrators against your "sea of troubles"
and by switching on end them
And sleep for sure!
Oh, sorry, it's just us men that want to sleep after, lol.
Big sister voice: The mind is a powerful toy!!! yummm
It's also portable and needs no batteries except a recharge of cheese, chocolate strawberries, and whipped cream washed down with something fruity and strong and lots of wows.
Well for some of us who aren't lucky to have men with the right words we need the toys
I'm not too much into toys. For me if we have the right mind and touch, it's just too intense each and every time to need toys. Sometimes all it takes are words... heavenly beautiful loving selfless words.
Bring toys into the bed also, you can use them on her when you are having sex as well as after you have cum to ensure that she got off too. You can't go wrong with batteries!
Finewine... what can I say... you have many talents.
I would ask her what is she expecting and why.
Sometimes expectations based on what is read or seen or done in the past prevents one from enjoying what actually takes place.
[QUOTE=Quote (Tessie @ Feb. 10 2005,20:30)]....lostinitall does your girlfriend masturbate? Does she know how to give herself an orgasm?....[/QUOTE]
Yes, she masturbates and she has had orgasms, but I've noticed about her orgasms like this is how she describes it... Everything just keeps building and building and building until finally it's just...ahhh and then she's relaxed and really wet (like a burst kinda), but during the relaxed phase her clit becomes sort of ticklish and if I continue the same speed through it it just gets more intense for her. She made the comment one time that she wasn't sure if she ever had an orgasm because there was denfinitely more than what she was able to take herself to. What's up with that, I mean it completely seems like she had an orgasm are the following sensations more coming or did she even have one at all?
If it is all the same for her... it is not the size. it is the mind and the mood. Chase her, romance her, be aggressive with her find out how she want to have that clit stimulated.
Variety and imagination are the spice of life.
Me? I like all positions. It just depends on how I want the clit stimulated... with fingers or with tongue. It depends on if I want him to be my sex slave or if I want him to be aggressive and take me. It depends on the mood and will it be an all day foreplay and romantic or hot wild spontaneous combustion.
Clit stimulation is key. Strong muscles while he is in me can squeeze him and stimulate the clit at the same time with penetration. That takes some practice but I think guys like it.
It's like taking your hand and squeezing the shaft up and down in concentric circles like chasing Christmas lights. Its a wave kind of action. Sometimes you get going and end up pushing him out and he has to push harder to get back in.
It can really add dimension to the thrusting and friction and clit stimulation.
lostinitall does your girlfriend masturbate? Does she know how to give herself an orgasm?
Most women really don't cum from intercourse. It can feel very nice but orgasm for most women comes from clitorial stimulation. There is lots of good info on that.
Sex positions are great and I have done them all but I cum from having my clit stimulated either by fingers, tongue or toy.
There is no pill that is going to make your penis grow. Please don't waste your money. Technique is useful of course. Perhaps work on oral more.
Well, i really like it too. Although its fantastic just being inside a woman, for me i get a real turn on from touching her with my hands... feeling how wet she is... how hard she is... and feeling myself pushing inside too. Also when she is close, i can keep her right on the edge when i use my hands. Then when i am ready i can usually just tip her over. I can't really do that just from penetration.
Now i think about it, i may just be doing this for my own pleasure, lol.
oh Alspals69, I'm getting my guy to do that!
"So, what positions would you recommend for me to really stimulate her?"
Well, my personal fave is sort of a slanted 69 possition (no penetration required). My boyfriend goes down on me, while i angle myself underneath him (hence the slanted possition) to deep throat him. While your down there, you can put a hand round to stimulate her inside (g-spot) while you tickle her clit with your tongue. Its pleasure for both of you.
I'm pleased you like it too... always good to have confirmation from a lady that i am on the right track.
[QUOTE=Quote (Alspals69 @ Feb. 10 2005,14:45)]One of my favourate positions, is with the lady on her back, but with her knees bent and raised, me under her legs onmy side. This seams to work for the lady as it lets you slide inside reasonably deep as well as leaving your hand free to masturbate her or to tease her breasts at the same time.[/QUOTE]
yeah Al that was the one I was referring to when I said spoon I just wasn't sure how to describe it, lol.
good job tho!
One of my favourate positions, is with the lady on her back, but with her knees bent and raised, me under her legs onmy side. This seams to work for the lady as it lets you slide inside reasonably deep as well as leaving your hand free to masturbate her or to tease her breasts at the same time.
Also it has a little more closeness than doggy (and less prone to the funny noises that you sometimes get with doggy too, lol).
As demon said, her on top would probably allow best for her to stimulate the clit at the same time.
You can do doggie, it allows you to go deeper and you, or her, can manually stimulate her clit in this position.
And oral is always a nice foreplay.
Mmmhmm....
[QUOTE=Quote (lostinitall @ Feb. 10 2005,14:34)]She also likes to sit on top of me and move forward and back rather than up and down, which does feel pretty good, but it takes the risk of popping me out and that really hurts..especially when she gets going pretty fast. I want to get deep penetration because it makes me feel like i'm doing more.[/QUOTE]
The clit stimulation is really what she is getting in combination w/ the penetration, which is the best. The whole popping out thing just comes w/ practice. It still happens to my b/f and I every once in awhile, but I can usually judge pretty well on my part.
So you want to get deeper penetration because THAT feels better for you? or you think that's what feels better for her? or something else?
Women don't necessarily need it deep. All the "feel good" nerve endings are right at the entrace to the vagina. Thats why when it comes to size, girth is more important usually than length. I personally don't like it TOOO deep. Some deep is good tho.
One thing I have noticed is that if I push her legs too close together to make it tighter she complains that it hurts. But when I do it like that it feels really good. I don't know if the fact that she was a virgin before me has anything to do with it or not. We have been having sex for about 6 months so i'm sure her hymen has been stretched/torn.
She also likes to sit on top of me and move forward and back rather than up and down, which does feel pretty good, but it takes the risk of popping me out and that really hurts..especially when she gets going pretty fast. I want to get deep penetration because it makes me feel like i'm doing more.
What about some of the feminine sensitivity creams...has anyone used them or tried them in conjunction with a condom as some of them have oils in them? Let me know what you think. Thanks...
Well missionary doesn't really do much for me b/c Im the type that does have to have some sort of clitoral stimulation whether from myself or him.
If Im on top, the clit seems to get more direct contact...hands free.
Some other positions like doggy allow me to stimulate myself. One of my favs is when I lie down on my back w/ my bum on the edge of the bed. He stands beside the bed and enters that way. Kinda like missionary but Im able to rub myself and for me it feels a lot better.
Spoon is good too b/c you can rub her boobs and clit as well.
[QUOTE=Quote (thetease13 @ Feb. 10 2005,13:08)]A lot (and by a lot I mean a lot) of women do not get off on just sex. Our most sensitive part down there is our clit. It is not located inside of us, and so most of us can't get off on sex alone.
So my suggestion is while you're doing that, try rubbing her clit at the same time and that will increase the sexual experience for her.[/QUOTE]
Is there any particular angles or positions that would increase the overall stimulation during sex? Or are there any reccomendations for foreplay to increase the vaginal sensitivity? I'm a guy, I don't know what feels nice. All I know is that I stick it in and keep going. With that in mind...any advice?
Thanks...
I'm not an expert at things (I'm quite new to sex) but from my experience, a lack of orgasm during sex has *very* little to do about the size of the penis that I'm riding. Its the way a man uses what he's got.
I really strongly suggest you don't get fixated on something that, in my opinion, sounds like a perfectly average size anyway.
Forget the pills, and instead try to really heat things up for your girl. If you're not already doing it, stimulate her clit during sex, and get her into possitions where you can penetrate her as deeply as possible (like when she's on her back with her legs around your neck- it feels amazing). As for rear entry, it feels twice as nice standing and leaning on a wall with legs pretty much closed.
[QUOTE=Quote (kulaschula911 @ Feb. 10 2005,13:33)]"...a lack of orgasm during sex has *very* little to do about the size of the penis that I'm riding. Its the way a man uses what he's got.
...sounds like a perfectly average size anyway.
...get her into possitions where you can penetrate her as deeply as possible (like when she's on her back with her legs around your neck- it feels amazing). As for rear entry, it feels twice as nice standing and leaning on a wall with legs pretty much closed."[/QUOTE]
So, what positions would you recommend for me to really stimulate her?
It drives me wild when I get in a rhythm and she starts to make the little girlie pleasure moan "Unh...unh..". I want to bring sex to a whole new level with her.
I want her to enjoy sex as much as I do.
[QUOTE=Quote (kulaschula911 @ Feb. 10 2005,13:33)]...sounds like a perfectly average size anyway.
Forget the pills....[/QUOTE]
Has anyone out there had an experience with some sort of PE such as pills or exercise/massage techniques. I think it might help my sexual confidence if I did invest, besides if I could increase my size to about 6.5-7.5 in length and increase my girth as well. Wouldn't that just help our sex life? I talked it over with her and she agreed to stay active with me while I was doing the things so that we would know when to stop. I wouldn't want to get too big and end up hurting our sex lives. It may not be too big for someone else, but it may be too big for her...you know?
So just for the record what would be the ideal penis for you or in my case what would you say the girth should be if the length ended up being between 6.5 and 7.5?
Thanks.
Take a nice deep breath. It's more than likely *not* your size.
A lot (and by a lot I mean a lot) of women do not get off on just sex. Our most sensitive part down there is our clit. It is not located inside of us, and so most of us can't get off on sex alone.
So my suggestion is while you're doing that, try rubbing her clit at the same time and that will increase the sexual experience for her.
[QUOTE=lostinitall;120941]she wasn't sure if she ever had an orgasm because there was denfinitely more than what she was able to take herself to.QUOTE]
There are orgasms and there are [SIZE="6">orgasms![/SIZE] so she is probably right, but that doesn't mean she is'nt having one.
Also in respose to your original post, keep trying different things. different girls get turned on by different things and it sounds like you just havent found what works best for her. I would recomend trying the 'butterfly' possition as this is great for g-spot manipulation, altough it requires some upper body strength on your part.
don't worry you'll figure it out and when you do..... ;)
good luck!
Jim,
You have responded to a four year old post. Too bad you did not read the whole thread before posting.