I'm new here and just have a few questions. I've tried reading some of the other threads and have found some useful information on this topic but I just want to clear some things up.
Everytime I finger or eat my girlfriend out, she will push and kick me away as she's about to climax. This happens everytime I stimulate her clit. When I talk to her about it, she says that it's too intense for her. She then tells me she had a bunch of orgasms and what not. I just can't believe she is though. Is she really having these orgasms? If I finger her while she's "orgasming", right before she pushes me away, I don't feel any contraction inside the vagina. That's partly why I can't believe she is climaxing. Any ideas or help would be greatly appreciated.
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Your gf's feeling that she has to go pee means that she could ejactulate. I know this from experience me and bf were fooling around one night and i got this sudden urge to go pee but he told me it was fine and contined pretty soon i had this clear fluid coming out my urethra i did some research and found out that i had actually ejactulated. i hope this helps.
Sometimes, my girlfriend pulls me away from completely because she says she's ticklish. I'm not allowed to touch her breasts, caress her, and definitley can't get anywhere near her clit. But I don't think she's having powerful enough orgasms. I think she's having little, "covinient", "cute" orgasms and not the Big O. I feel like if I can get her to not push me away I can work past the ticklish and give her that earth shattering, toe curling, "the whole neighborhood heard you" orgasm. Or, maybe I should just extend the time before I push her all the way. She lets me play with her with her toys, finger her, eat her out and play with her clit so maybe extending this before I push her over the edge is better. What do you guys think? Which solution is the better one? Do you guys have any other ones? Thanks.
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im pretty sure the vagina expands as a woman gets aroused.
the vaginal canal is only like 3 inches long so it must expand to accept something bigger, like a penis.
so thats probably what you were feeling.
[QUOTE=Quote (WallyLlama @ June 04 2004,04:27)]Unless she's unsatisfied or complaining... why not just enjoy it!?[/QUOTE]
I just want to give her the best possible feeling ever.
The last time I fingered her, it went well. I took my time and tried some new things. She really enjoyed it but then she told me to stop cause she couldn't take it anymore. She said she felt like she had to go to the pee. So I told her that she may be close to an orgasm. I just started to kiss her and went down again. She went crazy and loved every second. As I was fingering her though, it felt as if her inside was actually expanding. It was kinda wierd. Does anyone know what this was or what was happening? I know she liked it though so I'm not complaining but more curious. Thanks.
[QUOTE=Quote (Roderick @ June 01 2004,23:39)]A dead "giveaway" which proves if a woman is faking her orgasms!
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Sometimes direct stimulation on the G-spot inside the vagina will make you feel like you have to pee. It's a pretty weird sensation. Yes, she should go pottie beforehand so she'll know she really doesn't have to pee. If you're rubbing her G-spot and it starts getting really intense it will feel like she needs to pee and the soles of her feet will feel a little funny. lol. At least this is what happens to me - like toe curling?? lol.
She may not have actually had a real orgasm if the point building up to it has been too intense. Obviously you are on the right path, but she may not even know if she has really had a full orgasm yet or not. A LOT of girls don't actually know what an orgasm feels like, so really good feelings leading up to it can sometimes be misinterpreted as orgasms. Does that make sense? Until you actually have the Big "O", then you're like "OMG, what the hell was that???" he he. Keep trying hon, but listen to her body and listen to her voice. If it's too much, be gentler, go slower, try some different ways of moving your hands, tongue, etc.. You may be giving her orgasms, but there is always room for improvement as well, if you're not really for sure she is honest or sure herself. Weird sentence.... Hope that made sense. Open communication, as always, is the key.
IMHO, there's absolutely no such thing as a "dead giveaway," although it makes great advertising copy and obviously does sell books.
Some of this orgasm stuff is about trusting your partner, you know? If she's telling you she's had "a bunch of orgasms and what not," why not just believe her and accept that? At some point it stops becoming about her orgasm and starts becoming about your lack of confidence in your self and lack of trust in her.
I think the women who've posted are making excellent points and it cums down to the fact that every woman (man too!) is unique and, to some extent, orgasms for that person will differ.
Unless she's unsatisfied or complaining... why not just enjoy it!?
A dead "giveaway" which proves if a woman is faking her orgasms!
Yes if a woman is having a great time it can be almost impossible for her to hide it!
But I don't want to give it all away because there is a book I want everone to read.
Why?
Because it rocks ...you know..the sort of book that just makes you want to get down!!
It's great in helping to understand a woman and how to please her. .......... (edited by moderator ... please do no post advertisements)
my gal has the same problem im going to try not going so direct on her clit nxt time! but she sez that even when she tries to masturbate it hurts
well if i were you i wouldn't worry about it too much.
if she's enjoying herself and saying she's having orgasms then whats to worry about?
if she's not orgasming then apparently she's content w/ that b/c she isn't letting you finish what you started.
and yes take the clit advice sometimes too much stimulation is more pain than pleasure.
That's an orgasm approaching! Tell her that it's normal, and that if she bares with it, she'll be having an intense orgasm soon! Make sure she goes to the toilet before it so her mind will know that it isn't urine.
[QUOTE=Quote (thetease13 @ May 27 2004,21:58)]well, if she's pushing you away before she climaxes, i don't think you be able to feel her contracting, as you actually contract during the climax and not before it. (or atleast i think so. someone feel free to correct me if i'm wrong.)[/QUOTE]
I meant at the time she is supposidely "orgasming", according to her, I never feel anything contract inside. I'll be fingering her at the same time she starts to push me away and still feel nothing contract. That's why I'm confused.
I'll try less direct stimulation on the clit next time. Any other ideas? Thanks.
Thanks for the advice.
Another reason why she pushes me away is because sometimes she says it feels like she has to pee. Do you have any thoughts about this? Is there anything we can do? Thanks.
I have to agree with tease direct clitoral stimaulation can some times be too much and even hurt. Try exploring around the clitoris more instead of spending time focused directly on the clitoris. This way she may not push you away, at least not as fast anyways.
well, if she's pushing you away before she climaxes, i don't think you be able to feel her contracting, as you actually contract during the climax and not before it. (or atleast i think so. someone feel free to correct me if i'm wrong.)
however, i think it also depends on the intensity of the orgasm. some are more powerful than others.
there are days when i merely just get wet and "leak" some fluid so to speak and then there are days when i contract a lot. but i know that both are forms of an orgasm. one is just less intense than the other.
and just a note: she may not be kidding when she says that it's too intense when you're stimulating her clit.
the clit is a very sensetive area. too much pressure or rubbing it or whatever in the wrong way can hurt. too much stimulation is not always a good thing either. it can be stimulated so much, and actually feel good, but it's just so much at once, that it actually hurts.